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7/15/10
Name: Roy Cronin
EMail: roycronin@mail2roy.com
Question: My x and I tried to get back together. We lived in the same house ( the kids with us ) Child suport Recovery says I still owe for that time frame (4) years. I found out she was cheating on me again, she moved out. with out telling me she moved over 150 miles away 2 years later. she has now moved again (in the same town she moved to) but will not tell me where or the address. she has refused for 5 years now to let me see the kids. The kids call me when they can, they get in a lot of trouble for it if they get caught. Does any one know what I can do? I can not afford a lawer! Child Suport does not leave me enough to live on, let alone get a lawyer. I can not pay all of my bills even. I really hope some one can tell me what my next move should be.
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7/14/10
Name:
EMail: summer.bevins@yahoo.com
Question: my boyfriend had his child kidnapped a while ago, but since finding the location of his child after years of searching has been in contact and has her for the summer this year, he never gave up parental rights but wants to seek custody of her, we know that the chances are slim to none but there has to be a way for him to regain full custody of his daughter can someone help please, she would be so much happier and healthier up here then with the mother.
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7/4/10
Name:
EMail: lavon.akil@gmail.com
Question: I currently have court ordered supervised visitations by a professional monitor stated on the court order. The mother and I both agreed to have a non professional monitor because I cannot afford a professional. The decision has been left up to the mother to provide and choose a monitor, but has been unreliable, and she does not give me the opportunity to choose a monitor. I have to comply with what the mother wants and if I do not do it her way, she denies me the right to see my daughter on the court ordered days. On the 26th, I am granted non supervised visitations with my daugher, but it has been said that if I do not see her on my supervised visitations, I will not be able to get my daughter on the 26th. What can I do to see my daughter if I cannot afford a professional, although we both agreed to a non professional after the order was made? If the mother keeps denying me the right to see my daughter on the court ordered days will it jeopardize me getting my daughter when the non supervised visits come into effect?
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6/13/10
Name: mike
EMail: majikmike1971@yahoo.com
Question: i recently changed jobs, i havent made any money yet, so i havent made any child support payments in 3 weeks, can my x keep my child from me, there is a court ordered visitation order in place
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5/25/10
Name: Trent
EMail: kattilac1@yahoo.com
Question: How do I get a child support case modified? I am forced to pay my ex $550 a month for my 5 year old every month. I have full custody of my daughter for one month in the summer time, and still have to pay her child support! I cannot afford it, as I have another daughter to feed, clothe, shelter and so on. How can I be made to pay her when I have my child? How can I pay for daycare when she doesnt help me, yet expects me to help her with the same issues every other month she has her???
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4/30/10
Name: Solis
EMail: lsilva1978@yahoo.com
Question: my girl friend is going through custody battle, when I was 18 I was convicted of a 261.c with my high school sweetheart, can a judge bring me in to my new girlfriends case and put restriction (stay away orders) if this case has nothing to do with me they just ran my background and saw I had that conviction. I love her kids like they were my own and I want to marry her but the cps asked for a stay away order so I had to move out and I cannot see her kids
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4/19/10
Name: Greg
EMail: gregoryoduncan@live.com
Question: I am a father and I need help, I have a 19 month old baby boy who lives with his mom who lives with her parents and she hasnt worked for over three years. She takes care of him but is also a full time student so he goes to daycare three days a week and she gets a lot of help from her parents, not me. I pay child support like a lot of single dads do and I work a Full time job AND go to school full time And spend time at the hospital for clinicals for my medical major. She tells me that if I want to see my son it has to be me driving there to see him there with her present. I dont want to keep doing that, I work my butt off to pay child support and make sure my son is well taken care of. I deserve to see my son more and be able to have some alone time with him. Please help me do this, who do i need to call, Im prepared to go to court, please help...
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4/14/10
Name:
EMail: peppermint-patty@att.net
Question: my 18 and half year son and his girlfriend who is 18 are living together with the baby they had who is one year old now. the baby was born when my son was 17 years old and the girlfriend was seventeen as well. my son has been with the girlfriend for two years and they have lived with us. But the girlfriends mother has claimed medicaid and food stamps for her daughter as if she is still living with her mother and is also claiming their baby has been receiving the Medicaid and food stamp benefits. We did not know this until we received a child support claim on my son six months ago. Being that he has been with the girlfriend and his baby for the entire time since the baby was born, how can the mother get away with this? the girlfriend is also helping her mother do it instead of helping my son and my son is not smart enough to realize what is happening. what can we do to protect our son from all this fraud?
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4/12/10
Name: DAVID
EMail: dlomas39@yahoo.com
Question: my ex and i have been divorced for close to 3 years now. i live in tx and my ex and my 2 boys which are 4 & 3 years old and live in new jersey. we have never been on good terms, but she allows me to visit them when i can. heres the real problem. im suppose to get them every summer for 42 days but she has not let me to take them back to tx so that they can be with me and their little sister that they love so much. she has threaten me that she will call the cops because i am harrassing her. im not harassing her, i just want to fight for my rights as a father, she does not allow me to speak to them on the phone, so i have to call my boys when she is at work. they are staying with her parents, her parents on the other hand do allow me to talk to them. i am suppose to go to new jersey in june. can i go to the local police so that they can enforce the decree? my only question is that its a divorce in tx and not in nj. will they acknowldge the decree and can i pick up my sons
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4/5/10
Name: FRED
EMail: FREDM@WTDSUPPLY.COM
Question: The state of Ca hes levied some of my bank accounts , for back child support , for a child that is 26 years old and not even mine, however my name was put on the birth cert, I was not even married to the women at the time, she then became pregnet 15 months latter....when I was told she was on birth control, surprise we then became married , I have paid child support til the kids where 18 years old, even on the one that was not mine because I did raise him as my own, we then devorced a few years later, and I never contested the fact that the boy was not mine, I just let it be because I was trying to do the right thing. Now after all these years CA wants $27,0000 AND they are putting levies on all my accounts. Any help advise would be helpfull. Thank you...
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3/24/10
Name:
EMail: dell81020@yahoo.com
Question: my wife is asking for me on top of paying child support to also pay half of our 3 daughters cheerleading costs, does this seem fair? i am already paying regular child support payments, and have since moved in with another woman and her 3 kids so i am somewhat strapped for cash. I dont really get to see my kids that often once every 2 wks, and i spend the rest of my time with my girlfriends kids, I almost would rather pay for their sports then my own kids! am i wrong does anyone feel the same as i do? I am still married to her 13 yrs now but her location is kept a secret, I have only even gone to two of my kids games due to work. Is me paying half for kids that i dont even see often right?
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3/20/10
Name: james shawn
EMail: rbyrd911@yahoo.com
Question: does any man have full custody of there children?its un heard of ive never known a man to get custtody...my ex girlfriend is trying to take my son away form me im in a dv class i have like 49 weeks left to go she is telling me if i dont do what she wants an just stay out of my sons life she will go to the courts or tell my probation officer that i am beating her i have prof that were never alone for these false accusations to take place i also have the texts messages from her to me on my cell phone stateing that she will do these things i want! no i need full custody of my son her home is not a safe place for my son her mother is a fomer drug addict to one of the worst drugs meth theres homeless people in and out of the house her mothers boyfried is a violent person yelling an beating her mother she never reports it no prof of that..can i get full custody of my son?
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3/17/10
Name: Mark Leckington
EMail: MSLeckington@Yahoo.com
Question: Back around 1998 my wife and I got a divorce. I received custody of my 3 children, (one who I adopted), because the Judge found the mother to be a unfit mother. In 2004 I was sentence to prison for 20 years for a crime I did not commit. The custody of my 3 children was turned over to their mother by DHS. After spending 22 months in prison the Iowa Supreme Court overturned my prison conviction and dropped all the charges against me and found that I was wrongfully Imprisoned. When I got out I had no rights to my children because DHS gave full custody of the children to her. Since then 2 of my daughters have moved out before they turned 18. One is currently 19 and the other is currently 17, also I have a son who is 15. My daughters came to live with me. The 19 year old moved in with me when she was 17 and moved away when she turned 18, but my 17 year old daughter has now been living with me since January 12th of this year. She will turn 18 on July 5th of this year. Since my 17 year old daughter has moved in with me, her mother will no longer allow me to see or talk with my son, so the last time I've seen him was on Christmas of 2009 and I was seeing him ever other weekend and I could see them every weekend if I wanted, which I tried to see them as much as I could but they live in Walcott, Iowa and I live in Maquoketa, Iowa about 45 miles away. I have always provided the transportation of my children to and from my their mothers house. My children want to live with me because they say their mother is crazy, which I did say the Judge at time of divorce did find her unfit. She has psychological problems, and does things like keep the kids home from school so she can go to concerts out of state or because she had to go grocery shopping or because she would have to go to court for no insurance tickets or other types of traffic violations. There was or still is a drug problem in her household where several years back the mom's boyfriend would steal the kids SSD money from the mother and use it for things like pot or crack cocaine. I don't believe this problem exists any more but my 17 year old daughter says it still may be going on. What I really would like to get help with is being able to see my son again!!! His mother has him convinced that if he doesn't see me that he can keep his phone and that she would pay for his World of Warcraft (which any more is his life). She does these things because she doesn't want him to get the idea of moving out on her too or she has this false impression that I will take custody of him away from her and she doesn't want to lose the Social Security income that she receives on them because I'm a disabled Dad. I've never harmed my children, I was wrongly Imprisoned, and my whole life evolved always around my children. As I said I'm a disabled Father, I don't have the finances to hire a lawyer and Help Legal Aid will not help me in this matter because they have helped my x-wife in the past and say it's a conflict of interest. I've turned my x-wife in to DHS on many accounts for things as unclean house, no windows in the home, drugs in the home, and the children living without heat or electricity because of unpaid bills. Each time DHS protects her and finds things unfounded even though some of the reports say that the mother says they don't do drugs but DHS did believe the boyfriend did but they didn't see how that would cause a impact on the children. Or her house would have all trash running through it and DHS would go to the door to investigate and it would be answered by one of the younger children and ask if a parent was around and the children would say no and the DHS worker would give them a card to have the parents call when they got home. My x would set up a apointment time with DHS to come and inspect the house and the kids would tell me how they would have to stay up for a couple of days straight cleaning the house and having to throw out 18 bags of garbage and how they would take half of them to a dumpster at a mall and drop some off and others they would hide on the side of the house, again DHS (which I talked closely with would say that they did believe the house was trashed, but the family would have it cleaned in a couple of days and if they could do that, then that shows that there was effort made. Well at that time there was a 3 year old and a 5 year old also living in the house, how can DHS say they know it was filth but seen no harm in the matter? What my feels are is that DHS didn't realize they turned the children over to a unfit mother and are covering their tracks by keep finding things unfounded...Just in the case of every window being broken out of the house for over 9 months and part of that was during the winter!!! Anyway, is there any way that I can get help with getting visitation of my son? I live on a very fixed income and now I also take care of my daughter too, and even when I did have custody of my children my x NEVER paid me a dime in child support because she would keep having kids in order not to work!!! I called Child Support today and they told me she still has a balance of $4000 she owes me and also she owes me for medical bills on the children because in our decree it was stated she was responsible for half of them and has never paid me but maybe once or twice in all the time that I had custody of the kids. Thank You, Mark S. Leckington
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3/13/10
Name: denise
EMail: denise_marie_mcintosh@yahoo.com
Question: i was married for 15 years had 5 great kids when i decided to leave him because of the beatings i have been taking care of then alone he can see then if he want calls visits all open yet he contiues to not want to pay any child surport should i continue to be exspected to do it all on my owen.....not even birthday cards nothing.. i need help
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3/13/10
Name: mike&denise
EMail: denise_marie_mcintosh@yahoo.com
Question: i was sent to prisen while i was serving my time my parents where helping take care of my kids and girlfriend well she ended up leaving in the middle of the night leave the state with my kids and when i got out all my parents could tell me is she left the state with my kids i pay my child surport every month i just want my rights to have my children in my life to........ how can i get the ball roling to atleast speak to my kids...please help
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3/10/10
Name: Myell
EMail: MFIGUEROA7@PARTNERS.ORG
Question: My sons mother get my child suport and spends it on her self. My child is not seeing any of his money. Also my step daughter,with the same women, just got $5G in owed back child Suport. She gave her daaughter $200 and spent the rest on a car and a trip out of state.Her daughter moved out 6 months ago due to the mental and verbal abuse in the house. My question is this. 1. The daughter wants to sue for her money, can she? 2. What can I do to make sure the money goes to the kids and not the mother.
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3/9/10
Name: Paul Squires
EMail: pdog615@gmail.com
Question: My ex ife has had drug and mental problems for the past couple yers & have recently increased..Has been takin to the State Mental Hospital tice in the past month..She as found unconceice 3 days ago ith pills stuck in her mouth barley breathing..Also as found as a snorting straw..She as taken to the ER & then back to the Tennesse state Mental Hospital & is still there..I have had our 5 yr old son for the past couple mths..I just need help on how to get custody, at least emergency or temporary..He is NOT safe around her at all.Every lawyer wants 2 or 3 grand just to start..I don't have that kind of money...what is the 1st step?Where do I start?Planning on going to the court in the morning but would really like to be prepared n no what I need to expext or need to have..Please Help Me..
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3/2/10
Name: deatris
EMail: hdeatris@yahoo.com
Question: the mother sign off her right to the kids to her parents how has custody me or her parent. this not what want
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2/27/10
Name: Rudy
EMail: gutiern2@live.com
Question: I am going through a seperation, my wife and we have a 1 yr old daughter together. Neither one of us has filed for Divorce yet, however that is very near. My wife wants to relocte to another city that is 3 hours away from our home. What rights do I have as a father to put a stop to this?..I still want to be a father to my daughter, but my wife keeps dangling this over my head. I talked to a Lawyer and he said that there is nothing that i can do if she wants to leave...this dose not seem right to me though...any help would be greatly appriciated.
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2/24/10
Name:
EMail: kody_m_mclaughlin@yahoo.com
Question: I wanted to take my kids on vacation however, the mother is a control freak and threatening me if I take them out of state that she will call the cops and say I kidnapped them. How crazy is that, I want to do something fun and exciting for my kids and all she can think about is calling the police on me. I just wanted to know if anyone knows what I have to do to be "allowed" to take my kids on vacation. Do I have to file anythign with the court? Please email me (kody_m_mclaughlin@yahoo.com) if you have the answer.. Thanks
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2/15/10
Name: louis
EMail: tousleyl@yahoo.com
Question: my question is..my ex e mailed me today and proceeded to tell me her boyfriend and my daughter almost got into a physical altercation. then she proceeds to tell me that hes is becoming more abusive and is afraid he is going to get violent with the children...he does drugs and doesn't work..she says shes stuck and unknown to me why shes stuck with him... i dunno what to do to keep my kids safe? she says its just a matter of time before he gets violent...plz help
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2/8/10
Name: Nik
EMail: nickbelsham@yahoo.co.uk
Question: Hi, i was just woundering how long my ex patner can take out daughter out of the country for at any 1 time, she wants to take our daughter to turkey for 5 weeks in the summer holidays, but i dont really want her to go for that long. i have my daughter every other weekend and always pay her mother ontime, we usally get on but at times theres no resoning with her. what should i do? cheers
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2/5/10
Name:
EMail: jndambrosia@aol.com
Question: my daughter is 12, her mom & i never were married and never went to court for visitation because she and i always agreed i would have my rights however she married and now her and her husband stated i can't see or talk to my daughter. the mom said to me that i have no rights to our daughter. i can't afford a lawyer but i want to fight for my rights and visitation. i live in florida clay county and i need to know what to do and what paperwork i need to file for visitation
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2/4/10
Name: Erod
EMail: Errodriguez58@yahoo.com
Question: I'm currently beginning a divorce. I need some help in knowing roughly what my child support payments are going to look like and if there are anyways of lowering the amount I gotta give. For example, increasing what I give into my 401k, or having other kinds of payroll deductions which decrease my net pay?! I also need to know if it even works that way, or do I have to give a certain amount no matter what I get paid. I have 2 kids that I have absolutely no problem supporting but moms hi maintenance, loves getting her hair, nails, and all that kinda stuff done and I know that my hard earned money will go to that instead of my kids! Ok fathers, I need your help.... Sent on the Sprint� Now Network from my BlackBerry�
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2/1/10
Name: Nick
EMail: nick@pacifichac.com
Question: At what age can a child make his own mind on which parent he wants to be with.
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1/18/10
Name: Father of 7
EMail: dwssoc@cableone.net
Question: We live in Az. My fiances' 2 children go to see their bio-father every Weds night & every other weekend. It never fails they come back smelling like trash & swear they did not get a bath all weekend. They come back with the same panties & underwear that they left in on Friday night. (they are ages 2 & 5) Their bio-father will not talk about it as he feels we are trying to cause "drama" when in reality we just would like the kids taken care of while they are with him. I hate to say it but it seems like they are "trophy kids" to him. Takes them around to friends houses to show off when in reality he is only being a father 8 days a month! He tells everyone that he loves to call him all the time but he has only called maybe 5 times in the last 2 years! Any body have any ideas of what to do here???
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1/16/10
Name:
EMail: Hammerman53@ameritech.net
Question: My ex and I had a baby 3 years ago feb, 2nd, I filed for divorce 2 and a half yrs. ago finally 2 months we had our divorce after $20,000 dollars later for me getting as much visitation as I could, Not enough but as much as I could get her in Chicaco. She has falsely accused me of lots of things, She is a very big Narsistic lady. Yesterday I met her halfway to pick up my baby, She accused me of drinking. I told her to call the police, so she did, 4 police cars showed up. I blew the breath test and it came up 00000000 as when I have my daughter it is always 000000 What can I do without getting a lawyer and spending more money that I don't have. I am very tired of her being so nasty and trying to ruin my life with our daughter. I have a doughter 29 and 25 and the new one which is gonna be 3. I had my other daughters since they were o the 7th grade, I hope that soon or at least when she is old enough to make the decission that I will have custody of her. sick and tired of someone trying to kill me in everyway her narsistic behavior drags her, And believe me it drags her,
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1/14/10
Name: Gary
EMail: febe4415@aol.com
Question: I am married.The county I live in has a table in the back of the court room that the mother and father has to go to.I am wondering why my wife can't come back there with me when she has just as much right to hear what we are talking about.I want to know what to do.
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1/11/10
Name: jeff
EMail: jeff2472579@hotmail.com
Question: how do you you deal with the mother of my child always wanting to fight
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1/10/10
Name: Brian
EMail: bwatx1@netzero.com
Question: Hello all...my girlfriend and I have a two year old child in common with each other. Iam the only one working in our home and pay all the bills. The residence is also leased to me but yet she has a 10 year old child from a previous relationship that his father pays nothing on in child support but yet she allows her son that i financially care for in every sense to talk to me and treat me like a piece of trash in my own home,most of the time in front of my 2 year old son. Recently she and I have split up over this and she is now refusing to let me see my son because I dont kiss her sons butt and allow him to do whatever he likes in my own home,but it seems that even though I am the legal paternal father to my 2 year old son that she as his mother can just get away with basically (kidnapping) him and talking of taking him away to another state 6 hours away.......ive been told that I need to file an emergency custody order but unfortunately im not in a position to be able to hire a lawyer.Is there anyone that could help steer me in the right direction,or that is going through something similiar?????
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12/12/09
Name:
EMail: folkbossmac@yahoo.com
Question: all i want is to put myself on childs support, how can i do that being the father??????
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12/11/09
Name: Jaydee Ruiz
EMail: druiz6981@yahoo.com
Question: My ex- wife Angela Graves/ Ruiz/ Youmans/ Hicks who is so Felony Probation for two counts of Forgery, and has not had custody of either child since 2003 decided to stage a home for DHS with her two children one being mine and she mananged to obtain Food Stamps AND Tenncare on herself and the children, lied and said both of us gave her these children back.She managed to stop the current child support case I had against her and open one in Trenton, Tn where she claims she has been living and also at the child support agency her sister Regina Steel is employed at all based on her lies, no court papers to support any of this. I received papers to be back in court to stop my child support case in Obion County. My wife and I had to take money out of our pocket and our kids mouths to go to court and have all of that stopped. We then along with her other childs father reported her to Office of General Inspectors for the fraud. They told us all to sign affadavits against my ex-wife and they had alot of evidence against her and that she was being indicted by the grand jury. Well, they lied also, she was never arrested or charged with the crime she was only mailed a letter to repay the money.Therefore, her probation cannot be violated for the crimes she has committed either.Can I and the other father hire an attorney and take her to criminal for this especially making these children lie to DHS. What can be done?
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12/10/09
Name:
EMail: greggordon2005@yahoo.com
Question: My exwife got half of my CalPers retirement (she recieved 52000.00)and she opted to recieve one lump sum instead of waiting until I was eligible for retirement. I know she has to include it as income, but can I claim it as a deduction on my taxes like alimony. Please let me know if anyone knows this or has a website I can find it. Thanks
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12/10/09
Name: Jacob Bradley
EMail: rbrad2@bellsouth.net
Question: My wife and I are divorced. She just remarried. We have a daughter, my address is her primary address, I carry health insurance on my daughter. Stepfather wants to put daughter on his insurance too. Is that legal and what kinds of problems could this cause regarding custody in the future?
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12/10/09
Name:
EMail: vinsentmamman@yahoo.com
Question: i have a 11 month old son who's mothers will not let me take care of or see him. this is because she feels she should make all the decisition, me & her are not together & she has another child from a different relationship. i work a full time job to support my son and currently pay $809 in support and have medical for him, through my job also and i am not in any arrearage in support. she work part time and has my son in daycare full time. i got a dna test for my son that was not court admissable and signed the acknowlgment of paturnity form that would have put my name on the birth certificate but she never sent it in. i have filed for custody of my son. me & the mother are not married, my rights have clearly been violated, do you have any more advise for me.
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12/9/09
Name:
EMail: lilmama2132@yahoo.com
Question: I need major help my husband has been ordeed topay child support. It is currently at 651.00 per month he only brings home 700 every to weeks he has 3 kids living in the home who we pay daycare for at 500 per month i go to school during the day or they would be at home. He presented to the judge all the right paper work ant the Judge told him that he did not care that he wasnt going to do anything about it. What is it that we need to do next cause after support and daycare he has 30 to take care of a family of 5 which is impossible in this world
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11/29/09
Name:
EMail: emarisc99@yahoo.com
Question: after divorce can a juge make me pay for private school for my kids we divorce becouse we cannot afford private schools and she could not accept it
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11/27/09
Name: Miles Rogers
EMail: milo71@frontiernet.net
Question: Hello. I have paid about $6000 in medical, dental and vision expenses for my 2 kids. Their mother is responsible for half. What is the best way to collect? She is already far behind in child support. Thanks!
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11/26/09
Name:
EMail: chas1horse@yahoo.com
Question: I have 2 sons 19 & 17(18 in March). the oldest has not lived at home since he was 17, he also lived with me for 3 years when he was 13,14,15. I paid support on both even when he lived with me. The youngest also lived with me for 1 yr before that. Now my ex still wants me to continue to pay support on both kids and pay back support( only about 300). what options do I have to reduce my support or stop it altogether?
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11/15/09
Name:
EMail: katsfan90@hotmail.com
Question: I am divorced and my daughter moved out of her mothers house and in with her older sister,the support check is still going to the mother and my daughter is not getting any of it.I contacted child support and they told me there is nothing I can do.They said that her sister which she lives with now must apply for support.But she wont because her mother said if she does she will not let them see their younger sister.(which is not mine)My daughter will turn 18 in Feb and will be going to college.I dont have a problem paying the support,but I dont think its right that none of it is going to my daughter.I hope when she turns 18 that i will no longer have to pay,because in the divorce degree it states if she is in college the support will continue.I have not enough money for a lawyer to fight anything.Im so angry that my ex-wife is doing this to my daughter,she says if she trys to get the support she will no longer see her little sister.Im tired of paying support for my daughter when its not even going for her for anything!My exwife in my eyes is comitting fraud.I dont understand why child support doesnt look into this!Ive told them whats going on,Please help me,Thank you,A.J.
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11/5/09
Name:
EMail: find.tasha@yahoo.com
Question: My now husband is looking for his daughter. His ex has moved atleast 10 times in 10 years. She was fine and then once he married, she refused him to see his daughter. He is a great dad and is torn without her. Every address we find is a dead end. What can we do? Her name is Tasha Herron and she's last known to live in Pontiac Michigan. Her father (Fred Herron) moved to Florida years ago and is trying make contact with her. Her mothers name is Christina Ramos. We are having a hard time locating any information and do not have the funds to hire any professional help. If anyone knows Tasha, please tell her that her father, Fred has been searching for her and misses her dearly and to please contact him. Please send any info by replying to this post or also you can email at find.tasha@yahoo.com. Additional Details Her birthday is January 6th, 1994. I have looked on facebook as well as myspace without any luck. I did recieve a phone number through a search but there is a language barrier with with the party answering. They did not speak any english and the conversation ended. I have checked all the addresses I found on whitepages, but they are no longer living there. Christina Ramos mothers name is Deborah A. Ramos. Christina birthday is April 3rd, 1976.
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11/5/09
Name:
EMail: find.tasha@yahoo.com
Question: Her name is Tasha Herron and she's last known to live in Pontiac Michigan. Her father (Fred Herron) moved to Florida years ago and is trying make contact with her. Her mothers name is Christina Ramos. We are having a hard time locating any information and do not have the funds to hire any professional help. If anyone knows Tasha, please tell her that her father, Fred has been searching for her and misses her dearly and to please contact him. Please send any info by replying to this post or also you can email at find.tasha@yahoo.com. Additional Details Her birthday is January 6th, 1994. Christina birthday is April 3rd, 1976. I have looked on facebook as well as myspace without any luck. I did recieve a phone number through a search but there is a language barrier with with the party answering. They did not speak any english and the conversation ended. I have checked all the addresses I found on whitepages, but they are no longer living there. Christina Ramos mothers name is Deborah A. Ramos.
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11/5/09
Name:
EMail: find.tasha@yahoo.com
Question: I am looking for his daughter. My ex-girlfriend has moved atleast 10 times in 10 years. She was fine and then once I married, she refused me to see his daughter. I am great dad and is torn without her. Every address we find is a dead end. What can we do? Her name is Tasha Herron and she's last known to live in Pontiac Michigan. Her father (Fred Herron) moved to Florida years ago and is trying make contact with her. Her mothers name is Christina Ramos. We are having a hard time locating any information and do not have the funds to hire any professional help. If anyone knows Tasha, please tell her that her father, Fred has been searching for her and misses her dearly and to please contact him. Please send any info by replying to this post or also you can email at find.tasha@yahoo.com. Additional Details Her birthday is January 6th, 1994. I have looked on facebook as well as myspace without any luck. I did recieve a phone number through a search but there is a language barrier with with the party answering. They did not speak any english and the conversation ended. I have checked all the addresses I found on whitepages, but they are no longer living there. Christina Ramos mothers name is Deborah A. Ramos. Christina birthday is April 3rd, 1976.
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10/23/09
Name:
EMail: skemp64@yahoo.com
Question: In Texas, I am not married to the mother of my daughter. We have had a paternity test so I know she is mine. What if my girlfriend is thinking of moving out of State. How can I ensure she can't take my daughter. We currently live together (10 Months) and its complicated.
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10/14/09
Name: Christopher
EMail: devlship@yahoo.com
Question: I have received a letter from Domestic Relations Office in PA stating that I need to move my case to FL where I live. I attend class full time and I have a wife and 2 children with her. My 3rd. child lives in NJ with her mother and step-daddy. PA said after Nov. 22 they will reset my support balance to zero. What is going on, and how will this affect my future relations with my daughter? Will the come after me and assess me with a lump sum after I get my degree?
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10/5/09
Name: raymond
EMail: r_gallego1@yahoo.com
Question: I need to get costudy of my kids but they are in the hands of the maternal grandmother who has guadianship over the kids when the mom passed. the entire family are liars and will do anything to keep these kids. what do I do? Should get legal help?
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10/5/09
Name:
EMail: colorguard_4u@hotmail.com
Question: My girlfriend and I were wondering how child support works? Do I have to pay child support if we're married? If we're not married but live together, do I still need to pay child support?
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10/3/09
Name: aarum
EMail: aarumbryant@ymail.com
Question: i live in philadelphia and the child that i think is mine lives in atlanta neither of us can afford to travel right now but i need a pernity test to know if the child is mine before i continue to support him
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9/29/09
Name: robert
EMail: heraens365@yahoo.cm
Question: i live in texas and my common law wife dissapeared with our 5 year old son. she also filled abuse charges against me even though i havent abused her ever. she also took my name off the parents list at his school.now i belive she is in a womens shelter. this isint the first time she has done this . about a year ago she did the same thing and was gone for 3 months. when she came back she said she did it for fun and to hurt me.i started divorce papers against her but dropped them when she came back. this time ive contacted a lawyer and he says do the same thin divorce. i am going to follow thru this time but i cant find her to have her served. i think she has a mental problem bipolar or something like that. i also am afraid of what she might do to my kid. the local police departments wont help or take a report because they say i am being investigated for abuse so im stuck. any body out there think they can help or give ideas?
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9/29/09
Name: Shawn
EMail: sengaro_reiko@yahoo.com
Question: i am in the active army, before i when active i had a gf that i had left because it seemed she was dragging me down, after a couple of months being active she comes at me saying thats she pregnate and now being close to the end of my deployment she keeps pestering me abt child support, and her new husband of which got married after four months of me leaving her is also getting in this claiming that he knows that i am getting extra money for the child and saying there gunna sue me for child support and all this other bs, and my ex is telling me that it would be better if the child didnt know me but they dont even know if the child is mine can some one please help me???
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9/28/09
Name:
EMail: richard_lm_hite@yahoo.com
Question: My ex and I had a baby in high school. We were never married, but I pay her a third of my pay in child support every week. Our little boy is two now, and I still have to fight her for my rights sometimes. I get him alot more than I used to, but I want to take him on vacation and she isn't going to let me. Last year she took him on a cruise for vacation. He is my kid too, so why don't I have that right? She also recently told me that she is thinking about moving to TX, we currently live in OH. Is she aloud to do that? I tried to establish my rights in court with a judge, but the judge didn't even consider my attempt. According the research I've done, I have no rights as a father unless the court establishes them because we were never married. Someone please make my day and tell me this unfair reasoning is not true!! I don't get him for the holidays, I don't get him for vacation, I don't get to see him unless she says I can basically. I am trying to do the right thing as a father here, but no one wants to let me do that. Any advice??
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9/22/09
Name: al
EMail: charles.reyes84@yahoo.com.ph
Question: how to edit my question I post online?and the email address? I type the wrong email add while chatting to my friend....above is my email addres Thanks, Charles Canada
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9/22/09
Name: al
EMail: happy_gurl26@yahoo.com.ph
Question: Hi there, i would like to ask an advice regarding my situation with my ex live-in partner. I had my ex live in partner ( i could say live in partner as we are not married ) we lived for 6 years and we separated for almost a year and half but i have 3 kids with her. We broke up because she wanted to work on a bar and to have an affair with another or different guy. Actually she told me she want to go home to their hometown, i did not allow her since we are working together. While im at work somebody told me that she is not in the house anymore. She leave us with her daughter and our two children is with her mom...After a few months i heard she is working on a bar and having an affair with different guy. So i decided not to go back and end our relationship. I want to live a normal life so i decided to get married with my new girl.. We are leaving together now. ( she has her husband too, my ex partner) But until now she kept on pestering us, she kept on sending sms and badwords even to my partner. which is not good. But because my partner doesnt want to step down on her level she ignore it. Second, she want me to support a child. Now my decision is, I want to support my child just in my place and she can also support the two since she is the one who brought her life on hell. Now my question is: She has the right to disturb us just to ask a support for my child and to threw bad words to my partner? Is my decision to choose on which child i must give a support is considered? Note: if ever i will give my support not only the child who will benefit, whole her family will enjoy..That is the reason why Im also thinking not to give my support. Hope to hear from you soon..thanks and godbless
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9/16/09
Name: Ricky
EMail: rjw5148@yahoo.com
Question: I haven't seen my two daughters (15, 16 years of age) for about a year and two months. This was due to their trying to get me in trouble with the law: calling 911 on me while on vacation. this has been happening for about 10 years, and I have had to resort to much legal action. My ex-wife has Munchausen Syndrome, also, and has been found for mental abuse. My attorneys told me not to see them anymore because they could lie and get me arrested for abuse. So what should I do?
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9/15/09
Name: Douglas
EMail: dcaulner24@yahoo.com
Question: My son wishes to move in with me, His mother isn't allowing it. What are my options?
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9/11/09
Name: Ricky
EMail: ray92796@yahoo.com
Question: Im currently paying my wife alimony due to my having an affair which resulted in me having a kid. She is now pregnant my another man who is married himself. Do I have to continue to pay her alimony now that she is pregnant by another man. Im confused, I feel if shes pregnant by another man then its his obligation to take care of her financially now. Am I wrong?
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9/10/09
Name:
EMail: jasnang01@yahoo.com
Question: I live in ohio and had a very bad divorce.I am supost to see my kids every tuesday,thursday & every other weekend but my x-wife had me arrested and I was charged with stalking even though I was supost to pick our kids up were I was & child indangering because she said I tried to run her off the road with our kids in the car wich isn't true.They were going to make my 10year old daughter testify and as a dad I didn't feel it was right so I took a plea bargain and got probation,but now the court say's I can't see my kids because I pled to child indangaring even though my lawyer said it wouldn't affect it.Is there anything I can do about this and at what age is it up to my daughter's to decide who they want to live with they are 10 & 6? There mom always leaves them with there grandma and she whips them and cusses at them like there grown.
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9/10/09
Name: joseph figueroa
EMail: joe_r_figueroa@yahoo.com
Question: can someone tell me how to get statistics of fathers who choose not to be a part of their childrens life, versus fathers who want to be and due to the legal systems delays are not allowed.
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8/31/09
Name: richard
EMail: tovarr64@gmail.com
Question: my son is in a common law marriage does he have equal rights to there daughter? does he have to get special permission from a court to just go and get his daughter if he and his common law wife are not divorced?
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8/26/09
Name:
EMail: girlinrecovery04@yahoo.com
Question: where do i go to find out what rights i have to my children me and their mom are seperated and she wont let me see them or know where they live just want my rights to be known
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8/26/09
Name:
EMail: dcg0587@yahoo.com
Question: I am an unemployed 18 year old living in Michigan. Last year I got my then girlfriend pregnant with twins. Well when she gave birth she didnt let me sign the birth certificates. Now we are no longer together and seeing other people. She will not let me see my babies. I dont have a job or anything and it has been dificult to find work with my record. I want to do right by my babies and see them and take care of them. I am lookin for work right now, but I want to know if there is any way to force her to let me see the children?
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8/25/09
Name:
EMail: ppoi491210@yahoo.com
Question: I have full physical and joint legal. When the order was commenced the other parent lived in Colorado, myself in Michigan. I have kids in Florida and now want to move there, am I correct in saying that according to the 100 mile rule I can move because we were already that distance when the order was put in place. Can I just move or do I still have to go through all the BS of having the order modified.
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8/25/09
Name:
EMail: aallen@c4fc.org
Question: How can I get full custody of my daughter.. Mom is a loser and will not let me see her. I pay child support, but she gets govt assistance and subsidized housing. She always calls me for extra stuff and she never has the baby. She pushes her off on family for months at a timee and she isn't a year old. What can I do???? I would take her, but how do I start this process of getting custody?
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8/24/09
Name: Henry Massingale
EMail: tnwarlord1@yahoo.com
Question: I moved from Tennessee to Florida,because Lisa asked me to,because of her dad,I have not been allowed to see my twin girls for about a year.Is it allowed by law,to use the children as a form of punishment ? I have found it to be the most crule and empty thing that one could do to another.Somehow through the Courts and Child Support the concept that a father dose not have the internal feelings as a woman dose.I miss my family and I have cried for them through this empty year.
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8/13/09
Name:
EMail: jo_rae2003@yahoo.com
Question: Im getting a divorce from my wife. She was pregnant with my daughter, but after she was born, my wife told me she wasnt mine. i took a preterity test and found out im not the father. my name is on her birth certificate. my wife is engaged to someone else and caring that persons baby. how can i prove get the court to make her take a blood test to prove shes pregnant, and got pregnant a month after she moved out? and is there any way she can make me pay child support on the 1st kid?
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8/11/09
Name: stressed and confused
EMail: kingspadeshan@yahoo.com
Question: I need advice on how to talk to my 14 year old son whom I have not seen or talked to since he was about 8 months old. He recently sent my wife a message on myspace saying i owe him 14 bday presents. Thats all he said....dont know what to do now........please someone help me
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8/5/09
Name: William
EMail: william@everythingandanything.net
Question: I have recently obtained full custody and joint legal custody with saying that I also am planning to move will this legal standpoint support me leaving state as I have not signed the order yet. I do not want to go back to court again. (In reference to Michigan State Laws) In retrospect the question is with full physical and joint legal custody can I move without going back to court.
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7/30/09
Name:
EMail: rsboydston@gmail.com
Question: I have an issue with relating to my teenage daughter. She has lied to me many times in the past to the point I really disbelieve most of what she says. She is not a bad child however. I have to get on to her about doing stuff that is asked of her but she never forgets to do anything she wants to do like her hair. I cannot stand the way she dresses, most is too tight or too revealing. She often wears the same clothes for days. I ask her to change her clothes and she does. However, whe will go back and do it all over again a few days later. I cannot understand her fascination with wanting to dress and wear her hair like everyone else. I really cannot relate to this type of behavior. This stuff is really hampering my relationship with her. My other daughter I can relate to more since as of now she is not into being a "girly girl" with the hair and make up and wearing a particular name brand just because. Is this a normal struggle dealing with this stuff for other dads? Any advice to help relate to this?
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7/30/09
Name: dan
EMail: mizsheli71@wavcable.com
Question: I am 19 and have been court ordered to do an age appropriate parenting class, my daughter is 8 months old, anyone know of an online class for me that covers this age?
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7/30/09
Name: sheldon
EMail: bombayismine@gmail.com
Question: i have a case conference in Toronto in mid Aug.i just happen to know by my lawyer that my ex-wife lawyer is not returning to any of his call ,what if on the date of the case conference she doesn't show up then what happens we have been separated for 7 years now.what are my chances we have 2 kids in this case who decides who haves the kid or the child support
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7/28/09
Name: HH
EMail: shelly.haynes@ozarkguidance.org
Question: I have been divorced for 13 years. I have two daughters one is 20 and the other is about to be 16. I am still helping my oldest with "child support" (Im helping with college) My 16 year old is very active in sports etc. But, I live 10 hours away from them and it's getting really hard to see them now because of all their activities. I try to work around their schedule as much as possible I would never take them away from their activities. But, now they are starting to say they don't want to come for their summer vacation or their Christmas vacation here with me because they don't want to miss boyfriends and things like that. The ex wife is backing them on this, but our divorce decree says I get to see them at these times. I love them and miss them very much and I don't know how to handle this. My wife and I have went several times to their area and had Christmas in a hotel instead of having it at our house when we are suppose to have them and we even spent my summer vacation there with them instead of them coming to our house, but now they are saying they don't want to come for Thanksgiving because Mike (my oldest boyfriend) is in town or Jimmy (my youngests boyfriend) asked me to spend it with his family, for heavens sake she is 16!!! I don't agree with this and feel I still have my rights to see them, if it was school related I can understand but not this. I know they are teenagers, but I would expect their mom to back me up on these things, but she just says I need to work around their schedule and the things they want to do. Any suggestions????
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7/17/09
Name: chillywilly
EMail: russellpreciado@att.net
Question: My ex and i have a divorce case pending. In it I have physical and share legal custody. The judge hasn't finalized it. Can she take the kids out of state (oregon)?
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7/7/09
Name: andy
EMail: andy31clark@hotmail.co.uk
Question: if i am not on the birth certificate but i am paying csa and under scottishe law am i entitled or do i have any rights to see my child?
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7/7/09
Name:
EMail: hotswheels2001@yahoo.com
Question: are there any online places that i can get legal forms for filing to get visitation rights to see my daughter, she is 9 and her mother is denying me the right to see her. child support has been in order and is being paid
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6/20/09
Name: Jim
EMail: seiuorg399@hotmail.com
Question: I have a question, I have been reading through a lot of the questions and it seems all of them are around broken marriages, child support and custody. Is this what being a father, in a marriage and having kids has come to in our society? I am 29, been married for 5 years, in a loving relationship for 10 and we are having our first child. I lost my job, found another one and have had my share of difficulties, but it seems like most relationships do not last and battles come to be about custody and control. What kind of fathers can we be if all we concentrate on are these questions? Where do men go to hear about how to have an emotionally deep relationship with their son/daughter, how to balance the demands of work, family, relationship, how to develop a child that is full of intellectual curiosity and wonder, how to protect your children from the banalities of life for as long as you can, how to become a man and not a stereotype? Are people on this site interested in these questions? Or am I just some sort of dreamer?
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6/16/09
Name:
EMail: jakeweeks@yahoo.com
Question: I am a soon to be single parent. I have to childeren 12 and 15. We just moved to VA from TN in Feb. 2009 to find better jobs. My wife was only working part time as a nurse, I was full time Manager for a big company for the past 11 years. With the economic down turn my company, like a lot of companies, started cutting back and the first thing to cut was upper managers so I was laid off and was gave a pat on the back and a severence package and was told good luck. So I looked for work in a small town for 3 months with no luck. Was getting behind on all the bills coming in and we desided to do the big NO,NO and closed out my 401. Not long after that my wife lost her job. She had been wanting to move somewhere els for sometime and so we made the big move to VA. She was told by some friends we had there that there was all kind of work in the VA aera. We started looking for jobs in Jan. 2009. My wife found a job pretty quick being a lic. nurse. I went back to TN to put the house up for sale and to pack everything up for the big move. With the kids moved to my mothers house to finish the school year, I loaded up the truck and headed out. Well not long after I got there a few weeks my wife tells me she lost her new job. Geat know we are 1200 miles away from home and she lost her job. I wanted to go back to TN with my kids and find some work around home the kids didn't want to move anyway but my wife wanted to be away from her disfunctional family and to be close to her friends that we have know for years. In TN we did have my very supportive family at least. My wife said we will be okay we still have some of your 401 in the bank to live on for awhile and this was going to be a new start for us. So we stayed, well she got another job offered to her for what she was making at the last job and turn it down. I could not beleive she did that. I had a few interviews but nothing came from them. I have been looking at everything even part time work. There are good jobs here but not for someone with only a high school deploma. Well anoter month went by and my wife wanted to do is to get together with our friends on the weekends and have fun and drink. Well the 401 was gone and now we were living on my unemployment thats what was getting us buy. When she got a call from the hospital about a job that would pay her pretty good she took the job. So now she the bread winner witch I am glad she finely got a job that she can makereal good money at. The only thing is now she tells me she can make it without me because she has her dream job and I don't have a job and no savings and she don't need me anymore. So my problems are just beganing. I will be moving back to TN to work. My 15 year old wants to go with me what can I do? Do I let her go with me? She is real involed in her school and friends in TN. She on the Basketball team, Softball team. She want to grad. with her friends of many years. She didn't want to move. What can I do? Please does anyone have any advice.
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6/8/09
Name: Worry Dad
EMail: jkahuna@cox.net
Question: I live in the state of Nevada, my ex wife and two daugthers 9 and 7 live in washington state, she just told me that she is putting together a living will and on it she will be stating that the girls are to go to her sister if something happens to her. She has full physical custody, but we have joint legal custody. Can she just do that without my consent? I love my kids with all my heart, I pay child support every paycheck, I also have them with me for a few weeks every summer, I talk to them several times a week and always send them gifts for especial ocassions. I'm not a dead beat and I feel that I should get my kids if something was to happen to her. Do I get them regardless of what her will says? what do I need to do right now to plan for the future? Thank you all for your input
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6/7/09
Name: Mike
EMail: xbigman13@yahoo.com
Question: I really need some advice. I live in Florida and have 2 children (they are 3 and 6) who reside with their mother. We went to court in Sept. 2007 and she was given primary custody. I did counter petition but my petition was not addressed one time. I see my children every other weekend and alternate holidays. The problem is that I am sure that her current boyfriend is abusing my children and nobody will listen to me. The first incident was in November 2007, the baby was only about 26 months at the time and covered in bruises. We notified the local police and contacted DCF. They sent an investigator out to her home. The problem is that not only do we live in 2 different counties, we live in 2 different jurisdictional districts. Even though local authorities found probable cause for suspected abuse the case was closed with no cause for concern. Next, we were told by my 4 year old daughter at the time that her brother was playing with lit candles and dumped hot wax all over the kitchen floor. She also told us that he "went in mommy's purse and dumped medicine all over the carpet" and that he was outside playing by himself while mommy was sleeping ( he was barely 2). About 8 months later July 2008, the bruises were back and there was no question that they were perfect handprints, you could see the ridges from the thumbprint on his inner thigh. Again, DCF was called and again local authorities found reasonable cause but case was unfounded when home visit was done. In October 2008 my then 5 year old daughter told me that her brother "touched the guns that were under mommy's bed". She also told us that Bubba (mom's boyfriend) wakes up the baby by shooting him in the face with a water gun. Once again a report was filed. An investigation was done and this time I want to quote the report from the intake worker "Upon commencement of investigation, guns were found in the master bedroom of the home. Some of the guns were fully loaded and per the Deputy were not properly secured. The paramour was informed to unload the guns and secure them properly. He has a criminal history of Aggravated Assault with weapon- without intent to kill 2004- this was nolle prossed. Case was closed with some indicators of threatened harm. Loaded guns were found in the home. CPI and deputy were met at the door by the mother's paramour and he was holding a loaded gun at the time. He stated that he has the guns to protect his property and that he is a strong believer in his right to bear arms. Guns were found by the bed and around the master bedroom. The mother and her paramour were instructed how to secure the guns properly due to having small children in the house. They agreed to remove the guns until a locked cabinet was obtained." My daughter has informed me that it has not happened, the guns are still there and that now they have one on the floor of the explorer between the front and back seats. And if that was not enough just this weekend my youngest son, who is now 3 bent over and told his 6 year old brother to "stick your finger up my butt". His sister told me that he drinks beer with Bubba all the time and that she doesn't drink it because she doesn't like it. If you ask him he will tell you that he drinks "Bud Light". My children beg me not to send them home every Sunday. They tell me that Bubba spanks them all the time and my son wakes up screaming in terror in the middle of the night. Their mother has moved them 10 times in 2 years. She leaves the boyfriend for a week or two and goes to her parents and then goes back to him. My children have never known a stable and secure home. Neither are working,have not worked in 2 years and she lives off of my child support 508.00 a month and food stamps. She also has the children on medicaid even though I carry them on my insurance, under court order at the price of 352.00 a month. Between the child support and insurance I pay out 61% of my income to her every month plus I have to buy them whatever they need when they come to visit because all she sends is the clothes they have on, usually too small, too big or in really bad shape. i want custody, I've always wanted custody and I would do anything to protect my children, but I just don't know what to do anymore. If I report her again she will withhold my summer visitation which means that we will have to go back to court on another contempt charge and if I just refuse to send them home I will be arrested and that won't do anyone any good. I am really scared for my children and just don't know what to do at this point. With all the money that I am paying to her I can barely afford to feed my family so hiring an attorney is out of the question. Calling DCF is out because obviously they are going to do nothing and I tried going to court pro-se and got railroaded. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can protect my children and give them what they want- to be here with me, my wife and our other 2 children. I am not just saying that either. Anytime you ask them they tell you that they want to live here and that they don't want to go back to mommy's house.
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6/6/09
Name: kent
EMail: donnachavie@yahoo.com
Question: i'm a sixty five year old man retired from the military,and my child is now thirty years old. when he was 17 years old his mother and i divorced and he went into the military, and at that time i was released from paying child support because the government thought of him as a man. he stayed in there for five years. now in 2003 friend of the court started taking money out of my social security checks for back support. i'm on a fixed income and this seems very unfair to me. does anyone know what i can do about this?
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6/4/09
Name: Jorge
EMail: jrg_dossantos2yahoo.com
Question: In my divorce my ex wife was given custody of both my children. 7 and a half years ago she gave me the youngest one being my son she never notified the court's of this now she wants the back child support,and the court says I have to pay.
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5/30/09
Name:
EMail: eddaemango@yahoo.com
Question: my child is 21 and in college,at what age do i stop paying support in new york state
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5/29/09
Name: Greg
EMail: gnyce2007@yahoo.com
Question: I was in a relationship for 8 years, and she has a daughter from a prior relationship. I have been in the daugters life for the past 8 years and she calls me dad. i had a son with my ex and we became married a year later. little to say we have been seperated for the past 2 years. i pay support for my son and get him everyday and everyother weekend along with her daughter. my question is do i have any legal responsiblity to the daughter? basically she is trying to rurin my life and i pay crazy money in support on top of taking care of her daughter and her father doesnt do shit! any suggestions?
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5/27/09
Name: chris
EMail: bam_bamluvsu@yahoo.com
Question: HERES MY QUESTION I NEED HELP WITH THE FOLLOWING- I HAVENOT SEEN MY KIDS IN OVER 6YRS MOM HIDES THEM FROM ME (WE HAVE JOINT CUSTODY) I HAVE NO WAY TO CONTACT THEM I DID GET BEHIND DUE TO A ILLNESS I PAID HER $8000 CASH IN FRONT OF A NOTARY (IS IT LEGAL CS IN NC TOLD ME YES IT IS LONG AS SIGNED IN FRONT OF NOTARY) AUG 30 2008 WELLL IN DECEMBER 2008 I WAS IN A BAD WRECK I WAS TOLD BY 3 DOCTORS I HAVE TO LIVE WITH INJURIES FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE IM STILL IN THERAPY ( BY THE WAY I LIVE IN WV KIDS IN NC) I HAVE SENT RECEIPTS TO CLERK OF COURT AND CASE WORKER NO ONE IS GIVING ME CREDIT,NOW I GETTING LETTERS FROM A INTERNATIONAL CHILDSUPPORT WORKER WHO IS SENDING PAPERS TO WV TO HAVE THEM COLLECT THE MONIES BUT I KEEP EXPLAINING I CANT WORK DUE TO INJURIES I TOLD THEM SOON AS I GET SETTLEMENT I BE GLAD TO HELP. WHAT CAN I DO SHE PLANS ON MOVING TO NJ SHE IS A DRUGGIE AS WELL IVE CALLED S.SS. ON HERE NUMEROUS TIMES NO RESPONSE CAN SOMEONE HELP ME?
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5/26/09
Name: Shawn Mahoney
EMail: shawnerbawner@hotmail.com
Question: im new at this but i got a ex girlfriend i lived with for 10 months and we dated for a year and she got pregnant and decided to go back to her home state(utah) and broke up with me when she was 6 months pregnant with my kid and now she is giving the baby (due in august)up for adoption and i dont want to i want to get custody and raise my baby everybody i talked to says dont sign the consent forms and you will gt custody but i knew if i dont sign the forms and send them in the babys mother will change her mind on wanting to pt the baby up cuz she dont want me to have it
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5/21/09
Name: howard
EMail: howie_essex_33@yahoo.com
Question: hi there i have a question here..i have a 14 year old daughter..and she draws a ssd check.ok now i have joint legal custady of my daughter and have her every weekend.they have me paying support on her now. but it seems like its really hard for me to have the extra things i need for her couse all the money i am paying her mother.i mean ok its both of us taking care of her and her mother is getting 600$ somthing a mounth for her already.now there sucking money out of the other person taking care of her.leaves her with alot less here at dads..my question is anyway.did i get screwed when they wacked me with support and her mother already getting all these benifits???
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5/12/09
Name: poma
EMail: lilmaminena@hotmail.com
Question: I am an unmarried father, I live in Canton GA in Cherokee county. Where should I go to get lega visitation with my daughter and what should I fill out? Thank you very much for your time and attetion.
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4/25/09
Name: Jeremiah
EMail: cookiedough01021982@yahoo.com
Question: i signed the birth certificate on "my" youngest daughters day of birth but i am unsure if she is mine she looks like my ex's daughters fiance and i am being charged child support. what can i do?
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4/25/09
Name: isaac
EMail: truironman777@gmail.com
Question: if someone files 4 a devorce in tenn and the parent with the custody with the kid moves 2 west virginia can they try 2 get alimony in west vir and also if the parent with the kid doesent work can they go 2 family first (welfare) and get certain stuff and welfare make the other parent pay 4 the stuff like food stamps and so own also if the other parent does not work and they say something about day care does welfare office give them daycare money and make the working parent pay 4 it
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4/24/09
Name: N.
EMail: nick30139@yahoo.com
Question: MY daughter described to me paraphanalia last week that her mother uses. I do not have the finances to hire another attorney.I am in Ga. Is there anything I can do about this? Please help,,,
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4/23/09
Name: robert
EMail: rahtymes@yahoo.com
Question: i live in texas and have a 12 yr old in kansas, I pay child support every month, taken out of my check so i dont forget. everytime i go visit kansas or want her to visit me in TX, her mom either puts a time limit on how long she stays, what time i need to have her back, and sometimes tell me she cant see me because she is in trouble for whatever reason. I dont have any rights right now and its very frustrating to me, my wife, and my other children when we cant see her. Especially if we make a trip to kansas just to see her. Are there any forms i can feel out or anything i can do. I make a descent living, but cant afford a lawyer right now. HELP PLEASE. She already making plans for my daughter to see her sister's dad this summer instead of me.
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4/22/09
Name:
EMail: kimberly@kba-designs.com
Question: I'm in a situation with my live in partner. We've been living together for 4 months and have been dating for a year prior to that. I have a great relationship with his 7 year old little boy. We have his son every Wed. and every other weekend and we will have him for half of all school holidays including the summer. When my partner first moved his ex wife came to pick up their son and the little boy wanted his mom to see his cool new room -- I thought that was appropriate because as a mom myself I wanted her to be comfortable with where he son was staying. Since then the ex has gone upstairs into the child's room several times -- and the latest time was when the little boy wanted to show her 'our' room -- and into my closet where our new kitty sleeps. My partner barely circumvented that one -- and he is struggling on how to explain to his son why that isn't appropriate. I feel like now that his ex has seen her son's room that is enough. Our upstairs is personal space to me -- I have a teenaged daughter who also needs her personal space upstairs. I don't even have my best girlfriends going upstairs in our home, nor do I go there in their homes. I think there are personal boundaries and private spaces in everyone's homes and it is very uncomfortable for me that his ex, who honestly has really put them all thru some horrible events, is now in our home at all. On one hand I think that its great that his son is so comfortable and sees his parents being nice enough to one another that he feels that its okay to give house tours, but my partner said he just doesn't know how to explain it to his 7 year old. His little boy said "why not, I go into your room, so why can't mommy?" And I'd like an opinion on the ex being upstairs in our house at all and the frequent visits to her son's bedroom in our home. Am I being unreasonable?
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4/15/09
Name: logan
EMail: dacodragon6669@aol.com
Question: my wife left me for some guy on the internet on nov 5th 2008 how long do i have to keep her belongings im moving out of state in 1 month
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4/14/09
Name: michael soto
EMail: soto5482@yahoo.com
Question: Hello. is there anything i can do to make sure my wife does not take my child to another country please let me know thanks
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4/14/09
Name: greg
EMail: greg_bg_24@yahoo.com
Question: can a father get his childsupport lowered while injured and out of work
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4/6/09
Name: jt
EMail: jt_usa_ranger@yahoo.com
Question: i was in the military for 5 year on my fourth year in the military. i came home and got some girl preg. she had my daughter, but she never told me it was mine she said it was here x's baby. when i came out the military a year and several months later. i ran into her the baby was 6 months now and she claim it was still not mine. but to make sure it wasnt i had a dna test conducted. i wanted to make sure . i started providing for the baby as soon as i seen her. the baby came out to be 99.9 % that it was mine :) anyways she is 2 now she turned it in january. i havent seen her since. she said she does nt care if i see her but she dont ans my phone calls, email or anything i havent provided for her since january due to her avoiding me. i have been to her house, emailed, and called her everywere. today she just closed the door in my face when i ask her when i can take my daughther. my question is can i fight for full custody and win. what can i do in order to win this
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4/6/09
Name: ranger
EMail: jt_usa_ranger@yahoo.com
Question: i was in the military for 5 year on my four girl i came home and got some girl preg. she had my daughter she never told me it was mine she said it was here x's baby. when i came out the military a year and several months later. i ran into her the baby was 6 months now and she claim it was mine. but to make she it wasnt i had a dna test conducted. i wanted to make sure it wasnt mine. i started providing for the baby as soon as i seen her the baby came out to be 99.9 % that it was mine :) anyways she is 2 now she turned it in january. i havent seen her since. she said she dont care if i see her but she dont ans my phone calls, email or anything i havent provided for her since january due to her avoiding me. i have been to her house nad everything she just closes the door on me. my question is can i fight for full custody and win. what can i do in order to win this
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4/6/09
Name: Chris
EMail: starfish_blue2002@yahoo.com
Question: my daughter will be 18 in Sept. She is no longer living with her mother, she has a place of her own, just had a baby and is getting state assistance. I contacted child support, and was informed that i HAVE to pay untill 18 or finishes school, well she dropped out of school, and if it takes her till age 25 to finish school, i still have to pay! I think this is a bunch of Crap, as she has her own family now! does anyone have any suggestions to help me? or any good attorneys? i feel that this situation is WRONG, and the mom is sitting back laughing at me, like she pulled ANOTHER good one on me! thanks for your help! Chris Faithful child support payor
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4/4/09
Name: robert baldwin
EMail: robertbaldwin101366@yahoo.com
Question: I am a married man living in California. I had an affair with a married woman who is now claiming that she is pregnant with my baby. She won't show me any proof that she is pregnant. Do I have any leagal rights to make her prove that she is? Is there any way to prove I am the father before the baby is born? She says that she may put the baby up for adoption or just disapperar with it. What are my rights?
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4/1/09
Name: Just Wondering
EMail: hummer2@swbell.net
Question: When i met my ex wife, we were in our late teens. She had a one year old daughter with another man. We got married right before the baby turned two. Legally the baby carried her fathers last name. I was married to my ex wife for 12 years, before we finally divorced. During this time i raised the child as if she were my own, but never legally adopted her or had her name changed. Now all this time later she wants to change her last name to mine. I was just wondering, if we just do a name change only, will my ex wife be able to take me to court for child support. What would my obligations be to that child?
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3/12/09
Name: darryl
EMail: queenb1779@yahoo.com
Question: my ex girlfriend and have a nine month old son. She is now refusing to let me have visitation. I love my son a want to see him. i cant afford a lawyer. We live in Florida. Pleas help
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3/10/09
Name: henry
EMail: craiglegend@yahoo.com
Question: I am a father of a 3 year old girl. And over two years the mother has turned me in 5 times for sexual abuse. AND all was unfounded.But now i have to go back to court again for the same thing.I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.
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3/8/09
Name: RAYMOND
EMail: rileymclain@yahoo.com
Question: why does the state of iowa pay childsupport to my ex-wife when she lives in missouri and she recieved money from missouri at the same time? And iowa doesnt give a shit. And why is it that the court system would rather see you give up your kids to your ex instead of enforcing the law and court orders when the judge orders them and she throws it back in his face and he dont do nothing. But yet if i dont follow the orders i go to jail? Thanks to the judge and her attorny and the attorney the court gave my boys it was better if i stayed out of thier lives and that i become a dead-beat-dad that still wonders where his boys are. I guess that parent alienatting still runs stong in nodaway county missouri. they could care less. Trust the court system boy what a joke
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2/13/09
Name: Hal Brooks
EMail: AQUASKIER@CHARTER.NET
Question: My wife kicked me out last friday when I lost my job. She now says she wants a divorce and is trying to leverage sold custody of our daughter against me and forcing me to give her sole custody. I think I want joint custody but know little about the custody terms and conditions. We live in South Carolina and have to wait a year before our divorce is finalized. Should I keep putting her off about the divorce and tell her I was joint custody of our daughter.
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2/11/09
Name: leo
EMail: leo8133010@yahoo.com
Question: I AM BEHIND ON MY CHILD SUPPORT, I MADE A MISTAKE BY PAYING DENTIS AND CEL PHONE FOR MY THREE DAUGHTERS. ALWAYS PAID WITH CHECKS AND ALSO GACE HERE CASH. I LOST MY JOB IN 2007 DID NOT WORK FOR 7 MONTHS, THAN I HAD TO MOVE WORKED FOR 8 MONTHS THAN I WAS LAID OFF. I NEED TO SETTLE THIS PROBLEM WITH CHILD SUPPORT AND ALL THEY SAY IS MY LICENSES WILL BE SUSPENDED IN TWO WEEKS. NOW THAT I HAVE A JOB THEY STILL INSIST THAT THEY WILL SUSPEND MY LICENCES. WHAT CAN I DO. I LIVE IN PHILADELPHIA AND MY GIRLS LIVE IN FLORIDA.
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2/11/09
Name: leo
EMail: leo8133010@yahoo.com
Question: I AM BEHIND ON MY CHILD SUPPORT, I MADE A MISTAKE BY PAYING DENTIS AND CEL PHONE FOR MY THREE DAUGHTERS. ALWAYS PAID WITH CHECKS AND ALSO GACE HERE CASH. I LOST MY JOB IN 2007 DID NOT WORK FOR 7 MONTHS, THAN I HAD TO MOVE WORKED FOR 8 MONTHS THAN I WAS LAID OFF. I NEED TO SETTLE THIS PROBLEM WITH CHILD SUPPORT AND ALL THEY SAY IS MY LICENSES WILL BE SUSPENDED IN TWO WEEKS. NOW THAT I HAVE A JOB THEY STILL INSIST THAT THEY WILL SUSPEND MY LICENCES. WHAT CAN I DO. I LIVE IN PHILADELPHIA AND MY GIRLS LIVE IN FLORIDA.
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2/11/09
Name: Stewart
EMail: sacredcave@yahoo.com
Question: I live in Hawaii, When my baby was born my wife kidnapped the baby and fled to her parents house. I got a restraining order giving me sole custody. She defied the court. The order expired. Now I still have not been able to see my child in one year. Never the less I try every week. Now she filed for child support. Hawaii has no way to enforce parental (father's) rights when there is no divorce. What can I do?
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2/9/09
Name: steven wilkins
EMail: tiwilki6@yahoo.com
Question: thers two kids involved one is 28 the other 26.i was ordered to pay 200 week all this is back child support.all i ever wanted was dna testing done on both but i could never get them to order her to bring them in to court.i no one of them for sure isnt mine .2 white people can not make a colored baby.and i mean colored..we were always ssplit up when she would come back pregnant and like the fool i was 30 years ago i took her back.all of this has took place in indianapolis in.is there anyone who can help me get help .thanks steve
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1/26/09
Name: Chris Bartmess
EMail: mp-4-ever@hotmail.com
Question: How does the state of Iowa base child support? What income figure do they use to calculate the amount? Do they only use taxable income? I'm in the military and will be deploying soon. My former spouse wants me to pay child support with all my military incentives included to include "hazardous duty pay" It is not taxable and I wont recieve it until Im in "country" which will be in June09. Here attorney want me to include that amount and start paying child support as if Im already making it.
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1/24/09
Name: Michael Allen
EMail: piercedpaintedone@yahoo.com
Question: I am in desperate need of help in finding a probono custudy lawyer PLEASE HELP
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1/23/09
Name: Jerry
EMail: fjgonzales1@msn,com
Question: My wife filed for disolution of marriage in March 2008 and filed for custody for our 3 children. I have signed divorce papers,but sh ehasnt filed them. i have been paying non ordered child support of 1500 mo and paying insurance for the kids,now my income has changed drastically,she has also lived with her boyfiend since June when she left me. What do you suggest I do,shes threatening me with court to up the any and pay her spousal support.
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1/22/09
Name: JAMES HEARNES
EMail: JDIANNE39@YAHOO.COM
Question: i'M A FATHER OF THREE AND BEEN DISABLED FOR TWO YEARS i JUST RECIEVED A LETTER FROM CHILD SUPPORT THAT i HAVE TO PAY $347.00 A MONTH. THROUGH MY TIME OF BEING DISABLED i STILL TOOK CARE OF MY CHILDREN AND STILL DO?. i JUST GOT APPROVE FOR DISABILTY. DO CHILD SUPPORT HAVE THE RIGHT TO TAKE HAVE MY MONEY?
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1/20/09
Name: wade
EMail: whiteowl8732@yahoo.com
Question: my gf is pregnant in sc and wanting to move back to florida im not going but shes determaned to go. dont fathers have a say so in anything except support its bs that she can take off and theres nothing i can do but if the baby was born and i tryed to leave omg the world would come to a end. this is wrong for all woman to do
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1/16/09
Name: bob
EMail: kikel@bellsouth.net
Question: I'm going through a divorce. I think she is trying to drain me completely dry and then some. She gets temporary alimoney (lg. amount) it was an agreement between the lawyers and the two of us, however I think I acted to quickly. Do you have any advice on how to change the order or to have it modified? What to do next, any advice will be helpful. The divorce in in the state of Ga.
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1/9/09
Name:
EMail: otter814u@yahoo.com
Question: my oldest has turned 18 and finished school but child support is still taking money and now they are ignoring me what can I do thats fair?
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12/22/08
Name: jose
EMail: josejarroyo@email.com
Question: At what age can children choose to live with ther dad. I have twelve year and a thirteen. they live in ny state and I live in Ohio.Is there any body out their who can anwer my question PLEASE.
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12/15/08
Name: el Nino
EMail: info@ronanfitzgibbon.com
Question: I'm a father to be and am going to be the stay at home parent for the first couple of years. There's a whole lot of do's and don'ts that ladies seem to just know. Does anyone know a good idiot's guide to being the primary carer?
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12/12/08
Name: Tim
EMail: xaosokami@yahoo.com
Question: Here is the q... My son is 20mo. old. For the last two years i was working 80-100hrs/wk to support my son and my ex fiance (together then) while she lived with her parents, and i lived with friends. She had been given many opportunites to live with me, as I had asked her multiple times each month. We were together for 7 years. Since she was not working, and I had to work overtime to make up for her slack (understandable because of our son's premature birth and almost daily doctor's appointments), she claimed that I was never there enough, and then left me. Now she wants to file child support, and physical primary custody. I asked for joint custody at least, and she refused stating that is was not good for our son. I explained to her that i would never take him away from her, and she insists that she filed because her friends tell her to. I recently found out that a "waiver of paternity affidavit" (NV State) was filled out and signed by me when he was born. the issue is I have never seen or signed that form.....what are my options
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12/2/08
Name: Brian Walker
EMail: bawwalker2000@yahoo.com
Question: The mother of my son allows our son not to go to school,for over a year now, he is 13. He spends hours upon hours on the computer, dailey, no chores absolutely no responcabilities. What do I do?
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12/2/08
Name: kevin
EMail: kvelazquez79@att.net
Question: i'am all caught up with my back child support how do i go about changing my wages
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12/1/08
Name: Chris
EMail: af_rescueman@yahoo.com
Question: Oh boy... OK guys, my ex got away with kidnapping my children. Last May, we were living separately in Hawaii where I am stationed. When she found out I might file for divorce, she told me she did not want a divorce and hoped we could work it out. My heart melted, and my dumb butt believed her. 5 days later, she left on one way tickets to Arkansas with our 3 children and our 4 pets. She filed for separation in Arkansas on 29 May after being there only 4 days. Arkansas law says you have to be domiciled there for at least 60 days before you can file for separation or divorce. I filed for divorce in Hawaii on June 6th. First hearing ended up being about which state should have jurisdiction. She filed for emergency jurisdiction in Arkansas claiming I was a deadly danger to her and the children, and Arkansas bought it... with NO proof or documentation. Hawaii let Arkansas have jurisdiction. Now I am paying child support to her and spousal support. She lives with her parents rent free, and has told me how she wastes the money. They go out to eat 4 or 5 nights a week, and she hits starbucks twice a day. She is using the child support to power pay her debts off, and to pay for her lavish lifestyle. I'm trying to find out what, if ANYTHING can be done to provide for some accountability with regards to how she spends the child support. I don't mind paying the money, but if she doesn't have rent expenses, medical or dental insurance expenses or co-pays (and she doesn't), shouldn't the kids have the remainder put into a savings account for them each month? Help!My ex is using my kids money for HER needs, wants and to go out on dates!
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11/28/08
Name: Curtis
EMail: texashunk81@yahoo.com
Question: I had an ex-girlfriend find me from 8 years ago and is telling me we have a 7 year old daughter together. I told her I wanted a paternity test, because shes has told me different times that we do have a kid together and then we dont. Now we're just arguing and shes is telling me that we do and I will never know the daughter cause she is getting marrid and having the guy legally adopt her and is going to tell the kid that he is her real dad. We also live in different states. What can I do to find out the truth.
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11/25/08
Name: Brandon
EMail: morgan192001@yahoo.com
Question: Hi everyone, I last year around Christmas of 07 I was accussed of something indencent between my child who was 3 years of age at the time, Her grandparents whom have legal gardian ship have denied me ascess to my child with out suppervison of them or the mother of my child. they told me the department of human services said i am not to be un suppervised with her. There has been no charges filed and nothing was founded . I live in the state of iowa . I have recieved nothing to inform me of this judement. Could someone please explain or give me some advice. THank you for your help. Brandon
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11/19/08
Name: michael
EMail: daddyruix26801@yahoo.com
Question: I have three kids with my ex-wife, and she is always trying to screw me over, i dont make alot of money and have two other children with my current wife, i can provide daycare for the three with my ex but she wants to put them in a daycare and make me pay half, my question is do i have the right to provide my own daycare?
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11/19/08
Name:
EMail: orrichardson@bellsouth.net
Question: I am a 55 year old man. I have been married for 4 years. My wife file for her income tax return and i am disable. When my wife file for her income tax return she did not receive it. it was withheld foe child support. This is for a child i have no knowlege of. never seen beore a day in my life. the mother and i never been involved. the child is 28 years old and this is the first i heard about this and the courts say i owe child support for 28 years. a paternity test has never been born and the courts say that without the mother a paternity test can not be done. so they will not call the now adult child in court so it can be proven and they still say i owe this money. any advice?????
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11/16/08
Name: Brian
EMail: watermeters@msn.com
Question: what age does a child have the right to chose wich parent he wants to live with in a divorce in the the state of new hampshire
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11/11/08
Name: eric
EMail: erk42084@yahoo.com
Question: my name is eric balsley. i stumbled across this site and i am looking for all the help i can get. i just got my custody battle started and im trying to do whatever it takes to get my son. i was used by a lesbian to have this child and i barely get to see him even though we have visitation guidelines for her to follow. i could really use anybodys help on this. if i get an e-mail back i hope to hear that i at least have a chance. everybody tells me im wasting my time and i wanna prove them wrong. i have alot to share about this situation and am looking for someone to give me a little insight and info that will help me get custody. reply asap plz.
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11/10/08
Name: landon
EMail: landon2980924@hotmail.com
Question: Here's my situation: I have a son who is 6 months old now...only recently have I been able to spend time with him. His mother doesn't take care of him - her mom does, as my ex-gf would rather go out and party. Her mom is very nice and i get along with her fine, but it still seems like I am having to beg to get to see him. I've been able to spend several weekends with him at my house now, but would really like to get custody of him. I lost a lot of time with my dad and was unable to develop a good relationship with him until I was 19. My dad fought several times for custody and nothing was ever done. It seems that in Iowa it is rare for a father to get custody of his child without the mother giving up rights. I would really like to know from anyone with some experience how i could go about trying to get custody of Brice and what my chances would even be. My ex does not work and has never had a job more than a couple weeks, basically her mom takes care of him, and i really do fear for his safety for 2 reasons - one being that she has been in 5 serious car accidents in the last year and the other being that she has a new boyfriend that strikes me as a violent person that may hurt Brice (you hear these stories constantly on the news). Any help would be gladly appreciated. Thanks
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11/8/08
Name:
EMail: jones.jimmy80@yahoo.com
Question: how to stop abusive support units
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11/1/08
Name: robert flores
EMail: dremarflo@yahoo.com
Question: i have 3 sons my wife recently revealed that i am not be my 2nd sins father. He is 5 years old and only knows me I signed the birth certificate. We are getting a dna test done but i want to know if it is proven to be his will he have rights to him
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10/31/08
Name: leof
EMail: l.fogelbach@hotmail.com
Question: my question is... do i have the right to refuse to talk to my son's mother directly? if i have provided her with my spouses phone number and our joint email, is that not enough? I live in Canada, i beleive i should have that option. She is refusing to communicate that way and demands i speak with her. i have refused to pick up the phone. what should i do?
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10/25/08
Name: b mungo
EMail: mr.mrsbrandonmungo@yahoo.com
Question: ifound out i had a 1 year old daughter 2years ago by me going and asking for a blood test with child support and setting up payments will now my daugter is 3 years old ever since i've known i've been there for birthdays and christmas some times she takes it some times she don't will i set up for visition in court but she has showed up for court 1 time out of three always saying she has to work but if i got to go for childsupport she makes sure she's there and it's like our child is hers not mine because she want let me see her when shes made but it all goes back to i had agirlfriend when i got her pregant and now i'm married to her she tells me not to take her around my wife but she knew i was with her it's not like i was leaving her i want to know what i can do to get tempory visition until our next court date and where to get motion papers from also i'm doing this by myself so help me out i can't afford a lawyer
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10/24/08
Name: Allan
EMail: qlilbigman4@yahoo.com
Question: I live in Monroe, LA, and my child and her mother lives in Shreveport, LA. I didnt know that Her mother filed for child support and I never received and Summons or court papers and later found out that the paperwork was served to the wrong address. What can I file in court in order to both contest paternity and get the money back that was taken due to the illegal judgement.
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10/12/08
Name:
EMail: lunatik11586@military.com
Question: I live in Iowa and my ex-wife got pregnant in the middle of the divorce. It is not my child but now they are coming after me for child support because by iowa law it is my child. How do i disestablish paternity with out a lawyer. i was told if i can find the paperwork i need that i could just go to an order hour and appear in front of a judge but i dont know what i need for paperwork. any help would be greatly appreciated!!!!!!!!!!!
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10/1/08
Name: jerry
EMail: gsandre_86@yahoo.com
Question: i would like to sign over my right of a little boy. the mother is all for it. she aswell as i think it is for the best! where do i go? what do i do? please help!!!!!!!!!!!
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9/21/08
Name: AL
EMail: aljrmolina@yahoo.com
Question: I am from Texas. My ex and my two kids recently moved to Le Mars, Iowa. She has not let me talk to me kids in over two weeks. I dont know what to do....just not hearing the sound of my kids really hurts me....Help
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9/17/08
Name: Troy Adams
EMail: Jetfxnaa@aol.com
Question: On disability and owe arrears for child support. Does anyone know the California statute that says only 5 percent can be taken from my check? Thanks!
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9/16/08
Name: juan bernard torres
EMail: isantiago115@comcast.net
Question: i use to live with my kids and work suport my kid pay rent food all the bills and went igo to work find a leter for family court the kids mother was reciving welfare behind my back and she close case wen i go to court child suport made me pay money that she took frome the state i think i shoulnt pay that money i pay close to 13 thausand dollard ithink i need help truing to desputed that money back frome ny child suport enforcement
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8/22/08
Name: carhardehar
EMail: moorestuff2000@yahoo.com
Question: My son is 24 and I now find out that I am not his biological father. His mother says that she is now living with my sons real father. I paid child support for my son until he was 18. If paternity test comes back that his biological father has been found do I have any recourse to get back (if any amount)what I put out all those years? approx 11?
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8/19/08
Name:
EMail: cmoyer523@yahoo.com
Question: A friend of mine, has children from a prior non-married relationship. He has been paying child support and is now being told he needs to pay health insurance for his children. This in turn will put his expenses for his sons around 40% of his monthly income. His ex will not allow him to speak to his sons, let alone have visitation. What can be done about this? Is there anyway out of paying for both child support and health insurance? Or at least limit his child support payments?
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8/11/08
Name: Jon
EMail: jon.b151@gmail.com
Question: i have a couple of questions that I need legal assistance on? If seven years into a marriage my souse reveals that she is unsure of who the real father is, and after a DNA test the results show that the child is not the fathers is there any legal ramifcations that can be placed on the mother? Sue for back child support, etc? If a mother puts a child up for an adoption after telling the father she aborted the child is this a criminal act?
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7/21/08
Name:
EMail: yvonne.velazquez@yahoo.com
Question: My ex-wife hates my current wife. Because they had an argument this Friday, my ex said that my kids can no longer come to my home. What can I do legally?
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7/16/08
Name: ct dad 2008
EMail: aforestiere@premierexpress.net
Question: Im married 2 children contempating divorce, have 2 boys , 2 4 I spend all the time whith thme , I work out of the house and make around 90k a year , I take them to school . belong to the pta go to parks with them get up at night when they cry , etc etc , wife works goes out with friends has forgot to pick older son up at preschool because to busy at work, advice and do i have a chance at custody and have them live wth me
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7/13/08
Name: jgaddie
EMail: mrgaddie@hotmail.com
Question: I live in the State of Michigan, Wayne County and I am still being charged for arrearages for a child that a court awarded DNA test has shown that I am not the father of, 2 years ago. I have filed out 2 different motions which FOC staff told me to fill out, with the same outcome. I get my day in court and then they say that I need to fill out a different motion. I haven't been in the child's life and he knows who his biological father is, and I'm married with 2 children but FOC just doesn't seem to want to remove the arrearage, and really doesn't care. Does anyone have any ideas what I should do? The next motion is asking for my employer info, but I don't want them garnishing my wages for a child that isn't even mine. Please email me with any information you can provide.
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7/6/08
Name:
EMail: jayluvnessa@yahoo.com
Question: Can I give up my rights for a child and mother that I don't even know in GA? I have never seen the child nor the mother since that night so why should I have to pay? I am married now and it is very hard for my wife to understand I just rather give up my rights and live in peace.
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7/6/08
Name: JAY
EMail: jayluvnessa@yahoo.com
Question: can a woman come back after 15 years and get me for child support? Even after I was told by her that she did not want anything from me.
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6/26/08
Name:
EMail: reyeslakewales@aol.com
Question: i just recently left my wife, after she has been abandoning us on the weekends only to find out she has been having an affair. I have taken my daughter and i'm staying with some friends. How do i go about filing for full custody of her without hiring an expensive lawyer?
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6/24/08
Name:
EMail: rkt483@aol.com
Question: My son is 13 1/2 years old and currently lives with his mom and wants to come and live with me. We live in Iowa and I am not sure what steps I need to take to make this happen. He has told his mother that he wants to live with me and she said she won't let it happen and she is going to get a lawyer. What should I do?
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4/14/08
Name: jerry
EMail: gsandre_862yahoo.com
Question: i would like to sign over my right of a little boy. the mother is all for it. she aswell as i think it is for the best! where do i go? what do i do? please help!!!!!!!!!!!
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3/31/08
Name: Paul
EMail: pes405@yahoo.com
Question: What states are safe to open a checking and savings account in. Im paying child support directly from my pay check to SCU in New York State. I owe a small amount in arrears, but no matter what they are always messing with my checking account. Im paying extra towards my arrears. But it doesnt seem enough. They just want everything from you and it doesnt seem fair. So is there a state or an internet bank that will not honor NY,s seizure orders on your accounts.
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3/25/08
Name: adam
EMail: theadamking@yahoo.com
Question: My childs mother and i have jobs that do not have heath coverage. She will not apply for any state or low income health coverage. I am unable to apply because my son does not live in my home, we live in iowa. please help
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3/19/08
Name: Fred
EMail: bigrud69@yahoo.com
Question: I was recently laid off from my job. I know I am still responsible for support payments, but shouldnt the amount be reduced? I called the child support office to let them know I was laid of and the case worker ( who is a bi***) said I'm still responsible for the full amount. How do I go about getting it lowered until I find another job? Also does anyone know what guidelines are used if I have no income? Im in Kentucky.
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3/17/08
Name: shaman
EMail: shaman2303@yahoo.com
Question: My daughter is teething and is constantly clinging to her mom how can I help?
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3/6/08
Name: justin
EMail: justin_brooks2006@hotmail.com
Question: Why do women come in to your life and get pregnant and just leave and not let you see your kids.. and you have to pay child sopp even though you haven't went to court... Why do some women not let you name your child and not let you be there for the child birth... and why do the women have all the rights because they can name are kid tells us that we can be back in the back at birth and they can take are kids a way and not let us see them...
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3/6/08
Name: justin
EMail: justin_brooks2006@hotmail.com
Question: I thing us fathers should have the same rights as the women. I think the women should not have all rights to name the child the father should have some say in the name.. It should be 50/50 not every other weekend if the father dosn't want 50/50 then thats his right but dont put us all though every other weekend.. theres fathers out here that do wanna see there child like the mother do.. its not right we get the wost treatment out of it because we have to pay child spourt and only get to see are child every other weekend.... there got to be something done its not right.......
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3/4/08
Name:
EMail: aphid22@hotmail.com
Question: I'm the custodial parent of my 3yr. old son his mother is ordered to paychild support but does not pay child support and does not see him. I'm planning to get married and I want my wife to be to adopt him since the mother is not around and she has been the one helping raise him for the last 8 months . My question is how I go about this process.
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2/27/08
Name: Chrispen
EMail: krazykid212@yahoo.com
Question: I was recently awarded Joint Custody of my 3 year daughter, however im still scheduled to pay child support of $128.00 a month. I really do not understand why that is, and what i did wrong. please respond with any tips, hints, etc
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2/24/08
Name: Ron
EMail: ronaldlee_k@yahoo.com
Question: Who pays child support if I am disabled and collect the minimum amount of social security disability?
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2/15/08
Name: James
EMail: racingdjgse@hotmail.com
Question: Hello; I just don't understand this legal system any longer. I was accused seven years ago and took the lye detector, and saw a Doctor; And long story short It was all found untrue because my X-wife had put thing in my daughters head; And still to this day I'm fighting to see my daughter and the kicker is I pay child support for a child I can't even see because the courts listen to my X on everything. I am disable and I still see the doctors because I was a firefighter and EMS Provider, Yes I suffer from PTSD; And when my X was on the stand because of the shacks I live with daily she yells out "LOOK AT HIM HE'S A MENTAL CASE" and the judge which of course all we have had is female. Her lawyer the judge and they just keep looking and not allow me to have a fare shack and be the father I want to be to a daughter who was 4 yrs. old to an eleven year old that hate me and I just don't understand the system for male any more when a one time my X was going to kill her self and my daughter also. And her sister hide my daughter from me and all this was before I was accused of false charges because my daughter side it all wasn't true and she just said what she hear mommy say and hear from her grandparents and there not mine they disowned me because they want to believe the X. I am remarried but not having my parents in my life sucks I try to talk to my wife I have now but it's heard for her to understand all of this like myself. Well that's all for now if there is anyone that has an idea to help me understand some of this. thank You.
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2/15/08
Name:
EMail: stephanie@bookoutpeyton.com
Question: My boyfriends ex-wife is refusing to let their kids, age 11 and age 14, visit us or spend the night with us. His exwife even forbids the kids to come over even for their usual weekend visits. In her words, "You and your girlfriend cohabitate and that is not allowed. The kids cannot come over there or spend the night with you if she is there." OK, first off, I am not a "girl" - I am a 39 year old woman, with a 20yo daughter!! But, not only do we pay child support also alimony, so on an average she receives $8000.00 a month. But, to really top it all off, she criticizes he and I both in front of the kids and to the kids. I know they are pulled and confused but I have had about enough from her - She lives off of us and then punishes those innocent children. We live in Alabama - and in my internet researching I cannot find anything to believe that she has a valid point - other than her just being an angry exwife. I and we are really trying not to let anger be the factor here - but everyday gets worse and worse in this situation with her. HELP!! Any advise???
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2/14/08
Name: jerry
EMail: gsandre_86@yahoo.com
Question: about 2 years ago i cheated on my wife with her worst enemy!(i know what a jerk).now i have a 9 month old boy. my wife has forgiven me and supports me with seeing the baby. she can not have children. but something about the situation makes me not want to be with the baby! i dont even like mentioning him. i want to sign over my rights as the babys father. the mother has a soon to be husband and has a happy life while mine is miserable! what should i do??
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2/2/08
Name: Roy
EMail: wolfpack874@hotmail.com
Question: I am a 33 year old man with a 2 year old son. I have tried to keep the child support paid but have fallen behind due to losing my job. The offset my federal taxes to pay the arrears and now I am caught up again but she still has not allowed me to see my son for the last 13 months. I love my son and want to be part of his life but she hangs up when I call, won't answer the door when I come over ect ect ect. Is there anything I can do to get time with my son since she has physical custody and I am on the birth certificate? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance
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1/30/08
Name:
EMail: woodys496@yahoo.com
Question: i pay child suport that should go to my 10 year daughter but it goes to buying ciggeretes for my ex wife. she has a boy freind and his brother that are living with her and i dont think any one has a job. my question is can a person make her keep records of what she spends the money on and what she doesnt spend on my daughter? put it in a account for my dauther so that one day she could have it.
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1/22/08
Name: Mark Mehle
EMail: tylerknight37@msn.com
Question: what can i do if my child's mother refuses to let me see him, even if it is court ordered that i am supposed to have him?
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1/7/08
Name: Larry12
EMail: brandyderosier@yahoo.com
Question: My wife took off with my son had me put in jail and then just left with my son I want to see him it has been a year and she wont let me see him I didnt give her permission to take him is there anything I can do?
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1/7/08
Name: Todd
EMail: mou
Question: My ex-wife, who lives in IN, is taking me back to court for child support modification. I now live in WV. This concerns our 18 yr. old son, who doesn't even live with his mother (living with girlfriend and her mother). In the modification paper, she and her lawyer knowingly falsified a claim that our son is 17 and needs to be living in with her so she can get more support. I have been paying court ordered support ever since I have been required by the court. Is this legal? Can she get into trouble for falsifying information to the court? And if I have to appear in IN, I could lose my new job and it's gonna cost me to hire a lawyer. Any info would be greatly appreciated.
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1/5/08
Name: Dave
EMail: lust4uv70@yahoo.com
Question: My question is if I know that my ex is having sex with a 16 or 17 year old boy do you think I could get custody of my children? She is also pregnate to one of them I am in the state of PA and this state has stuck it to me before. Prior service she took children from CA to PA and immediately made me pay child support and after two years she just suddenly drops everything including back child support is there something going on with this that I should be concerned about? Please any info would be helpful.
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1/4/08
Name:
EMail: catsfanksu@yahoo.com
Question: I am active duty with KS Air guard and paid child support for 14 years without being late or missing a payment. My oldest daughter turned 18 in Feb. 07 and in March my ex filed for an increase. Now have involuntary allotment taken from my bi-monthly pay 1st and 15th of month, sent to KPC by SRS military liason. Due to weekend or holiday, a payment was sent before the 1st. KPC first shows credit, then arrearage but says they cannot fix it. SRS says they can't fix it. Now state and federal taxes will be held to offset arrearage that does not exist. Jan. 08's pmnt sent on 12/24 has set me on same course for 2008. Have contacted Federal Finance office who says this is problem for many but not addressed as of yet. I know I am not only soldier in KS to ever go through this. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
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1/2/08
Name: Jacen Pease
EMail: jacenpease@iowa.usa.com
Question: I live in CLinton, Iowa. Here is my question. My ex was awarded physical custody of our son in September 2005. Since then, DHS got involved and I was given our son during the time DHS was involved ( aside from a 3 month and 2 week time period, where he was in a foster home and my mother's). On June 15, 2007, Judge Van Zee terminated juvenile court jurisdiction and ordered custody of our son to me (I am under the impression that the court determined he could not return to his mother's). My question, who has custody, her(with a district order dated September 2005) or me (with a final juvenile order dated June 2007, terminating juvenile court jurisdiction as well)? Hope to hear good news soon. Thanks. Jacen Pease
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12/20/07
Name: Mark
EMail: mho67@msn.com
Question: My ex-wife just took me back to court to have child support increased. I have no problem paying support. However.... 1. She wants to make me responsible for paying half of my daughters college expenses. I say, college is a choice. Thats why we have student loans, grants and scholarships. I thought as soon as she was 21, I was no longer responsible for any monetary support. Can my ex-wife really make this happen? 2. I haven't seen my daughter since the end of 2004. I know you hear this from dads all the time, but my ex-wife is the devil. She spent our whole marriage cheating and lieing. When we started the divorce proceedings, she made a comment to me that I would never see my daughter. Things were ok for two years, then suddenly, as soon as she was 13, she stopped comming to see me. Those of you who may have experienced this, what did you do?....where can a Father get help in keeping the relationship with their child intact? I really need to find some answers
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12/17/07
Name: Derrick
EMail: offthemarket03@yahoo.com
Question: my lady stays home i work in other states we have a daughter she 5months its possible for us to be together but she wants to stay home and she always says she misses me wtf is up i work out across the states and i'm wondering if its gonna work is it possible to make life this way i can't leave my job cuz the money i make is clothing them has a roof over their head car for them to drive and i also have my bills i'm 22 yrs old and i'm lost...Help!
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12/17/07
Name: derrick
EMail: offthemarket03@yahoo.com
Question: my lady doesn't want anymore kids after one...i'm trying to start a bigger family...why is doing this...she says its hard...i can understand her part of labor what about me
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12/3/07
Name: jabril
EMail: flowshow@msn.com
Question: I am an 18 yr old father one 1 (a 3 month old baby grl). I want to get joint custody but I am being denied seeing my daughter because my girlfriend is mad at me. so before I do anything I want to file a motion for visitation so I can see my daughter everyday. what do I do? how do I do it? I am on the birth certificate but I don't have "legal rights" to my daughter what do I do about tha? is that important to establish? (hypothedicly speaking) if I take a paternity test and am not the father what do I do? I don't want to lose my daughter, how do I stop that from happening?
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11/29/07
Name: allena
EMail: moneymanent@hotmail.com
Question: Can a father give up parental rights to avoid paying child support in florida?
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11/7/07
Name: Jake
EMail: wierintuned@yahoo.com
Question: How hard is it to get sole legal custody without using a lawyer? Has anyone tried ans what where the results
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11/5/07
Name: BERNIE ALVAREZ
EMail: bernieilwu13@sbcglobal.net
Question: IF MY XWIFE HAD A HOUSE AND SOLD IT ,SHE GOT IT IN 2000 AND SLOD IT ON 2005 BEFOR WE WINT TO COURT I FOUND OUT A FRIEND TOLD ME SHE SOLD IT FOR 330,OOO BOUT THE GOING PRICE WAS 690000 SO NOW I'M TACKING HER TO COURT BEFOR I GO WITH MY DIVORCE DO I STAND OF WINNING OR NOT ,THANK YOU GOING TO COURT ON TUESDAY 11-6-07
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10/26/07
Name: allan
EMail: nallam@rogers.com
Question: my son 17 moved from his mothers house as he does not get along with her commonlaw and his family they live with she still collecting support ,i would rather give money to him how do i go about this
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10/26/07
Name: allan
EMail: nallam@rogers.com
Question: i live in ontario my sons mother refuses to put my name on his birth certificate what should i put on the affidavit to file a contempt motion
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10/16/07
Name: Rick
EMail: hms1@rogers.com
Question: Hi i have a 7 yr old son who constantly wants to come live with my wife & I but his mother has custody after putting a domestic charge on me to get full custody then it got thrown out in court because she lied. every other weekend i have him on the sunday he has to leave he starts to get sick and cries about leaving all the time what can i do? He keeps asking me to go to court for him could i go to court for custody or is it a waste of time since i wont have a chance? plus his age??? pls help
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10/15/07
Name: Kevin
EMail: klbrowning@cox.net
Question: I have my children on Tuesdays and Thursdays. My Ex-Wife is going on vacation for a week, I want to have my kids for the week she is gone. She says she is having someone come to the house and wants me to only have the kids on my scheduled nights. Do I have the first right to have my kids in this situation?
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10/4/07
Name: allen
EMail: allen.walsh@yahoo.com
Question: my wife and i are getiing devorced and we have a daughter 14 months and due to my wife cheating on me i have reason to believe that i may not be the father she is trying to hit me for 500 month child support i mean if my daughter is mine thats great ill pay but if shes not i dont im out my question can i request a paternity test befor the child support hearing and how would i go about doing that?? thanx allen
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9/23/07
Name: Serious dad
EMail: jahlighted@hotmail.com
Question: Greetings Fathers Online members, I have joint physical & legal custody of my children in Los Angeles, California with a woman I'm NOT married to. Recently she moved from our residence over to MY mother's house, and we have resumed our court ordered 50/50 joint physical & legal custody agreement. The 3 1/2 day that the kids are with me I�m like Mr. Mom, I work full time, take them to and pick them up from school, cook, clean and all that stuff. 2 weeks after moving to my mother�s house she took a job totally outside of her trained profession. Said job starts (part-time) @ 4:00 a.m. When the kids are with their mother she had delegated a lot of her parenting obligations to my (retired & sick) mother to get the kids up, fed & dressed for school then her aunt picks them up and take them to school. Sometimes she picks them up from school, other times her mother or aunt picks them up. At my residence the kids each have their own bedrooms, friends, clothes, etc. Over at my mother�s house ALL three of them live in one bedroom, and my son has to sleep on an air mattress in the den. After the mother leaves for work my almost 4 year-old daughter constantly wakes up and climbs 2 flight of stairs (18 steps total) in the still of the night and goes into my mother room looking for her mother. After confronting her about this I suggested that she let the kids stay with me until her work & living situation improves. As you can imagine she refused. At which point I filed with the courts for full custody. She has hired an attorney and now they are requesting financial records from both my employer and me. My question is do I have to furnish financial records since this is NOT about my finances, but about her lack of stability and poor parenting skills and decision-making? To me that�s an invasion of privacy! I�m in fear of turning over my financial information, for I have accumulated a few assets of which she contributed absolutely nothing to helping me accumulate. Anyone gone through anything remotely close to my situation & have any suggestions?
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9/18/07
Name: Wayne Miller
EMail: wayne@cpitx.com
Question: I have been paying on back (arears) child support for five years.The payments come out of my paycheck so I am never late. There is about an $11,000 balance that will be paid off in about three years. I am about to buy a home. If I sell the home before I pay off the back support does anyone know if my exwife can get the profits? Thanks!
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9/18/07
Name:
EMail: terrisharpe1@hotmail.com
Question: I have temporary custody of my infant daughter, because my wife assaulted me with a hammer. I receive custody through a tpo and will be going to court in 2 weeks for the divorce and custody disussion. My wife has been indicted on aggaverted assault, criminal tresspass, interfering with a call for help, and criminal damage to property. We were not living together when this crime happen, but she showed up at my home with my 6 month olddaughter and 3 yerar old stepdaughter and commited this violent act. What are my chances of gaining permanet custody in Georgia of my daughter. A gurdian ad litem has bee appoint to make a recommendation to the courts.
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9/13/07
Name: Rod
EMail: superwynn@yahoo.com
Question: I'm a Step-Father, her kids are 18, 16, 14...we have been married almost a year. Her kids are very lazy don't want to clean up around the house. I've tried punishment "no phones" can't go outside, no games "PSP", that don't work... I'm almost at a dead end.... it's driving me crazy. Need advise b4 I contact my lawyer
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9/7/07
Name: kevin
EMail: king9361@hotmail.com
Question: I am a unmarried father of a 4 yr old boy.Have DNA test 99.9 he recieves my SS benefit. Do I have any rights in the state of MO !?
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8/24/07
Name: RWPIKE
EMail: Designer@design3k.com
Question: Can anyone provide a sample "affidavat of preference"? My 14 year old daughter wants to come live with me and her mother is giving her trouble about it. My daughter wants to talk to the judge.
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8/23/07
Name:
EMail: sassy_chick402@yahoo.com
Question: A child was born on October. 20, 2007. The mother had slept with my fiance. A man signed the voluntary paternity act claiming that he was the father. He never put in a recession or anything just signed and had the acknowledgement notarized. Which made it a legal binding document. 5 months after the child was born the man decided that the baby didn't look like him so he got a paternity test done which excluded him from being the father. In the voluntary paternity act it says you give up all the rights to claim the woman slept with someone else, all the rights to claim the child is not yours, and all the rights to any genetic testing. This man is on the birth certificate and was the father. Has anybody gone through this before? Is he still legally the father? Please help.
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8/21/07
Name:
EMail: alferbelly@gmail.com
Question: if im in georgia and my supposed kids in texas can i get a paternity test with out traveling to texas or do i have to travel to texas.
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8/20/07
Name: sam gay
EMail: grayson-2@hotmail.com
Question: my son has autisum and me and my wife have had a time trying to get a medical card from the social security office in lexington, kentucky. We applied three times and been turned down all three. The second time we thought we might get approved but as soon as my sent our w-2's in to them they sent a letter out telling us we were not approved. Its seems to be a money issue and but we see doctors at the hospital where my wife works getting cards for they're kids. What can we do?
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8/16/07
Name:
EMail: r.berumez@mchsi.com
Question: Just wondering as a person who pays child support do I have any recourse on my ex-wife who I believe is not using my child support for its intended purpose. It seems that when my son comes to visit me, I have to buy him things I would think that should be bought with my child support payment. Is there anything that can be done without having to take this all back into court.
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8/13/07
Name: gabriel perez
EMail: darksidefolks@yahoo.com
Question: me and my wife splite up and she filled a order of protection to keep me from my kids so she could leave the state she is now in chicago and has resently took my kids to see my parents but we are afraid to do anything because she might run again. she is illegal so it scares us even more that she might leave the country. i havent seen my boys in over five monthes and miss them dearly can anyone help? please.
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8/9/07
Name: Annette
EMail: annette.sas@bankofamerica.com
Question: Does anyone have experience disestablishing paternity in NC? Both parties are in agreement and want to handle this as quickly and cost efficient as possible.
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8/6/07
Name: Shaun
EMail: cowboysingdablooz@yahoo.com
Question: Why didnt my girlfriend put my lastname on are babys birth certificate?
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8/2/07
Name: Eric
EMail: Guarddwag@hotmail.com
Question: I am a father of two children I have been employed at the same job for 9 years my job does not allow for normal weekends off. I have two days off during a normal work week (tues & wed). I get my children every other weekend (sat & sun). My question is If I take a lower paying job with weekends off to help me see my children, if my child support can be lowered and I will be able to see my children more often.
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8/2/07
Name: Mike
EMail: mvisnich@yahoo.com
Question: Just how many of us FATHERS are being denied custody SOLELY because WE are the breadwinners? This link proves just how much these thieves, and Child Abusers are raking in at our CHILDRENS' expense. Thi sstory really fumes me. I hope it gives some info to other fighters that don't say sure, your ""honor"", give my child to the crackhead mother. I fought my heart and soul out for 5 years, and I HAVE my DAUGHTER with me. KEEP FIGHTING, and Godspeed to all. http://www.tribune-chronicle.com/News/articles.asp?articleID=20853
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8/1/07
Name: Ra�l
EMail: rmurillo@jccc.edu
Question: How can I find the county in Iowa my son lives in? Without this information it will be nearly impossible to file for custody and visitation rights. I live in Kansas, my ex-wife took off back in 2003 and I suspect she is in Iowa because of courtpapers sent to me. I have not seen my son ever since. But that has not stopped her from making false claims about me in order to get as much money as possible. This is a serious matter and I need all the help I can get, I do not have a lawyer and I'am not planning to have one, this is already costing me too much.
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7/24/07
Name: CT
EMail: mct432@yahoo.com
Question: my ex-wife and son live in the state of Kansas. She wants to relocate to the state of florida. Does the custedy orders in place with KS have to move to the state of FL or can everything stay in KS.
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7/21/07
Name: liaqat
EMail: desiuk2001@yahoo.com
Question: hi, im 27 and have recently seperated from a 7year long marriage , its been 6 months ov our seperation,i have 2 beautiful girl 6 and 3, and as time his going on im being 2 miss thm more and more , i feel this world will never understnad how a father feel for his daughters/ kids, they are my world and life and my wife has stopped me even talking 2 thm, its so so so hard when i see a pic off them, tears rush to my eyes, i wuold do anything for them, anything!! there amazing beautiful face would make crap day lighten up, i would forget all lifes burdens they called me dadddy and when i came home from work and see thm waiting for me,there isnt a better feeling in life , im just looking for support how to get through this time.
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7/20/07
Name: leroy
EMail: zap812@yahoo.com
Question: I live in Iowa,after weekly contact with a missouri courthouse i was denied the information that the judge schieber had scheduled a divorce/custody hearing. When i asked the jduge why did he deny me the information he plainly stated, he doesn't send notificaitons for divorce hearings to po boxes. that is the only way i can get my mail HELLO ..hinesight, this judge because i was unaware and lied to by the court there was a hearing, this man ripped me of all my parental rights to my child, yet he is imposing i pay child support beccause she cannot support herself and child. Well what gives them the right to take away my child yet still hang on to my pocket book. The courtpapers clearly showed that she entered false informatio to the court. I didnt have an attorney and don't i ahve been denied all legal help from legal aid services, iowa won't help me because it is in missouri, missouri legal aid won't help me because i am not a resident. What rights is there left for me. I lvoe my son, yet i cannot nor am i allowed to even let him know via a birthday card or christmas gift, i have absolutely no rights to my child, then what gives her all the rights to my wallet?
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7/18/07
Name:
EMail: addmailbag@yahoo.com
Question: My ex wife of 6 years is trying to collect child support from my new wifes income also. Can she do this?Also my heart goes out to all fathers who care as much as I do for my kids..
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7/10/07
Name: cj
EMail: sliimshade12000@yahoo.com
Question: have court ordered visitaion and custody in oregon established and ex lives in idaho and is denying me my visitaions and denying to bring him to exchange point and how do i go about pushing contempt of court and custodial interference on a court ordered visitaion where i have joint custody of child, and where do i file the paperwork in oregon or idaho which athorities do i report it to the police department or the sheriff department and in which state?? and also ex has threatin to inflict bodily injury to me and i am disabled useing internet to do so ????
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7/9/07
Name:
EMail: nancy1@wmtel.net
Question: My daughter is 16 and just found out she is pregnant. will i have to still pay child support or not. Can she move out of her mothers and go live with her boyfriend without the law being involved.
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7/7/07
Name: Jason
EMail: arcanum65@warpmail.net
Question: My ex and I have been divorced 7 years. I have delt with her evil new husband who wishes to take my rights away. I get 3 weekends a month and around 4 weeks out of the summer. We both live in Wash State. She has been nailed on contempt 3 times and now this is 4th. How can I stop her from doing this crap?
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6/28/07
Name: Concernedfather&Husband
EMail: leno_nieves@sbcglobal.net
Question: How and what would you think if your wife's father has a family history of touching family members butts and breast even my wife's, my wife said she would lock herself behind her door on Sundays when nobody else was home because one day he got on top of her and she was screaming for him to get off and he said "I am your father and you tell me that but you don't say that to your boyfriend right?". You then find photos taken of your wife by her father posing on a convertible in a deserted known area when she was young? Also a picture of her in a bikini with no other family members around? She had to be in the house by 7p.m. at 23 years old? He had holes in the wall behind a picture and her brother caught him watching my wife when she was younger taking a shower. He took her alone to P.R. and took her out to a club with no other family members around. When we were dating she would leave to go shopping with him without even letting me know that she left sometimes for several hours until her brother brought it to my attention one day. My wife had an old wallet in one of the albums that I was looking through she had pictures of her father and his old license but no other family pictures were in that wallet. He was arrested because a police officer saw him raise his hand to hit her because she came out of school late or because she was talking to a guy and she was already 21-22 years old. He couldn't arrest him for that so he ran the plates and they came back as improper plates. He would take her and drive her every where from work to school etc. She was not allowed to go out. A family friend wanted to hit him with a bat because he asked his daughter if she likes sucking on lollipops and her mother, brothers, and other family members shrugged all this away as he is just playing because he has a reputation of doing it in front of people so when he does it when they are alone; everyone would say he is just playing? As my wife walks up the stairs he runs behind her to watch her(pretending he is talking to her). Twice he entered the bathroom while she was taking a shower the first time she didn't say anything until the second time I asked what the hell is he doing in the bathroom while you are taking a shower, she told him he didn't belong in there. We were in the car one day (he was driving) he asked me to move the car because he was at the hot dog stand and the car was double parked and someone wanted to get out. I went to adjust the mirror and it was facing down into the seat (leg and crotch area)toward the back seat where my wife was sitting. I was going to Home Depot with him and there was this 13 year old girl standing up against a car with tight shorts on and he said to me "What a beautiful fat P--sy she has". People at work would say before I even started dating her that my wife's father thought my wife was his girlfriend that they act like boyfriend and girlfriend but I was young and wasn't thinking like that at all. He had several girlfriends anyway. He would go through all my wife's mail (before we got married)and her diary, he even connected a tape recorder behind a dresser so he could later hear her conversations with me until her mother told her it was there, and she broke it into little pieces. He would wake her up every morning at 5a.m. telling her nonsense stories that he saw me with another girl bla bla bla. My wife has a family member who does not want him at the house nor around her children she suggested that I do the same. every time I suggest that; my wife goes on the defensive and wants to know why he cannot come over and see the children with my mother-in-law. That I need to grow up. Please, tell me as men what would you think and feel about this situation? What would you do. My wife likes to tell me that I am thinking to hard. What would you do as a husband that loves his wife dearly and said his vows and meant them? I am a devoted father and hard worker. My mother-in-laws side of the family disowned her because of him. Its a constant battle when her mother and father come around because she doesn't want him to feel bad. Please tell me what you think. I have heard stories and witnessed first hand what a manipulator he is.
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6/26/07
Name:
EMail: chad_595@msn.com
Question: I have finally gotten the state to stop the court order for childsupport, due to the circumstances of my case, However I feel I should have never been sought for support, since the biological father claimed paternity when the child was born, by voluntarily signing a paternity affidavit, DHS conducted a paternity study in 2001, which is when DHS discovered the biological father was the legal father of the child when pulling the child's birth records, I was not allowed to know I was part of a paternity study until 2005 when I could finally disestablish paternity, I ask how this could happen, and why it is not considered fraud, by the parent's and by the state of Iowa?
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6/24/07
Name:
EMail: TABASCORED71@AOL.COM
Question: Trying to get a lawyer in north carolina to help me with getting my 2 year old son my last name ..he has his mothers last name and since we werent together or married @ his time of birth she wont change it ..and im being told by my lawyer thers nothing i can do about it.... unless she changes it ... please help
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6/23/07
Name: Roy Lombardo
EMail: roy@newimageinvestigations.com
Question: I reside in NE PA. After 21 years of marriage my wife left me and moved to NJ. Our agreement was for me to see my children every other weekend. Needless to say that has not happened. You see she has to bring them to PA because I am legally blind and cannot drive, as well as other health issues. I live on disability $1300.00 a month. She works and is making good money. She left me with over $3000.00 in bills that includes taxes on the home that was bought for us by my mother and father, not that they have money you see at the age of 74 my dad was able to refinance his own home and purchased it for us. So she is also giving my family the royal screwing. You see my wife is a terrible liar all through our whole marriage, she told all our friends that with the tax return money she had to pay the taxes on the house, and just like everything else this was a lie. She said the same thing with this years taxes that her tax return money was spent on the taxes and again she did not pay them. I don't even know how much money we got back. All she would complain about constantly is how we never have any money, well what did she do with it because she did not even pay the monthly bills. To give you more insight in what we are dealing with, I was in the hospital near a diabetic coma and my wife was out with her married boyfriend. She left my children alone to run around with him with no care. When I called her family for help they all stopped talking to me because it was wrong of me to do this. Stupid me I took her back because I love my children and knew that she would sour our relationship as she is doing now. My oldest son is in the Marines and was over in Iraq fighting and she calls him and fills his head with all kinds of lies. Just so she could drain the kid of his money which he saved while fighting the war. What kind of mother would do this to her son when he has enough to worry about with staying alive. In return he called me and left a threating horrible message on my cell phone. Thank God in March he arrived home safely and she didn't even have the decency to call me and let me know. She did not even tell him to call his grandparents who put a roof over his head when we had no place to live because her wonderful brother made us leave his home which he rented to his sister when we were first separated. He told his sister that the house was sold and we had 24 hours to get out. This again was a lie, so as you see it runs in the family. As for our only daughter who graduated from high school this year, her mother told all of her friends at work and myself that she was going to get my daughter her class ring and yearbook and as it turned out it was a total lie. My wife did not even buy our daughter her cap and gown. My daughter told me this 1 week before graduation. She said Daddy I am not walking on graduation and I asked her why and she did not want to say she did not have her cap and gown, so instead of it costing me $20.00 I had to dig up $71.00 so our daughter could walk to get her diploma. Her prom was 2 weeks before graduation and her mother did not chip in 1 cent to help. Since my daughter borrowed a gown from her friend, her mother told her to give Daddy the $200.00 that my daughter saved to buy a gown so Daddy could put it toward the taxes. I bought my daughter her shoes and paid for her nails and hair to be done. Her mother did not even want to come up for her graduation because she knew my family would be there and she was too embarrased for herself. Needless to say my daughter at the age of 16 worked and gave her mother all of her paycheck because we were in financial difficulty. Her mother in turn could not even see to it that her daughter had a nice graduation. When my daughter asked my wife to help her pay her car insurance she told her get the money from your father. Father's day was my weekend, my wife told my youngest son who is 10 that he could not come to stay with me, he was not even allowed to call. He called my neighbor and told them that his mother would not allow him to come up. He is now out of school for the summer and was supposed to spend it with me and I have not even been able to speak to him on the phone. What kind of women would do this. I need some serious help I cannot afford an attorney. I hope that there is somebody out that that can put me in touch with an individual or an organization that can help me. Thanks Roy p.s. she treated my 3 year old son from a previous marriage so badly he did not even want to visit with me. So our relationship thanks to her is not great either.
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6/21/07
Name: cory
EMail: Nancy1@wmtel.net
Question: my daughter has not seen me since she was 14 she is now 16. All the lawyers say is that she is old enough to make her own decision and I cant do anything about it. Not sure if her mother has something to do with it or not. Ever since her mother and I split up her mother has tryed to keep the children away from me. When the children were younger the lawyers were able to help. Now that she is 14 they say it is up to her. If my daughter does not want to be part of my family do i still have to pay child support for some one that doesnt want to see me?
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6/19/07
Name: marcus
EMail: mandm204@earthlink.com
Question: I need someone to please give me a fathers rights group phone #'s for washington and florida state i have a very complicated case i need help bad and have already been through "the courts"
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6/15/07
Name: Chuck
EMail: cstrehlow2@wi.rr.com
Question: Divoce in March of 2007,court order her to pay for vehicle she turn it in. The vehicle loan is in my name, our home was sold on a short sale, I didn't get any letter from morgage company she was getting them and didn't bother telling me. This whole thing just keep getting me financially deepper in Debt. Does anyone know how I can put all my debt together for one monthly payment?
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6/14/07
Name: dane
EMail: alliread2000@yahoo.com
Question: The mother of my 10 yr old child just had another child 2 days ago, can she give him my last name even if I dont claim him? or sign the papers at the hospital stating I claim him? I wouldnt mind if he was mine, and when it comes down to the testing I wont mind, but can she do this?
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6/13/07
Name: will
EMail: wbruhmuller@knology.net
Question: i live in florida and I have a 15 year olg daughter who lives with my ex. What age can she decide to come live with me?
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6/7/07
Name: Victim of Paternity Fraud and Racial DIscriminatio
EMail: chad_595@msn.com
Question: I would like to ask if there are other men who have been wronfully sought for support of children they did not father? If so Let's all Band together and get the laws changed, There are laws in place, However they are not enforced by the state, allowing the state to continue to claim paternity and collect support knowing you were not the father, This is Fraud! Contact your state representives and take it to a higher level, Senator Tom Harkin has gotten my order for support discontinued, and the case reveiwed, I learned not only have I been paying support for a child I did not father, I was paying support when another man was recorded as the father but not sought due to race, and he claimed paternity, If you need help to fight paternity fraud, Let's Get Our Voices Heard, We have Rights, too!
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6/5/07
Name:
EMail: chenry88@bellsouth.net
Question: My girlfriend and i have just had a baby. we don't live together and we are 18 &19 yrs old. I was there when our daughter was born i got to cut the cord I was the first to hold her. Her mother has been the problem the problem the whole 2 yrs we've been together she has never liked me and I can honestly say I don't know why except that everytime we have had a disagreement she (girlfriend) goes and tells her momma lies about what has happened between us.I have just found this out in the last two days. But my problem is she is using our baby against me to get back at me for what ever reason. She didn't want our baby to have my last name and I didn't even have a choice to put my name on the birth certificate. I have been there through the whole pregnacy and to the Dr.s but when something goes wrong she uses the baby against me and want let me see her. I don't know what to do I don't have money for a lawyer and I'm about to go crazy cause I haven't seen my baby girl in a week. Please help me!!!
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6/5/07
Name: John
EMail: jmsmith186@yahoo.com
Question: My wife and I are married 20 yrs. We are both Christians. She says she doesn't think I'll ever change and wants someone else even though she says she loves me and knows I love her. She says she feels like 2nd best. I love her and said I'll do anything counseling, anything. She says I am verbally obusive. Which means If I talk down or speak with the wrong tone or don't give her 100% of my focus when she's talking, I do not yell at her or go out of my way to antagonize her, I don't know if shes going thru mid life crisis or what. but I don't feel that I'm abusive. She has yelled at me and berated me up one side and down the other, yet I am always willing to forgive her because I love her. We are still legally married, but shes dating other men. I have four children, ages 13, 10, 5, 4. Shes on title to the house, but I am the only one on the mortgage and have been for some time. She hasn't worked since 1994 when we started having kids. We purchased our home in 1991. She was a daycare teacher earning 180 a week, I am a programmer earning substantially more and paying most of the bills the majority of our marriage. I don't want to lose my house or kids or my wife but shes getting serious with a guy who shes not being totally truthful about. She uses Instant messenger and singlesnet.com, she signed me up on it and I have blocked the acct she made for me without telling her. She made up an email for me and I have blocked it too. If she is leaving me, I want to keep my kids and my house. She has a temper with our daughter and will use the belt on her. I was going to have the divorce stipulate that alimony stops when she remarries, but I will forgoe that until her share of the assumed profit of the sale of the house is reached. We owe 311K on the mtg. The house was valued at 440K. My kids come first. This will be hard enough on them. My oldest 2 boys should be able to decide who they want to live with full time, but I don't know what the law of Massachusetts dictates. I am at work for 8 hours and then home with my kids the remainder of the day. I help them with homework. I take care of the house, set out their clothes, make lunches for them, get them up for school and then leave for work. I want to make it as easy on them as possible. My wife is only thinking of herself. She is being selfish. She has been verbally obusive to me, but I overlook it for her and the kids. I am the main provider for a long time, I prefer to keep all my kids with me when she leaves. They should not have to pay for her selfishness. My younger 2 are 5 and 4 and I will arrange for help in the absence of my wife. My wife watches every penney. I do not want her to know that I am seeking legal council to protect myself and my children. There is no physical abuse or violence in our home other than my wife using the belt on my daughter. I always pray with my kids and remind them to keep God first in their hearts. We have alawys gone to church. We are of the protestant faith. I don't want my kids uprooted from their home and friends and schools. That would be detremental to their mental well being which comes first before me and my wife. I am not cheating on her, though she encourages me to go out with other friends. I will not do that. For me, that is morally wrong while married. My wife was assaulted by a man she met on the internet and she was still willing to give him another chance to be her friend, yet she cannot be my friend anymore. She is unforgiving and spiteful, but I would never do anything to bring harm to her or my kids. I don't know how long shes going to keep up the charade, but I want to be legally ready. I know both of us have the right to stay in the house. But I don't want her filing false reports and filing motions for me to vacate. She is the one seeking someone else. We talk, but I know she's hiding her intentions. Maybe God will intercede and help us. I'm praying for his help. But I have to be smart about this for my children. They are my first priority. Please advise me. I am a loving parent. I always take time for my kids, read stories, play games, talk with them, help with homework, go to their games and schools, plays, etc. I am very much involved in every part of their lives. I have 3 boys and a girl. My sons need me. They all hug me and kiss me on the cheek every morning and night. I'm afraid for my youngest son and daughter. Diane can have a real temper at times. What should I be doing. I want my kids to live with me and Diane can stay in the house with us if shes chooses to do so and she can see them anytime. I want them to stay with me in our home and keep everything as normal as possible. I feel victimized by my wife after 20 years of marriage she shows no loyalty or thanks for what I have provided for her and she pulls away from me and internalizes everything and then blasts me after keeping things in for weeks. I wish she would just talk to me each day about what bothers her. We used to pray together but she refuses to do so anymore and she is not willing to go to marriage counseling. Please help me and advice me.
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6/1/07
Name: David Campbell
EMail: david.campbell@cingular.com
Question: My general question is this...My ex is keeping my son from me this weekend which a scheduled visitation for me...and she says "well, you can come but we won't be here"...what is my recoarse in these situations because it is not the first time this has happened
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5/31/07
Name: scott
EMail: ozzypinkmountains@yahoo.com
Question: What if you go to court to fight a PFA and your spouse if found to have lied about everything - could she get evicted from the property or worse go to jail????
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5/30/07
Name: stan meer
EMail: BurkettApril@yahoo.com
Question: what are my child temperary custody rights in and over here in moorehead Kentucky
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5/26/07
Name:
EMail: normal967@yahoo.com
Question: Hello Faddas, My husband and I have hit a snag regarding his son. He is the non-custodial parent and his son lives with grandma and grandpa (mom is around in body if not in mind sometimes). The grandparents have a palatial home and make a practice of purchasing everything "John's" six-year-old heart desires. Rarely if ever is he told "no" outright. By contrast, we (myself, husband, my 10-year old son) live in a very small 2 bedroom house and are quite poor. However, my husband goes out of his way to provide good experiences (hikes, swimming, etc) for John when he visits every other weekend. This Friday is the second time my husband drove four hours to encounter his son throwing a hysterical fit at the prospect of having to go spend the weekend at his father's. It's true, we are cruel people--we make children sample asparagus--EVEN IF THEY DON"T WANT TO! On occasion, we have been known to make a child carry a plate to the sink (and sometimes we make the ten-year-old WASH THEM, gasp!) I'm making funnies here, but the point is: We're poor and we don't buy good behavior with toys. John doesn't like coming. The grandmother is butter-won't-melt to my husband's face, but I don't think she speaks well of him when he is not around. As the Stepmonster, I think that while it's inappropriate to allow a six year old to dictate the terms of his custody, I can also understand my husband's reluctance to drag his son kicking and screaming bloody murder from the ballpark where he'd just played...in front of his coach and all his friends. Talk about bad PR for Pops. I wonder if anyone can shed some light on our sitch from experience, and talk about next steps? I think family counseling is needed, but who, if anyone, to bring to the table besides John and my husband? Basically: how to keep every-other-weekend without making it a huge chore and evil punishment for John?
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5/21/07
Name:
EMail: dmtucker2@yahoo.com
Question: I am going to move to Alabama soon. I already have a job lined up there. My children are living in North Carolina with their mother. I have child support taken from my check at my job in NC. Can I mail in the payments myself after moving? What kind of papers do I have to sign before I can move?
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5/20/07
Name:
EMail:
Question: in april of 2004, my husband had a child with a woman 27yrs old. the child is now 3 yrs, and her mother has moved on to greener pastures. my husband and i remained married throughout and are still married. he supported her and the child up till june 2006, then we were in a horriffic motorcycle accident. my husband is disabled and probablly will never work again. am i, as his legal wife in the state of florida in any way responsible for the childs welfare leagally?
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5/20/07
Name: journeyman
EMail: dschopper@hotmail.com
Question: I need to find the best child custody lawyer for the fathers rights in IL, can anyone help.
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5/11/07
Name: Joel C
EMail: joel33139@yahoo.com
Question: I have been Divorced for about 10 years now. Eight of those years I spent homeless and drunk. I have stopped using alcohol and am trying to get my life back together. My Arrears are almost $60,000 now and I don't know how to get out from under it. I had my minimum payments reduced to $200 (from $600) a month. but my interest is still more then my minimum payment, so even with making that payment my arrears increase every month. Anyone have any ideas or at least offer some hope. Maybe someone out there has over come something like this before and can just tell me it can be done.
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5/10/07
Name: Rick
EMail: Ricktart2004@yahoo.com
Question: Hello. I live in Michigan and my girlfriend and I have just found out that she is pregnet. We got Medicaid so that she could go to the doctors, but now I am hearing things like I will end up having to payback Medicaid for the expences because I am the father. I have a good job and I will be able to insure the baby and he/she is born, but I dont want to have my checks garnished. My girlfriend lives with me, in my house, there will be no filling for child support, does that make any difference? Does anybody know anything about this? Any help would be great.
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5/2/07
Name: Chad Schroeder
EMail: chad_595@msn.com
Question: I was claimed to be the father of a child in 1989,just days after reaching the age of 18. However I have learned through DNA Testing, that I am not the father of the child. However I have learned the child's mother and Biological father gave false claims. When trying to obtain a copy of the child's birth records I discovered that the biological father of the child, had claimed paternity when the child was born, only to give false claims that he was not the father of the child on the basis of skin color, Claiming that because he is african american he was not the father, and this earned him the privelige of not being sought for support of his child, even though he has always been recorded as the father on the child's birth records, through signing a paternity affidavit. I have been ordered to pay support my whole adult life, on the basis of fraud and racial discrimination. My Question, is it racial discrimination, if I was sought for support on the basis of skin color? I thought CSRU laws claimed regardless of race all men can father a child, What earned this father the privelige of being sought for support?
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4/29/07
Name: charles
EMail: skullwolf3000@yahoo.com
Question: how do i stop the social services from useing my medical past againist me? i take meds for post tramatic stress disorder. that part of my life is well, no problems for 2 years now. i need help bringing my daughter home to me. she derserveds a real dad not a stranger to raise her. i was the last of my linage till she was born. please help me bring her home.
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4/28/07
Name:
EMail: lindajune48@hotmail.com
Question: how can I find out the age my daughter has to be in nys to decide which parent she wants to live with we have joint custody mom having physical. My daughter wants to live with me. My x doesn't help her in school says she has to finish her education and doesn't make sure she has her asthma meds says it's her responsability she is 7.
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4/22/07
Name:
EMail: melt780@hotmail.com
Question: my in laws are going to stay with us after our daughter is born, and Im worried that my father in law may over step his boundaries and be too over protective over my daughter. How should i handle this if it happens. and has anyone else experienced this?
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4/22/07
Name:
EMail: melt780@hotmail.com
Question: My wife told me that she would like to have her father present when she delivers. I didnt like that idea because i thought that the moment should be ours. Do I have a right to feel that way or not. please explain answer..
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4/18/07
Name: N
EMail: hancockn@vmcmail.com
Question: My ex is talking about moving out of state. She is very unstable. She has moved 13 times since our divorce three+ years ago and cannot hold a steady job for longer than a month or so. Do I have a shot of getting custody of my 4 yr old dsughter?
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4/17/07
Name: Lance
EMail: lanny0828@yahoo.com
Question: I have two seperate orders against me right now, I live in Iowa and I have a (13)and (9)year old by the same female and only have $2,200 in back child support and I also have a (11)year old that I am current with as of this month, I have a court order for medical for all (3)I have been struggling to make ends meet, what would I have to do to get my payments dropped,but I am kind of scared to ask for a review since I am almost current with everyone, and my payments might get increased now. I love my kids dearly but I have worked hard to get current, it would be nice to get a income tax check for once instead of it getting intercepted.Please if you have any advice please inform me. Thanks
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4/15/07
Name: Shahpour
EMail: srt5657@aol.com
Question: As having a joint custady , what are my rights? Do I have saying on my daughters treatment for being bipolar, if aprove of the DR or method of treatment?
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4/15/07
Name: ryan
EMail: ohuggins13@yahoo.com
Question: I am trying to find out how to start child support while being the non-custodial parent. I moved to south carolina because i made a mess of any opprtunities i had in Iowa. The mother and my daughter where supposed to be coming down to take advantage of this life changing and beneficial opportunity, however, the mother backed out last minute for reasons I will never understand and she has no job. I will do everything i can to provide my daughter with everything she needs, so if anyone could tell me how i could go about getting child support started as the non-custodial parent you would be doing my daughter and i a great service. Thank you
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4/13/07
Name: curt
EMail: jennifer84@cox.net
Question: Tring to get wayne county Michigan to agree that money sent to my sons college, instead of custodial parent, should be considered as payment.. during this time he had already moved out of state as was living on campus here in Virginia.. Any one with court case info for awarding such thing would be appreciated
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4/12/07
Name: Patrick
EMail: homesellerpatrick@yahoo.com
Question: My son was born on April 9, 2007..this past Monday..The mother refuses to speak with me because she is angry over personal issues because I wouldn't move to Iowa. I want to take care of my responsibility as I have always stated to her. I want to be in my son's life...When I refused to move to Iowa so we could be a "family"...she has done nothing but malicious things (indirectly) to make me angry....i.e. she won't return my calls, she won't answer my calls, she didn't list me as the father and I have no rights to this child.....What do I do from this point on? I want to be a part of my sons life but no one will talk with me about ANYTHING!! What happend to the parents that care???? HELP!!!!
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4/5/07
Name: eanb
EMail: jnbonaven@comcast.net
Question: Do I really need a lawyer to get a modification for my chilsupport, I need to reduce it and my late payment,Now I owe $33.000. Can anyone help me in this matter
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4/5/07
Name:
EMail: mindib96@yahoo.com
Question: My adopted 14 yr old daughter from my exes first husband does not want to come over on my weekends anymore. How much should I enforce her to come over and make both lives stressful? I live in Illinois, is it mandotaory that she comes over by the courts eyes?
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3/29/07
Name:
EMail: big_southrn_boy@yahoo.com
Question: My daughter turns 18 in june 2007 how far in advance my i petition the courts to stop my child support. and how is this done in tampa fl. where do you go to to have this done
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3/22/07
Name:
EMail: jdingle@vitec-usa.com
Question: My ex ask the friend of the court here in Michigan to increase my child support and I was told to submit 3 checks stubs but the problem is I was doing a lot of overtime and when they sent me the paperwork I was ordered to pay 723$ a month unless I objected to the amount. I don't have a problem paying Childs support because I love my son dearly but overtime is not a steady here in the automotive industry. I was wondering can they do that or will they take another look at my situation when I tell them why I am not able to do that, and show them that overtime is not steady. Friend of the court thinks I make 4,500 a month when without overtime I make 3,200 $ monthly. I am covering for a lady that broke her hip so that's why I do so much overtime. Please tell me what to do. my ex was willing to give me joint custody for my son but now that this paperwork has came and she seen this dollar amount, I know she wont do it now. I have been the one to take my son to all his doctor appointments, he has lived with me for a year to get his grades up, and I have never been late in a payment.
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3/21/07
Name: mannie
EMail: kdepew_07@yahoo.com
Question: i have a year old daughter whom i have only physically seen once. the grandmother of my daughter currently has custody and wont allow me to see her. my life is all together but yet incomplete knowing i have a daughter that im refused to be able to see. im currently in the process of trying to get joint custody but i was wondering if i would have a good chance considering i am the childs parent and not a grandparent. if anyone could email me with some advice that would be great. thank you
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3/18/07
Name: steve wooley
EMail: steve_bad_azz@yahoo.com
Question: how do you stop your exwife from dragging the child in the middle?
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3/16/07
Name:
EMail: marklogan4@hotmail.com
Question: can my soon to be x wife get a restraining order for my new girlfrield away form my kids. when she is not a fellon or nothing
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3/14/07
Name:
EMail: ddeters77@yahoo.com
Question: My boyfriend had a child that is ten years of age. He has always been in his life, and has paid child support. Sad to say, he has never established paternity. They both ageed on handeling it outside court. In other words she holds the ball in her court. Lately he does not get to see him that often, and argues with her because of that.He does have proof of checks for the last ten years. My questions is, is it to late to establish paternity? If not, what about visitation? I am so tired of her playing these silly games. She knows she has the power now, and it's her way or no way. It really urks me on how some of these mothers, use the kids to their advantage. I feel so sorry for my boyfriend, and other fathers out there. Please,if anyone has been there or knows of anyone let me know. Any information will be helpful and appreciated!!!
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3/13/07
Name: Alex
EMail: sunnyskies440@aol.com
Question: Can thay get you for child support if you move to Canada? also i belive the only state or country thay can not touch you is mexico and i am 100 persent thay can not touch you at all in costa rica the only thing thay can touch you for in costa rica is murder but i am not for sure in mexico i belive if you are mexican thay can"t touch you that is what i was told from a mexicon. i know my husband x is a bitch and he suppose to pay $1200 a month for two kids. and she doesn"t even let him see the kids we took her to court and in fla it means shit the man doesn"t have a leg to stand on he is 55 and he is a sick man i have every thing in my name so she won"t get it but we are geting ready to leave the united states because it sucks anybody wants to e-mail me you can sunnyskies440@aol.com us sucks fathers you don"t have a chance so save your money and get the hell out of the country start a new life in a new country if you go to jaco costa rica it is beautifull and most of all all americans and you can get a job there a lot of people will hire americans thay love americans you also can get a job in conscrution cisino on boats every thing there thay have jobs just like the states the paper is go on tico times or amcosta rica
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3/11/07
Name: don
EMail: shannon48617@yahoo.com
Question: hi, i am wondering if anyone can tell me if i still have to pay child support for my 16 yr old that will be 17 next month when she has ran away and is now living with her boyfriend for the last 3 months. her mother does not care because i am still paying support. my daughter has been in and out of trouble with the law since age 10. she was charged with cocaine and marijuana delivery in january with her bf. she was in juvie for 15 days and took off to her bf's again she has not gone to school since dec. does anyone know the answer to this question under michigan law. foc is no help at all and does not care. nothing new there. thanks
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3/2/07
Name:
EMail: ericstmp@yahoo,com
Question: Hi i hope someone can help me with this one. I have been married for ten years. We have three childeren together. About three years ago My wife and I started talking about moving to washington state to be closer to her sister. For the past two years my wife has been attending nurseing scool to get her Rn. This is somthing that she wanted to do for a long time. We found out that we were going to have a child. It was unexpected. My wife put a hold on her schooling. In that time we had two more childeren. My son is nine years my little girl is 5 and my youngest just turned 3. So two years ago she started attending school. After her schooling we were all going to move out to washing state and start a new life together. Over the past two years i took care of the kids so that she could do so. I work on a golf course in the summer so I could take care of the kids in the winter wile she went. This was perfect because she could go to school and in the winter i get laid off. We live in a apartmet in her moms house. so we really don't pay rent or anything so we were able to do this til she got out of school and then on to washing ton. everyone was so excited to move. After all thease years we were finally going to do this. Why she was attending school I kinda became the mother and father. In thease two years I have formed a strong bond with the kids. I took my son to all his football practicees and my girl to all her cheerleading things. I am not looking for a pat on the back or anything because That what a good father does. This past December 10 days before christmas she went to washington to go look at a few places she can go. She met with three nursing recruters This was the first time she was away from the kids and myself.My wife is the kind of person who does everything for everyone els and nothing for herseld. She is A awsome mother and to tell you the truth she was a awsome wife to. We met in high school and were together for 12 years. we got married a little young but we would not change it in a million years. Besids the normal arguments everone has we really got along well. So she went to washington. She was arriving late christmas eve. The next day I woke up to my kids laughing. my wife and two sons were lying on the bed. My kids went up to their grand mothers house. I didnot wanted to make a big deal if front of her but I really missed her alot. I went into the room to give my wife a hug and kiss. I said to her I missed you alot and she said you did and I said yes. I asked her if she missed me and she said not really. she sat up in bed and started to cry. I asked her what was wrong and seh said that intil i was away I did not realize how unhappy she was with me. She said her and her sister had so much fun and that she has not had fun like that in years. She also told me that she wants a divorce and did not want me to go with her and my three kids to move. I never saw it comming I had no idea she was so unhappy and she said i did not know either. Any way. I was going to move with them and get my own place so I could be with the kids. well about a month age I heard her talking on the phone with some guy and she said we will be together soon and that she loves and misses him. All she told me is that she feels she missed out on alot of things and that we only knew eachother and noone else that struck me wierd. So when she got off the phone I asked her who she was talking to and she told me her sister. I could not say anything to her because i wasin't sure. So she came downstairs and asked me whats wrong and I said nothing wrong but you better go to school before it's to late. I told my inlaws about this because the reasons that she gave them for divorcing did not add up. Any way very nicely I confronted her about it. She assured me nothing was true that it is all in my head. She came home from school and said that she and the kids were going to her friends house for the night. The next morning her mother came down stairs and told me to get out of thhe house. I asked why and she said just leave. I left and she said don't come back. I went to stay withe my sister a couple of days to get away. two days later The police show up to my sisters house three hours away from my wife and seavved wi with a pfa. She said I physically and mantally abused her and and that my kids were afraid of me. After all of happened I was not sure about alot of things but I will tell you this If im sure about one thing my kids love me and I love them. She was backed into a corner and is going to do what ever it takes yo move. What are the chances of going to cort and asking them not to let her go to washing with the kids. I want to do the wright thing but I don't know what that is So I was forced to move in with my sister for a wile. The court gave me everyother weeking and one night a week. I just started a new job and I really don't want to move She cant leave without written concent from me to move. She filed for full custody and she says that no juge will grant me custody of them because she at the moment can provide bettetr for them I am so scared of loosing the kids I was a good dad and always will be but I really want to see the kids grow up and still go to the football gamezs or the cristmas play or just to the park. I did it for all of there lives and I don't want to give that up. if I fight her on it I am scared that the juge is going to side with her and She can go and right now it is not possible to move out there and They are acrossed the country and I will never be able to see them grow up Is there any one who might have had this problem And share what the juge did.
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2/27/07
Name: Michael
EMail: cm_heim@hotmail.com
Question: I recently found out that I have fathered a child during a seperation with my wife two years ago. The child will be two in April and I just started paying child support and found out about him in September. Since then the mother will not return phone calls, and we are not even sure where she is located all we know is her parent's phone number and no one will give us information. I talked to an attorny about visistation and he said with me living in Oklahoma and them in South Dakota it would be pretty hard based on how old the child is. So my question is, do I have no rights? They are making it out that it's my fault I haven't been in his life all this time... I didn't even know anything! I have three other children to support and they weren't taken into consideration when child support payments were established...I don't know what to do anymore...can someone help me?
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2/26/07
Name: Vera
EMail: veronique_chambord@yahoo.com
Question: Does anyone know of an attorney in Los Angeles area who has experience with Borderline personality disorders and is not pro-mother? Could you help me and my husband to get a pro to fight against child-neglecting narcissistic ex-spouse in court.
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2/22/07
Name:
EMail: cmick@prtel.com
Question: in minnesota they have passed a law that would include both spouses income for determining support, does anyone know if this is retroactive?just a comment from someone who has been getting the short end forever,all this crapola about deadbeat dads would not exist if we would have some accounability as far as where the money goes, i have paid for house additions new cars snomobile moteorcycles and i was once thrown in jail till i came up with 1500.oo and then she took a trip to europe....and get this...to see the pope!!! good luck men you are going to need it.remember were all in this together
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2/21/07
Name:
EMail: joe_krisha@verizon.net
Question: At what age does a child have the right to live where he/she choses
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1/31/07
Name: chuck
EMail: schwab_chuck@yahoo.com
Question: im behind in child support payments.but struggle to pay.how can iget a lawyer to help me when i have no money?
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1/31/07
Name: michael
EMail: hlnmcc30@yahoo.com
Question: If I owe childsupport and claim my dauhther on my taxes what will happen?
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1/28/07
Name:
EMail: dep_gary@yahoo.com
Question: I have my daughter 46% and her mother has her 54% I am need advice on what to do to gain equal time with my daughter. I am a police officer, re-married, pay my child support and health insurance and have her almost as much as her mother. I would like to have equal time with my daughter.
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1/24/07
Name: jon
EMail: andersonjon180@hotmail.com
Question: My question is i haven't seen my kids in 7 yrs. Try to pay $756 a month in child support. Which is very hard. I want some kind of justice. My oldest daughter just turned 13 on the 17th of january. And my youngest will be 11 in march. Not a day goes by that i don't see think about them. And my other question is I got a letter in the mail yesterday, stating i missed a court apperance about my child support. Now i have a bench warrant out for me. Is there a way to get out of all this shit. Dad looking for help in iowa.
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1/23/07
Name:
EMail: fire_n_ice_2006@hotmail.com
Question: I am I obligated to pay support for my son once he graduates from high school and moves unto college?
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1/19/07
Name: donnie
EMail: nanjjames@yahoo.com
Question: wondering if any one knows of a case where the parents each got custody of one child each when there were two children involved and one child has autisum
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1/12/07
Name:
EMail: mds19761@msn.com
Question: Hi, I need help. I've been paying over 500 a month in cs since my daughter was born, not a problem with that my problem is I haven't seen my daughter in over 3 years, the mother won't let me. My family sees her and I hear that my daughter is not being taken care of with my money. The mother has 2 other children with different men and has gotten married to a man with 6 other children and my money goes to take care of them. My family says my daughter never has clothes and always looks horrible, not a happy little girl like she should and since the mother won't let me see her I don't know what to do. My family called social services and the mother was found guilty of child abuse, enough to put her on the abuse registry list, but not enough to lose custody and give me my daughter. What is that. Now what??
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1/8/07
Name:
EMail: truck2bike@yahoo.com
Question: I am being told now in jan. that my lic. has been sup.since sept. no contact to let me no that untill i go to get my lic. renued. now i know my lic. is sup.must stop work untill fixed but the problem is no lic. no work. when they did let me no about the lic. sup. i was paying on time.now i no they're sup. can't work,lic.sup. again. they sent me papers to renstate my lic. but did not send all the papers so i could get my lic. so therefore i must wait on them to send the papers. meanwhile no work, no money, payment behind again. and i wouldn't call that a easy mistake. two cases send one release. they have been doing me this for years.i really need some help. filed for hearing two or three years ago.no hearing yet. i don't think they want to give me one. seems obv.
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12/31/06
Name: Kyle
EMail: redneckbogger86@yahoo.com
Question: Hello i am new to this site. I am having some difficulty with my situation. I am married i have a recent newborn. My wife and i have been at odds and ends for the last year. I have been thinking about getting a divorce. But i am scared that she would get custody of my children. If any body can help i would be very appreciated. Thank you Kyle
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12/28/06
Name: sophy
EMail: sophy5k@yahoo.com
Question: I know this is a place for dads, but I need help. My exboyfriend has not supported our son for the past 8 years. He has always told me he needs to get himself to gether first. I have never denied him the privelige to see our son. Last month I told him I was planning to move SC from NYS. He has filed a paternity as well as custody papers. Can the NYS court prevent me from moving?
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12/26/06
Name: troy
EMail: sawyer2503@yahoo.com
Question: is it normal for a father to allow a 3 year daughter to bathe and shower with him?
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12/25/06
Name:
EMail: heatherchander@yahoo.com
Question: My husband has a little boy who is now 1yrs.old. He and I got together after he and his EX Girlfriend broke up. She was about 5months along and she said it wasn't his son, after she had him he took a DNA b/c now it was his all of a sudden. He had the test done at a place that was closed and opened just for them (Her family has alot of money and provides her with everything and loved my husband)anyways the DNA came out 99.8 his so we believe even though it was a weird thing for them to open just for their test, that it is his son. she is impossible to deal with. how do we get the courts to see him as the father? He already pays child support. We want rights but she doesn't want him to b/c we got married and now they hate one another. Now we don't have much money at all with our bills, childsupport, and now we have a daughter to take care of also. Any advice or suggestions would help. We would like to do as much of it ourself as possible. We live in GA... Thanks for your help!
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12/24/06
Name: Paul
EMail: GaDog66@aol.com
Question: I am recently remarried did not tell my ex-wife till after the fact, I told her and she threaten to sue for full custody of my 2 children. She does not want my kids any where near my new wife. My new wife make 5 times as much money as me, paid off all my debt, plays with the kids and the kids love her, but the ex-wife apparently has not gotten over the relationship, she is currently in theraphy and has been for years and does not work, we are her sole support. I recently left the USMC after 12 years since my son was having so many problems, we have been divorced for 3 years. Currently we have joint legal custody, but she has full custodial custody. Any suggestions, my wife states let her sue and we should counter sue for full custody, she believes we could provide a more stable and loving enviroment,, my ex would yell at the kids alot. Any suggestions, I am afraid of losing my kids I am a very active dad and get them every weekend
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12/23/06
Name: Robert
EMail: robertcorieir@msn.com
Question: Really need some advice please so I don�t blow this very dedicate situation. However I�m only able to express a small run down of the circumstances I believe I should be able to be pointed in the right direction. I�ve gone though 2 useless lawyers and 5,000, when the retainer ran out so did there work �big surprise�. Without getting into a 20 month horror episode the run down is not all uncommon. I was disabled 5 years ago and unable to work. Wife goes to collage for teaching degree and graduates. Wife finds a new internet boy friend 3000 miles away. On the pretext of going there for job interviews shakes up with the gentleman. Returns home two days later packs her bags the two minor children and move to Mom�s house. Calls and says I want full custody and the right to move out of state. I said I wanted joint custody and I would have to approve any moves because of my fixed income would not be able to move just anywhere. She stated I�m never taking to you again and hung the phone up. From that day forward I suddenly became abusive. I went from a full time stay at home Dad to getting 12 hours a week during summer after not seeing them at all for 6 weeks. Each and every visit was disrupted, indigenized or not all. The case went from expedited to tail court I fired the first attorney. I attempted to contempt charges the judge didn�t go for it. I filed to restrict her to Erie country unless notified do to fear of fight the Judge didn�t go for it. I order counseling the judge let her pick the counselor my objection wasn�t taken in consideration. The children at this point came out and said I refuse to come with during there visitation. I met with the counselor She states she want 1 or to visits with the kids and would incorporate me in the sessions �never happened� I hirer another useless attorney , in the mean time the law garden that first told me to continue to pick the kids up even if they say no. Then she write a e mail and states do to the counselors request I�m asking you not to pick the children up I will inform the courts you are doing this at my request and without prejudice. The transcripts clear state I wasn�t ever giving up my right to access. However the order was written I gave access up until the counselor gave permission which of course I would never have agreed to that. The new lawyer takes over I told him to get the transcripts he said he read them and I give my right up. He lied he never read them. The layer filed a order to show cause and of course the Judge had no other choice but to follow the Illegal order which to this date he doesn�t know what happen. Trail gets set we both have to have mental heath exams she lie 6 major times on hers. Such as have you ever been arrested. Trail date comes up the judge goes though a big dissertation of what ashamed it is that a agreement couldn�t be met and the children have to involved in court. My Lawyer states he didn�t know there was room at this time for a agreement the judge yes there is we break. I agree to 3 months supervised visitation without a change of circumstances to have regular visitation. Actually really agree to this because a neutral party would have observed how well the children and I do interact, a witness in other words. She never showed up. The law guardian claimed my son refused to go. However, she had abducted the children and is in Palm Springs California. That would be a good reason my son didn�t want to go. Good thing you got the readers digest version huh. Questions: Where does one start and what paper do I file. Who regulates the law guardian so I can file a complaint? The counselor was also in contempt of the court order. I�m disabled as mentioned is there any advocates that can help me I simply am unable to do this work I get very sick from it. Any suggestions or recommendation will be greatly appreciated.
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12/17/06
Name: Kathy
EMail: kat3tsmom@cox.net
Question: My son is in the middle of a divorce. His wife left him when she was four months pregnant. She's had the baby, the courts have ordered my son to pay child support which he happily does and is paid ahead. The baby is one month. We just found out that she gave the baby her maiden name. Their divorce is not final, final court date is Jan. 29 2007. Does anyone have any knowledge or advice as how to go about getting the baby's last name changed to my son's and adding his name as father to the birth cerificate. We live in Iowa.
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12/14/06
Name: Sad father
EMail: treybryant69@yahoo.com
Question: I am a singal father who just went to Iraq, i had to leave my son with his mother. she is not living up to her part of the deal with my son. she is now wanting to ask for custody of my son. I have already been grated custody of him but in a differnt state what can i do to fight this while i am over here?
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12/12/06
Name: ALI
EMail: Alijarmon@msn.com
Question: Its amazing to me to hear of the constant complaints and they're all the same complaints, but when you are advised what to do we never do anything. together we stand divided we fall. Child support is something we all have to come together on. the attorneys are using us,playing on our emotions. The lawyers want it this way because they're getting rich off of us.I have a program that guarantees everyone legal represntation, but we are too selfish to do it. all it would cost is (1) dollar a month I guarantee we could get these laws changed if you are interested call me if you are about change, if not stop complaining (513)371-6740 or Alijarmon@msn.com Ask for Ali
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12/12/06
Name: ALI
EMail: Alijarmon@msn.com
Question: Its amazing to me to hear of the constant complaints and they're all the same complaints, but when you are advised what to do we never do anything. together we stand divided we fall. Child support is something we all have to come together on. the attorneys are using us,playing on our emotions. The lawyers want it this way because they're getting rich off of us.I have a program that guarantees everyone legal represntation, but we are too selfish to do it. all it would cost is (1) dollar a month I guarantee we could get these laws changed if you are interested call me if you are about change, if not stop complaining (513)371-6740 or Alijarmon@msn.com Ask for Ali
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12/11/06
Name: wife of NCP
EMail: jebjcjsh@msn.com
Question: Hi. I would like to know if anyone has had a similar experience with a child support agency. When we established CS in 2002 my husband and I had just married and were told when we have kids we will could have the CS lowered, as they would take that into consideration. WRONG! We asked for a modification in 2004 as we had twins in 2003 and I was staying home with them since daycare is so expensive. We had only my husbands income coming in. We filled out the forms and got a notice Jan. 2005 that our mod. was reviewed and they stated CS would stay the same. They did not allow a credit for our 2 children because, according the the letter we received with the decision, you must meet the 20% variance first! and then they will acknowledge you have other children. I talked to an attorney (although who can afford one of those) and he told me that is not right and they should have given us at least a deduction (even though that wouldn't have changed the amount they are going to take). Anyone have a similar experience?
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12/9/06
Name: David
EMail: davidclaxton@insightbb.com
Question: Without trying to go through everything I feel the sting of being a man when it comes to courts. My defense against her attacks was flawless but found me having supervised visitation just like she threatened me had I left her. I was awarded guidlines at least by Indiana after almost a year of not seeing my sone, and three months of being supervised. It was pending a pysc evaluation that the order had been done. My p[ysc evavluation came back with exactly as was stated myself and my attorney. However, hers came back with an axis two personality disorder. My attorney told me to leave it alone and hope for the best. Now here I am, I moved to another state to be closer to familly but am only 6 hours away. I filed paperwork with the court for my address change well above the alloted time frame. Before I had filed she had canclled all visitation. Now, its been almost 8 months since I have gotten a normal visit. Not a single phone call returned, AND now I am finding out that they have moved and I have recieve no notice. The guidlines default to Christmas, Springbreak and 7 weeks out of the summer. I did not get my 4 weeks or everyother weekend. I cant even call my son, get school reports, or anything the way I was supposed to get them. I do not have the money to hire an attorney, there is no way I can borrow anything else to do so, the pysc evealutation cost me 1 k and my wife now (Who I met DURING the divorce that I started) parents loaned it to me not to mention the other stuff. I pay my support all the time, I am behind only in what the court felt had to be paid while I was awaiting the court order to pay. That is being whittled down in a payment arrangement the court said. She lied, she had a bad pysc evaluation, she moves without telling, changes numbers withouttelling and wont let me see my son. I am scared to go back through the same court since they have railroaded me. I dont know what to do. I want to see my son, I want to be a dad, I can even go the 6 hours away to never miss a game if I was told about them. HElp me please someone
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11/28/06
Name: Christina
EMail: christiewhit@bellsouth.net
Question: Hi my fiance has two children in Florida. He got laid off and behind on the child support. I couldn't help him keep it up. It is almost 900.00 a month. They suspended his driver license. Does anyone know how we can get them re-instated? He has a job now and is trying to pay everything back. But we are looking and 1000's of dollars behind. I mean how can they expect someone to work if they can't drive and forth. We live in the country and there is no means of public transportation. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks, Christina
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11/25/06
Name: Frustrated
EMail: kdark@murney.com
Question: My husband has a daughter with a lady that he was never married to. The daughter has his last name and he pays child support , however the mother does not let the daughter see him , she has been to our home maybe 3 times this past year. I know the mother from many years ago and I was around when she became pregnant and I listened to all the negative things she would say about him! , I know for a fact she said negative's about the father around the little girl and I'm sure nothing has changed. I know she has allienated the daughter to the point that the little girl does not want to see her dad. My husband is so frustrated he has gotten to the point of just giving up . None of his phone calls ever get answered or returned . He would like to just give up his parental rights. Is this possible and how would we go about it? Will we still have to pay child support afterwards? Does the mother have to agree to it too? Thank You
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11/23/06
Name:
EMail: eneri1@comcast.net
Question: I gave up my parental rights for step dad to adopt my biological daughter. He died 2 yrs ago and now she is interested in me. Mom made the relationship hard so I did what I thought would be best. She is 16 yrs of age. Wht are the legalities of being in contact with her if she wants it?
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11/23/06
Name:
EMail: eneri1@comcast.net
Question: I gave up my parental rights for step dad to adopt my biological daughter. He died 2 yrs ago and now she is interested in me. Mom made the relationship hard so I did what I thought would be best. She is 16 yrs of age. Wht are the legalities of being in contact with her if she wants it?
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11/23/06
Name:
EMail: sasisa65@yahoo.com
Question: What can I do if mother of 12 year old girl won�t let mi see Auer daughter. My ex wife is leaving with another man and had another child with him and the only thing that a now of him is that his name is Jose, and when I call to get information regarding why they wont let mi see Auer daughter he answers and say ��no a told you,, you cant see your daughter y wont let you see your daughter �� In the day care center the lady in charge tells me that since am not register to pick here up she won�t even let me see here. In school the principal told me that I can not see our daughter because of a talk we hade and she doesn�t feel comfortable talking too me, plus because of that talk we had she was going with a psiquiatra , that was a E-mail the principal send me on SEP.- 12- 2006. All of these happen on AUG.-4- 2006, We just to pick up my daughter in here house in the day care center and in school every other week whit not that much trouble since we got divorce in Az. And move to Calexico, Ca. that was on 2004. Whit joint legal custody being mother the primary care giver of minor child Do I have rights as a father or can they just denied my visitations rights because of a talk we had my daughter and me. please help me. Thank you. and please excuse my wreathing, 11/23/2006..
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11/22/06
Name: Steve
EMail: sgriffith56@frontiernet.net
Question: My son's mother has custody. He just turned 15. He was arrested in July 2006 for Child Molesting. Actually, when he was 14, he and a boy of 12 played the game of show me yours I'll show you mine. My son is emotionally about 10 or 11. Now, I am told by the Judge that I can not visit him until I take a class on Adult Non-Offender education. There is no such class available where I live, which is in another state. Can a judge legally keep me from seeing my son? I have had visitation with him many times before, and he has stayed with me for 2-3 weeks at a time. The judge practically told the mother that she is unfit. Most of his emotional problems stem from her emotional abuse of him as a child. Can I appeal this to a higher court? I want to take him over the Holidays. Any Advise? Thanks...I cannot afford an attorney.
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11/20/06
Name:
EMail: spngbob1@optonline.net
Question: MY WIFE IS FILING FOR DIVORCE SHE CLAIMS THAT SHE CAN PERSUAD THE COURTS TO ALLOW HER TO TAKE BOTH CHILDREN AND RELOCATE TO ANOTHER STATE WITHOUT MY CONSENT IS THIS POSSIBLE OR JUST A THREAT?CAN THE JUDGE ALLOW THIS?
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11/20/06
Name: robert
EMail: sunflowerprince04@yahoo.com
Question: hi guys i need little help me and this girl was together a few years and now we apart but we was never married and she not let me see my son and he has her last name mine is not on his bith cert any where and i have no proof to show court he is mine for visitation what do i do i cant afford to do alot so im not sure what my options are
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11/19/06
Name: derek
EMail: derek.mccuaig@sympatico.ca
Question: K guys i need to ask you this question. I pay 530/ monthd for my 3 year old daughter. For the past 5 months I have hooked back up with her mother and she lives here 80 percent of the time. I asked her the other day about chils surpport and she lost it on me. Her response was I HAVE to pay until we live under the same roof. Is there something I am missing>?
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11/14/06
Name:
EMail: dbhrkirkland@yahoo.com
Question: My wife quit her job on Oct. 1, 2005. On the 24th of that month I discovered she was having an affair. We separated and she left me with our 10 month old little boy. I was having trouble making ends meet so I went to the tn. child support office to file a claim for child support. I then went to a lawyer to file for divorce. The child support people closed my case because I got a lawyer for my divorce. Tn requires that a divorce with a child be filed for at least 90 day. It also requires a parenting plan with visitation, etc. spelled out. My X agreed to supervised visitation and the formulated child support set forth by tn law. It also requires that both parents attend a parenting class before the court date. Of Course, my X refused to take the parenting class until the date after our first court date, which put our court date off to a later date. Still no child support was coming in. Here is my problem. My X refused to abide by the parenting plan we both signed before our divorce date. She would take off with my son without the approved supervision he was to have, bringing him back, thank god in time for me to pick him up at the end of her visitaiton time. She also paid only $400 from Oct, 2005 to July 7, 2006 ( date divorce and perenting plan signed by judge and filed in court). Two months then went buy and still she was not paying child support. She also wanted me to allow her to let my son spend the night with her new boyfriend, who by the way was married to someone else. The state of Tn has arranged child support and back child support bact to July. How do I get back child support for my son from Oct. 2005 to July, 2006?
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11/13/06
Name: ollieollie
EMail: none@none.none
Question: My girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. Because of the Bias court system she dont beleive in taking child support and taking a man for everything he has and going through the headach of doing all that stuff, my girlfriend would like to voluntary give me SOLE CUSTODY of the child and relinquish her rights so " quote on quote" "IF" she ever decides to leave me in the future that I would not be responsable for anything because I would have the child in my poession. So basicly it would all fall on her. My question is, we live together and want to stay together and get married someday and i dont want child support from her if anything should ever happen. Can this be done??????
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11/12/06
Name:
EMail: joanrocco@yahoo.com
Question: I signed a seperation agreement with my ex-wife a few years back and in this agreement it stated that I was to pay a certain ammount of child support for our 2 kids, based on the ammount of money I was making at the time. I recently lost my job and am now working a new job paying less money. When I went to court to change the ammount of money being paid in child support, I was told that I signed the sep. agreement and now I signed my rights away to ever pay anything but what is written in there. What I want to know is, is it possible for them to change the 25% for 2 children law that is written in the child support law? This is a significant ammount of money more that they want me to pay now and I just can't afford it. I have another court date coming up soon and I really need some advice. My lawyer is doing the best he can to help me, but everybody's hands are tied. I never signed an opting-out agreement, so shouldn't the laws still be intact??
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11/12/06
Name:
EMail: joanrocco@yahoo.com
Question: I signed a seperation agreement with my ex-wife a few years back and in this agreement it stated that I was to pay a certain ammount of child support for our 2 kids, based on the ammount of money I was making at the time. I recently lost my job and am now working a new job paying less money. When I went to court to change the ammount of money being paid in child support, I was told that I signed the sep. agreement and now I signed my rights away to ever pay anything but what is written in there. What I want to know is, is it possible for them to change the 25% for 2 children law that is written in the child support law? This is a significant ammount of money more that they want me to pay now and I just can't afford it. I have another court date coming up soon and I really need some advice. My lawyer is doing the best he can to help me, but everybody's hands are tied. I never signed an opting-out agreement, so shouldn't the laws still be intact??
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11/10/06
Name: Jim
EMail: jimjimrf@ctaz.com
Question: does anybody no how to legally separate yourself from a 43 year old son who says he is going to aggravate you into to having a heart attack an dies .
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11/9/06
Name: Tom
EMail: tommyj0428@hotmail.com
Question: I have joint custody of my 8 year old son in NY. My ex has physical custody, however I have my son more time than she does. My question is: Can I take my son on vacation to Disney world in Florida? She says she will sign a permission slip, but I don't trust her. Can she change her mind after I have already paid for the trip? Can I be arrested for taking my son out of the state?
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11/7/06
Name:
EMail: alwilt2@yahoo.com
Question: I am a florida resident, my daughter wants to come live with me, she lives in ohio she is 14. At what age can a child decide witch parent she wants to live with?
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11/6/06
Name: dean
EMail: whosyadaddy2@hotmail.com
Question: how do i go about getting my son he says he wants to live with me an every sunday is the same i take him home to his mum an leave in tears
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11/6/06
Name:
EMail: gmillerjr@hotmail.com
Question: What do I do to stop child support from coming out of my paycheck since my son is living with me and he is in school in my district, he is in the 11th grade. What forms do I need to send into to Court to stop the Income Deduction Order.
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11/5/06
Name: vcaldwellernon
EMail: vernoncaldwell@comcast.net
Question: You Fathers I have just spent a year and my to babies are in there bed sleeping.People never understand what they have untill the think thy might lose it.A man is known by the way he takes care of his family.When a man stands up and look the world or CPS and put that love into getting life back to gether.There isnt much we cant do for the ones we care for.I just told them I wantsd due process and discloser.There are powers even the courts cant stop.Its easy to keep a guy down when you hide behind privacy act.But when you make a motion for discovery, all the people all the evidence gets put on the table foe all to see.It's hard to make prima facie stick or even sound like it had ant true meening.So the next time you put your tail between you legs dont do it.There is a right way to do this.We as people have the right to live in the home and be happy,But you not going to do it if the pusher man has his hand in you pocket and you head is going round and round.The sham of it all is that every one of us thought it would never happen in our house.It shows how truly self concerned, did it work for our babies.To gether we stand get it,no one can stand alone.So pull your heads out of the bag and lets put this world back together again.After all it is all we realy have Due process,discloser,discvery,think about it you,will see it works.Do you have a better idea frind.One last thing,did you ever thing how easy it is to be a ass whole.A real man is nice because its alot harder to be nice. Later
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11/2/06
Name:
EMail: morrison@naps.edu
Question: I have just been served papers from my ex wife after nearly 8 years of divorce because now she wants to get sole legal custody and modify my child support payments. According to the state of AZ I will be made to pay up to $900 a month in child support which is a in crease of nearly $500 a month. I am in the military and I have and still continue to serve my country with pride. I have been to Iraq and she used that against me stating that I did not ask for visitation during this time. My problem is if she wins this I will be bankrupt. I will not be able to support my current wife, daughter and step daughter. The thing that makes me sick in this matter is that my ex has 3 kids from 3 different dads and the other dads are convicted felons who don't pay child support but she comes after me because I am the one with the secure job. I have a hard time with this because she does nothing for my son and he even failed the 3rd grade which I blame her because he failed because he did not do his homework.....come on now is that not the responsibility of the parent to make sure the child does the work. I have to now get a lawyer which will cost me an arm and a leg which I had to borrow money from family members to help me out because no matter what people think the military pays good but it is not going to make you rich. I can't belive I serve my country and my ex who is a waste of space can get away with this sort of stuff. Any advice that people can give me will be helpful. Thanks for your time. God Bless America
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11/2/06
Name: v.barrychiappino
EMail: barrychiappino@yahoo.com
Question: how can the court let them get away with this when they know thats its wrong inthe first place,in my case they were told that i was abuseive, but never yelled ,rasied a hand in any way shape or form to anyone in my life , and i proved that in writing and still got scwered, im pissed off badly. barry
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11/1/06
Name: Phil
EMail: marsdragon76@yahoo.com
Question: I need help guys. I have two children, a daughter who is 9 who lives with her mother in Idaho, I live in Florida. That one gets $500 a month. The other one lives in Florida and gets $750 a month. I don't get to see EITHER child obviously because of either a)geographical limitations and b)the mother here in Florida has another "man" but took me to court for Child Support, and I have worked my ass off in my career to finally make around 50k per year, only for them to take as you can see, almost 30% net of this gross income. I struggle to pay rent, eat, socialize, or anything else. The mother in Florida makes 30k and her Fiance' makes 80k per year, they don't need my money nor will they let me see the child. The judge that set the child support in FL would not hear anything concerning visitation because that "wasn't his job", he then directed me to hire an attorney, upwards of $5,000 dollars, to get everyone back in court to discuss...question is if two mothers are getting $1,250 a month of my hard earned money that I break my back for, how am I to afford a lawyer, or a house, or a retirement. My point is that these people don't need my money, I can't continue to pay this or I am actually contemplating moving to Mexico or something...I don't see these kids, I can't hold them, I can't kiss them, yet I pay almost half of my net take home pay to them. It's not fair, and I will take extreme measures soon, if someone cannot help me. I literally vomit within 5 minutes of writing these checks, knowing that this amount of money could be my house payment, and I can barely afford to pay rent or eat. I didn't progress in my industry to give my paycheck away for nothing!!! Somebody help I am desperate...and can no longer function in this environment, I am at the end of my rope and don't know what else to do. You other poor bastards out there probably won't even get this message, but I'm hoping that just ONE of you will...before I learn to panhandle in Mexico...to escape all of this which I can no longer withstand...
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10/30/06
Name: David
EMail: hooch6999@yahoo.com
Question: I dated a girl that became pregnant we split up she told me the child was not mine. She now says the child is mine. Her ex husband is the one that signed the birth certificate. They are not together and to make things worse she was in jail and lost her rights to even see the child. She is now tring to go thru legal aid in missouri to contest paternity but not having alot of luck. My question is what can i do? I want to know if this child is mine do i have any right to ask for a test myself? Any help or advice on this matter would be greatly appreciated. Please e-mail me with any help. Thank you for listening.
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10/25/06
Name: Theodore W Sureth
EMail: Sureth@COMCAST.NET
Question: I have a very troubled child(son). I need help about custy. My son is getting very depresd, he is 7 years old and yesterday he said he wanted to kill himself. I had to 201 him in the hospital. he lives with his mom in witch has had in the last 5 years 7 diffrent homes and 5 diffrent men. she is now married but are off and on towrds devorce. for the last 3 years my son is getting worse and aging he is now hospitalies. I am on full dispatly and can not aford a leyer and donot qulify for legle aid. he needs structur in his life and a safe and loving home witch i can give please help
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10/22/06
Name:
EMail: TAMMYANDJEFFPRICE@YAHOO.COM
Question: HOW DO I BETTER SUPPORT MY WIFE WITH HER EMOTIONS
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10/20/06
Name: JJ
EMail: jozefick@comcast.net
Question: Can My ex-wife who has full physical custody of our son give that custody to the stepfather without me the biological father knowing anything about this until I got a child support order from the stepfather and the ex-wifes support was terminated on the same day. There was a hearing in february 2006 which said the child was no longer in her care.
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10/20/06
Name: jacqueline
EMail: jacqueline@hotmail.come
Question: wote would you do if you doter or son sllep with somewone at 13 in ther age
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10/19/06
Name:
EMail: rmedina8804@aol.com
Question: my ex gave up her rights awarding me 95% custody of our son. we do share joint custody.. she moved to washington stating it was for a better opportunity. it has been several months and she still hasnt found a job... she is remarried(this being the better opportunity). i feel as though she is not looking to find work to avoid the whole child support.. i dont need the money but it is just the pricnciple.. i can take that money and save for his future... is there anyway i can force the issue? thanks in advance..
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10/17/06
Name: boyd
EMail: upalntgirl369@cs.com
Question: i threw my 5 month pregnant girlfreind out over me listening to rumors about her past she had lied about or didn't tell me and i have been talking to a girl from my past and i will go to the ultraounds and maybe through delivery but its over, i dont think the baby is mine even though the last period and conception date we were with no one else, how can i trust her agin and stop the fear and hurt of why she was such a bitch last year and she says stress and shes private and secretive last year about receiving txs from her old men she had slept with and i hear rumors and dont know what to belive. i do care about her but how to trust her and her fibs well! hep me please i do love her and even told her if she told me she did cheat i would go back, but she still denies i listen to everyone else she says they are lyeing..
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10/16/06
Name:
EMail: k2themcdonald@yahoo.com
Question: As a noncustodial father, with visition set,every time I turn around my ex. is taking my son from me on my set visition time . It happens pretty regularly. This weekend is no exception. Only this time,I knew a little in advance,What can a father do when his ex. won't even follow even the very basics of visition guidelines. If It be me that messes up, she can walk before the judge that morning & have you in jail or at least in some kind of trouble that same day. Ive had 6 police cars come to my house to simply pick up my son,I had no intention of giving anyone any trouble, All they needed was one car to transport my son to the police station, & they really didn't even need that. I would have brought him to the police station, if they would called & asked. All it was , was my ex. puttin on a show, she's an actor & the world is her stage!!!!
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10/13/06
Name:
EMail: Fitzcsm@msn.com
Question: I am currently going through a bitter divorce. I have complied with all court orders only to have them thrown back in my face but soon to be X lies. My question is both X and Grandmother are trying to alienate my son (14 1/2) from me by telling him lie after lie. My son doesn't believe them but how can you stop this type of behavior. I am worried about his well being - Please help by responding - Thanks
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10/11/06
Name: Tyler
EMail: tymy45@hotmail.com
Question: I was wondering if anyone has statistics on how often the father gets costudy of the children. And also, how often the father gets costudy when the parents fight for custody.
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10/10/06
Name: kam
EMail: karen6563@aol.com
Question: can a 16 year old kid move from his custdoy parent home in michigan on his own
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10/9/06
Name: Brandy
EMail: brandy-625@excite.com
Question: i wanted to know what age the child gets to decide witch parent they want to live with and how to go about doing that.
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10/5/06
Name: Dan
EMail: dodgeboy67@sbcglobal.net
Question: This past weekend,Oct 1,2006, my son was reported as missing by his mother at 2am. She didn't know where he was so she called the police when she got home at 2am. He's 8 years old. Please help me! I want to pursue custody in the Jackson County area in Iowa. Please help me!
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10/5/06
Name:
EMail: andremarie@sbcglobal.net
Question: I hope someone can help. Here's the story. The ex-girlfriend of my boyfirend has caused problems because I am dating him. He was incarcerated from 2003-2005. His daughter was born while he was incarcerated. He bonded out in sept of 2005 while his case was still going. He was then incarcerated from his case in March 2006. During that time he helped out with his kids, I was giving him money to help. During his incarceration, she illegally changed the last name of his daughter and found out from dna test that he is the father to only one child. He had received mail at his mother home stating that he owes over 4,000 in child supppport and has to pay 400 a month in support. She falsified information so she could get medical cards for her kids. Does anyone know what I can do. Since my boyfirend cannot asked these questions himself, I am doing for him. I can't stand her lying to get what she wants illegally.
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10/5/06
Name:
EMail: andremarie@sbcglobal.net
Question: I hope someone can help. Here's the story. The ex-girlfiren of my boyfirend has caused problems because I am dating him. He was incarcerated from 2003-2005. His daughter was bron while he was incarcerated. He bonded out in sept of 2005 while his case was still going. He was then incarcerated from his case in March 2006. During that time he helped out with his kids, I was giving him money to help. During his incarceration, she illegally changed the last name of his daughter and found out from dna test that he is the father to only one child. He had received mail at his mother home stating that he owes over 4,000 in child supppport and has to pay 400 a month in support. She falsified information so she could get medical cards for her kids. Does anyone know what I can do. Since my boyfirend cannot asked these questions himself, I am doing for him. I can't stand her lying to get what she wants illegally.
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9/30/06
Name:
EMail: bullington_00802@yahoo.com
Question: I would like to know how to beat a paternity test.I don't know if the child is mines due to the woman felt it was her duty to sleep with many guy's.I was hurt to find out on her extra activities.I don't want this child to be mines or even have ANYTHING to do with her.I have to go child support on the 11-06-06 and would like advice.Also she told another guy the child was his,her reason for wanting the child is to hold me down,she wanted to be with me and hoping the child would make me be with she.Also she know from the begining i didn't want the child or any children.I tried for her to get an abortion and she lied to the woman to make it look like she was far past her actual date,she also was procastinating to get an abortion.I feel because she know from the begining i didn't want it and she still went ahead to want the child she should deal with it.I didn't give her consent to have a child.I never give her any indication thta i wanted a child.
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9/29/06
Name:
EMail: chad.tedder@weatherford.com
Question: My Divorce was finalized in June of 2005. Since this time I have only been allowed to see my 2 boys about 5 times and my daughter at random to say the least. I feel like my X is trying to aleinate the kids from me. She has gotten remarried and he was a cop. She has filed bogus charges on me and is doing everything she can to cost me more money.I have paid my childsupport as ordered and achieved all the classes set forth by the judges. She on the other hand has not allowed me to see the kids and is filling their heads with lies or over exagrating things to extreme. They have moved from 5 times since last November when her mother kicked them out. Staying with friends and other relatives until their welcome wears out and even longer until they are kicked out. I do not want my kids growing up out of a box and not knowing where they are going to sleep so I filed for custody the other day and i want to know what my chances are or if thier have been any other cases simular to this and what was the outcome.
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9/26/06
Name: Tony
EMail: Rockreamer@sbcglobal.net
Question: I am sorry to bring up things that may bring bad memories to some but my Question is... My wife has recently had an affair with another man and tell me she wants to work things out but continues to talk to him as a friend. So Question, I dont want to leave my wife but I cant take sharing her. Is it fair of me to file for divorce and seek custody of my 3 year old son? I am from a split family and the last thing I want to do is get a divorce but it is starting to effect my son, I know he is only 3 but he does show signs that he knows somthing is going on. I dont want full custody just equal time with him. I want to work out my marriage but I feel my wife doesnt, she say she does but refuses any type of help or changes. I am lost my son is my life and I dont want him to go through the same things I had to. Advice please from somone that has had a positive outcome. Please dont send me a msg bashing my wife because I still love her. Thanks Tony
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9/23/06
Name: wannabeagooddad
EMail: sboarderblitz@yahoo.com
Question: I'm am currently disabled but have been fighting tooth and nail to maintain my visits w/ my daughter. After a custody conference I was granted more visitations than I was previously getting. My question is even when the paperwork was sent out...she(mother) still doesn't approve even though the conference is OBVIOUSLY made and settled by an aggreement. What options do I have to move forward w/ full custody or at least to prevent another COSTLY conference.
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9/21/06
Name: Blaine
EMail: bcawelti@dmacc.edu
Question: OK, HUGE problem. The short story of my long situation is this, i met a girl, things were great, she got pregnant, and then she broke up with me. she is about 5 months along now and problems have arisen since she found out she was pregnant. she wont let me be a part of my unborn childs life. she has chosen the name for him without asking me, she said he will have her last name, and she will not involve me with any of the decision making concerning our child. All she is asking me for is child support and I dont even know if I will ever get to see my child. What are my rights as a father? How can I get my son to have my last name? How can I be an active part of my child's life? Can anyone help me with legal advice and how i can be more involved with my child? PLEASE HELP!!!
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9/20/06
Name: billy
EMail: billy_fshr@yahoo.com
Question: I BEEN PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR 18 YEARS, MY GIRL MOVE OUT FROM HER MOM ABOUT YEAR AGO SHE ALL READY FINISH SCHOOL AND SHE BE 19 IN FEB, AND HER MOM WANT GO STOP THE CHILD SUPPORT AT THE COURT HOUSE , THEY SAY I BHIND 4600. I HAVE NOT PAID CHILD SUPPORT SINCE SHE FINISH SCHOOL .HOW COULD I GET THIS STOP ?
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9/16/06
Name: jim
EMail: ayalafamily1@hotmail.com
Question: i have been sued by the d.s.s of wayne county n.y. for child support enforcement. my wages have been garnisheed and i am beeind denied a petition for dna testing to find out for sure if i am the biological father. in the begining i singned an acknowledgement of paternity,but now i find that i was not the only sexual partner the mother had. others had been dna tested before me,and now that places a quetion of doubt on my mind. is there anything within nys law that will require the court to acknowledge my rihgt to know for sure if i am the legal/biological father of this child?.... please help,JIM
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9/15/06
Name: Dan
EMail: danbardell@sbcglobal.net
Question: My son wanted to live with me, so now his mother refuses to let me talk or visit with him. I took her to court, but they just gave her continuances after continuances and I couldn't afford to drive up there time after time for nothing to be accomplished. I live in Indiana, origianally from Illinois and my son lives there in Sabula, Iowa. I need some help, please!
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9/13/06
Name: Charlie
EMail: tturner@asbsystems.com
Question: How do I go about obtaining custady of my 3 yr old son. The courts gave temp. cust. to my sister at my request until January. My x-wife had accused me of abuse, my attorney and private investigator proved he to be in contempt and the judge still said she could not award me custady, so I requested my sister care for him, until the judge agree to hear our case again. I see my son every other sat. for 1 hour, and I really need to know how to fight for him this time.
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9/13/06
Name: Chase H>
EMail: c.loke@YAHOO.COM
Question: I'm living in new mexico right now, but i'm from california. My babies mom wants her new husband to adopt my son, and has sent me papers for adoption outside the state of california. I JUST NEED TO KNOW if he adopts, does that release ME from any further financial responsability (child support) towards my child?
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9/11/06
Name: dave
EMail: hiatcream@yahoo.co.uk
Question: if my ex says no to contaked ,will the judje put her in prison
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9/8/06
Name: steve
EMail: steveraybone@hotmail.co.uk
Question: I hvae just got out of a serious realenship of 6 years with my ex which is also the mother of my child. Dan and he is only 3. My ex has arranged days for me to see him but only at her house and then she stops altogther. She even sent a solicater letter saying dates and times when i see him and she still gone back on them. All i want is to see my son and just the other day she said that im shit dad and dan has no dad and their moving. It rely hurt me inside. Ive been to solicitar for myself but they said it would cost me between 15 to 30 grand i have not got that sort of money. I need help and now otherwise il lose my son please help. I live in england in milton keynes too. thanks steve
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9/8/06
Name:
EMail: imababydolly@yahoo.com
Question: I know this site is for dads but I couldn't find one for mothers. My daughter is almost 2 months old now and to make a long story short, my ex and I haven't established custody. He keeps threatening to call the police and tell them I kinapped her if I don't answer my phone right away. He doesn't show up when he sais he's coming over to visit and he hasn't offered to help support her. He calls 2 to 3 times a week threatening to get custody. I'm not sure if he cares about her or if he just wants to control me.
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9/6/06
Name: Mark
EMail: markr28@hotmail.com
Question: Hi, I really need some advice on a situation that I'm in. Firstly I'm not a father...YET! I'm nearly 100% certain that my ex girlfriend used me pure and simple to father a child, this will be her third child and I think the second time she has done this to a guy. Thing is, she's going to dissapear, she has already quit her job, most men wouldn't care about something like this especially as I know she won't pursue me for maintenance money. But surly the way she has planned to do this means she has broken some kind of law? She would always remove the condom during sex and if I tried to stop she would threaten to leave me! Eventually (and I assume when she realised she was pregnant) she created an a amazing argument hoping I would bite but by now I knew what her game was and I didn't fall for it, I knew she wanted to end the relationship because she had no use for me anymore. I don't want a child that is mine growing up without knowing who the Dad is, she alreay has two kids who don't know their Dads, how can this be allowed? What rights do I have? How can I keep a track on her if she runs? Can she do this too me? Mark
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9/6/06
Name: Rick
EMail: lil_blu_butterfly1984@yahoo.com
Question: I am divorced and my ex-wife has custody of our sons, in the divorce it came that I was to carry the insurance on the boys, how ever I recently was given a bill for $600.00 and do not know who is required to pay the bill. I pay for the insurance coverage and thought that was all I had to do, she is now telling me that I am required to pay anything above the insurance and anything not covered by the insurance...is this correct?
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9/5/06
Name: tee
EMail: pkelly1260@aol.com
Question: HELLO,WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN APPROXIAMTELY 12 YEARS AGO, HER MOTHER TOLD ME SHE WAS DIVORCED.I LATER FOUND OUT WHEN MY CHILD WAS 3 THAT IN FACT SHE WAS STILL MARRIED. AT THE TIME OF MY DAUGHTERS BIRTH I SIGNED THE VOLUNTARY ACKNOWLEDGEMENT IN THE HOSPITAL IN LA. SHE GOT THE DIVORCE AND WE MARRIED AND THEN LATER DIVORCED WE WERE TOGETHER MARRIED PROBABLY TWO YEARS. SINCE THE DIVORCE I HAVE BEEN REPEATEDLEY TRYING TO ESTABLISH A RELATIONSHIP WITH MY DAUGHTER BUT THE MOTHER WILL JUST NOT COMPRIMISE, I HAVE REMMARRIED SINCE. I HAVE SEEN MY DAUGHTER ONE TIME SINCE THE DIVORCE AND THAT WAS WHEN SHE WAS 8 AND SHE IS NOW 12. HER MOTHER TELL ME IM NOT A SIGNIFICATE PART OF HER LIFE AND THAT THE ONLY WAY TO SEE HER IS TO VISIT HER, UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCE IM NOT ABLE TO MAKE THE TRIP. SHE LIVES IN VA AND I LIVE IN KY. I PAY CHILD SUPPORT ON TIME AND TRY TO CALL HER BUT STILL NO HEADWAY. MY QUESTION IS I DONT THINK A WAIVER OF PARENTAGE WAS SIGNED BY HER HUSBAND AND SINCE THE LAWS SAYS THAT THE HUSBAND IS THE PRESUMED FATHER WHERE DO WE STAND. IM IN THE PROCESS OF TAKING HER TO COURT FOR VISITATION BUT GET THIS. SHE ALLOWS MY DAUGHTER TO VISIT AND KNOW HER FIRST HUSBAND AND THROWS IT IN MY FACE. I KNOW THAT SHE IS NOT HIS KID BUT IM NOT SURE IF SHE IS MINE. I WANT TO GET A PATERNITY TEST BUT WHEN CHILD SUPPORT WAS ESTABLISHED SHE PRESENTED THE ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF PATERNITY SO MY REQUEST WAS DENIED. I AM GOING TO ASK THE COURT FOR ONE BUT WHAT ARE MY CHANCES. AND IS ALL OF THIS LEGAL IF THE WAIVER WASNT SIGNED. WHAT CAN I DO.SHE HAS MADE MY LIFE A LIVING HELL NOT TO MENTION DENY ME AND MY FAMILY A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS CHILD WHICH LEADS ME TO BELIEVE IF SHE IS EVEN MINE. ANY SUGGESTIONS OR ADVICE WOULD BE TRUELY APPRECIATED.
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9/4/06
Name:
EMail: SKRAP81@HOTMAIL.COM
Question: AT WHAT AGE CAN A CHILD ON HIS/HER OWN SELECT TO LIVE WITH THE OTHER PARENT IN A DIVORCE SITUATION? ANY ADVICE IS APPRECIATED.
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9/3/06
Name:
EMail: SLOVELY@HETWORTH.COM
Question: My wife has been going out approximately for 9 weeks with a friend of mine. She leaves my 9 year old daughter home alone . I have had to leave work on many occassions to be with my daughter.Our seperation agreement has not yet been finished and their is no legal seperation in place.What can i do to get temporary custody of my daughter . Can i have her declared as incompetent or unfit based on her actions. My daughter wants too spend time with her mother , but she is preoccupied with her boyfriend.She also wants me to have move out of the house , keep the kids , have me pay child & spousal support,and tells the kids not to tell me if they are home alone or about their activities. I amcurrently still living in the house and commuting back and forth to work. Seems like their should be something else i can do . I have done nothing legal about this as i am affraid to lose all contact with my kids if she starts making allegations towards myself . Basically everyone she is talking too , she tells lies about me and makes herself look virtuous while i do not defend myself . Her mother holds the deed to the house and we were paying the mortage to own the house.My daughter is scared and i want to help but feel powerless. Ontario Canada
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8/30/06
Name: aileen
EMail: ailes_april@yahoo.com
Question: is it possible with a woman og getting pragnant when her partner is drunk while having sex?
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8/29/06
Name: daniel
EMail: lathrop423@yahoo.com
Question: i have a soon to be 16 year old son that i havent seen in 15 years ,because his mom changes her phone # everytime i can get it,or she moves. now she has singed up for public aid,and now public aid is going after me for child support.it was never in the divorce that i had to pay child support.i dont mind paying.i do have visition ,but like i said she is allways hiding from me ,she lives in califorina and i live in ill,where iv'e lived the last 15 years.please help what should i do.
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8/24/06
Name: Brad Kish
EMail: Pkirs5@AOL.com
Question: What are some good suggetions on getting custody of my children in the state of Missouri?
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8/24/06
Name: Greg Brakey
EMail: gergyekarb@yahoo.com
Question: Do you have to have a lawyer to gain join custody as a father?
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8/23/06
Name: chuck
EMail: flyingpigs@aol.com
Question: I have recently been served with divirce papers. I am living in boston in a half way house recently paroled from prison. My wife wants child support full custudy supervised visits and half tax return what are my chances of getting un supervised visits? im not sure of my legal rights or what to do? please help
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8/22/06
Name: mike maul
EMail: gmills@bresnan.net
Question: I lost my childern to cps in may of last year I did everything I could do you have other places that could hjelp me
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8/17/06
Name: niner
EMail: mcniner@comcast.net
Question: my son is 8 year old lives with mom and stepfater in california. i live in fortlewis washington with my new familiy. my problem is i'm going to iraq i was wondering if my wife or mother could have my visting rights. while my wife is in calif so my sons could see each other and know each other. and now my ex does not let my mom see my son and she lives in caliofrnia because my son legal name is michael cobian. and now the stepfather is calling him michael lopez after him when it comes to sports. need some advise thankyou
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8/17/06
Name: Gerald Rice
EMail: squirt1964@hotmail.com
Question: What do I have to do so that my 2 sons can make the desision on where they want to live, and at what age can they do this.
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8/16/06
Name:
EMail: corrigan817@mchsi.com
Question: My 13 year old daughter wants to come live with my wife and i and her 11 year old step-sister, her mom lied and told her she was "all for it" and now states she can't. My daughter is very intelligent and mature and so we support this, this leaves my 9 year old son living with her. My daughter is doing this to go to a new school and make new friends etc. and her mother does not support this, We live in Iowa, she would be 30 mins from her mother, how can we go about making this happen for her, she has done all the right things to convince her mother but she is just being selfish, mean and petty, she also does not want to loose her child support for 1 of the kids. We need any info on how to make this happen for my daughter. thanks
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8/16/06
Name:
EMail: nikki.brwn@yahoo.com
Question: how do you get your drivers lisence back when it is taken away because of child support and i havent seen my kid for a long time and i want to have part custody what is it that i need to do?
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8/9/06
Name: dad 42
EMail: bigleescott1@yahoo.com
Question: york,pa can alone get my son who's 17 amancipated before going to stay with mom in new jersey
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8/7/06
Name:
EMail: jbojorquez69@yahoo.com
Question: I have two boys that live in Texas. My ex-wife and I have been divoreced for over 5 years now. I have only seen my boys once but I talk to them two to three times a week. I live in Illinois. My ex-wife told me I can take the boys to live with me for a trial period (She is going back to school full time and it is too much for her) What kind of paperwork do I need???
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8/6/06
Name: david
EMail: hln@kaplantel.net
Question: how do I file for contempt of court in a child custody battle
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7/29/06
Name: murphy
EMail: haunted_heart_05@yahoo.com
Question: hi my name is murphy my x-wife gave me custody of our 2 girls 5 years ago now she wants them back i am in louisiana a big time side with the woman state well when she gave them to me she said to have my lawyer draw up papers giving me domisary custody and also stating that she gets them back in 5 years she figured they could take care of themselves by then. well the five year mark is here i filed for a temp order stoping her from taking the kids on aug 1st wich is when the 5 year mark is up and the judge called her on the phone asked a few questions and never even talked to me only to my lawyer he gave HER temp custody yes thats right with school starting and all he took them away and gave them to her untill aug 25th when we go for the hearing what can i do these girls are my life if i were a woman in louisiana the judge would have never given them to the dad like that i have the only lawyer i can afford i dont know what to do!!!!
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7/28/06
Name:
EMail: choconado@choconado.com
Question: My wife is pregnant, and we are due to have our baby in febuary. I have not told any of my family members yet. You see, I have a very domineering mother, and due to my having a long term health condition, and not having the best judgement when it comes to financial matters, my mom has become convinced that she must lead my life for me by the hand, despite constant fights over the matter and me always trying to separate my life from her control. I don't know how I can begin to tell her that soon she will be a grandmother. I can't tell any other family members first, because word will get out and she'll in turn become even more offended at me not turning to her first. I know I'm not financially prepared for fatherhood (the job market's tough, but I've been looking,) but I am physically and emotionally. I don't want her to try to use the baby as a wedge to insinuate herself into a controlling position in my life again. Can anyone give me some advice on how to approach this delicate problem?
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7/24/06
Name:
EMail: nickamya@hotmail.com
Question: I have a six year old daughter. I declined a paternity test even though I questioned it. I'm getting married next month; my fiance and I are in the process of filing for custody of my daughter. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me get my daughter? Her mother just had another child and my six year old takes care of the baby while mom sleeps! Sad, but true! Also, is it true that if we are granted sole or joint custody her mother's support will decrease?
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7/19/06
Name: jason
EMail: budlite_mama_1975@yahoo.com
Question: do i have a good cae i have payed child support for my 12 year old daughter and i have not got too see her i am very faithful on paying my childssupport and all that but i was just wondring if i have a good case or not i mean she calls my omm everyonce in a while to tell her how she is but i am not allowed to have no contact with her at all please someone help me
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7/19/06
Name:
EMail: judytog@cox.net
Question: My son had a baby with an X-girlfriend (he feels she tried to trap him & was PG on purpose, advised him when she was 3-4 months along). Does my son have a right to have the baby's last name be his as he will be paying child support. She has given the baby the last name of her X husband so that her daughter from a previous marriage and her baby have the same last names? Our family is very upset about this.
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7/2/06
Name: Paralegal
EMail: galaxycb77@yahoo.com
Question: Just wanted to get some input from fathers who are on the other side of the fence. Sounds funny for me to be asking but hey any input is appreciated. I have a soon to be ex-husband who I left because of his drinking, pot smoking, getting in my face callign me out of our name, and went as far as to put a welt on our daughter cuz our daugther wouldn't go to bed. Then I was chased out of the house when he was drunk. Had to go get our daughter from his parents house at 3 am to leave him while he arrived drunk and the cops came on my behalf. THe courts gave him joint custody. Today he still drinks. I spoke with him on the phone a few days ago and he was drunk I can tell. Yet he portrays father of the year! Everytime I want to send our daughter to something he says no or ask for help financially. For instance, she has a learning disability. I got her tutoring and had to take out a loan he is fighting me to pay half. He want's everything through the courts. I have no problem with it. Now he says he is agreeing and wants to setting out of court. He does this when I do file to take him to court to get him to help. Next, visitation is a nightmare. He doesn't show up at his scheduled time at the police station. He has not been on time the last 22 times he was on time for 5 times being more than an hour late. I was advised to leave by my attorney because I had to go to my second job (trying ot make ends meet). Yet he sends the cops to my home and himself at 11PM at night wanting his daughter when I was clearly gone. His excuse for being late was work. He told me he had lost his job again like 2 weeks before and never said anything to me he was working again. He was told he was not welcome and he will be considerded tresspassing. Memorial day weekend he was an hour and a half late making me later for work again! He told the cop because I had to have them call him (because there is no talking to him). He told them we didn't have a joint custody agreement at all! So he was just going to make up his own rules. I had a witness to this. He lives 2 hours away normally. Normally I meet him half way at a police station for exchange. (More than what any woman would do). Do you think this is a man that should be granted extra or liberal visitation? A man who doesn't pay his child support on time or in full amounts each week I wouldn't constitute $15 or $20 a week for months at a time then he sometimes pays his full amount not very much help. I had him in court for being 2K behind. His dad came and brought the check book. His dad came 1 year ago at the same exact year to catch him up in child support. When I peititioned to get his drivers license his dad covers for him. Yet, where is his money if his dad is paying for his mortgage? He doesn't want to cover his child far as medical insurance or pay half of her bills. I pretty much paid a majority of her bills when my ex & I were together and our daughter was really Ill. He went from making 30K a year to 19K a year. He got himself fired for missing 42 days of work (from drinking and couldn't get up in time or being late). Now he is doing contracting work (temping for 3 1/2 years) and won't go out and get a real permanent job. He wants me to have state health insurance. I have insurance on our daughter. I just asked him to reinburst me. He said N.O. Do you think that is fair? THe state of illinois says that if one of the parents can get insurance through there employer they must seek it. How fair would that be to the taxpayers who have to support this guy who doesn't contribute a dime? Do you think he should be deviated not to reinburst me? I mean its like 80$ a month. His father seems to pick up the tab on his behalf anyway. Don't you think its fair? Also, I gave him both the cars (one he brought into the marriage) the other was bought during our marriage. I took one bought during our marriage when I ran from him and gave it back after it died because he was crying about it. I understand it was in his name but I couldn't get one because of my bankruptcy or be put on the loan. Yet he is telling everyone that I broke the car on purpose. I had to get another car not with an interest rate of 24% and the engine blew up for the 2nd time. I had to get a car quick so I can go to work everyday. He is still living in our home just to make this painless on our daughter as possible. A home he can't afford it with payments like $1000 and assoiation fees at 100$ a month (his dad is making the mortgage payments). I asked him to sell it and I get half (since I paid his bills with my inheritance money so we could get the house)and put some upgrades and so on. I spend about 6 months before I was chased out of the house. I couldn't put the house in my name because of the bankruptcy that I have before we got married. Claimed bankruptcy before I said I do! Now he is claiming that is HIS house since my name is not on it. His father wants all of it because he has been making the mortgage payment. It should of been sold long time ago. I was like why don't we sell it and he can take his sons half. This wasn't my deal and I certainly was never asked and would go for something like this. I figured he can take his half he can go out and get an apartment of his own and pay back his father. I don't think about 20K he has to get a huge fancy apartment. That is what his dad is claiming. He appears he is determined to spite me. My daycare is about $750 a month without state help. I make 31K a year. I know it sounds like a big number but having to replace my car becuase I gave the ex "his car's" yes 2 cars becuase he was crying. Which he sold anyway. Again I think its spite. I had claimed bankruptcy. No after the bankruptcy and living on my own I have student loans, car notes, tutoring student loan, health insurance, rent. Now facing to get a second permanent job to afford more tutoring for my child. My ex won't get a second job at all. He thinks he can keep the house and not give me a red cent dime. I just only asked for halfs. The deal was that if I gave him joint cutody he would contribute half of everything for her. In my book, that is what joint means. HALF! I know a lot of guys get screwed on this board and I'm sorry to hear about it. There are truly Bi*** out there for sure. My ex is now threating to make my life a living hell (like he hasn't already). I think he should sell the house so he can afford to pay reinburst me for healthcare insurance and half of daycare. Next, my mom is in town she see's our daughter maybe 3 times a year at the most. She lives in Arkansas. I made plans for her to spend the day with our daughter 4th of July weekend. I went as far as cancelling our week trip to see my mom for a week down south so she can be here on time so my ex can take her for the weekend. My ex has her this whole weekend June 30 6pm - July 2 6pm as scheduled June 3rd monday our daughter has school and a day with her grandma (my mom). Then he is to spend time with her father again Set 9-3 on the 4th of July I offered 4pm the latest. I have to work the next day and she has to go to school. So we can't really stay out late an the travel time us being 2 hours again. My ex was screaming about my mom and how he should get preference. Since he wanted an extended weekend with her then I get her back on the 4th. He said him and his dad thought it was fair. I was like man can this man make any decisions without his father? This is a man that can't meet me half way on anything. Yet, he said he would understand if the decision was N.O. He promised he wasn't going to get pissy. Then during the exchange at the police station he brings it up again. I told him no she was spending the day with my mom and going to school while I work. Now he is threating me to make my life a living hell but taking me to court every chance he can get for visitation. It's like he threw a cow about visitation last year. All the holidays were mine last year. THis year I had to set reasonable hours becasue the way the 4th landed. I mean on July 3rd my daughter has to go to school tutoring. I don't trust him to take her or pick her up on time. He threw a cow about her going and refused to take her in the first place. He said he didn't care he was getting his time. So I can't take the risk not at $40 hr. and for someone who is not contributing. Not to mention his parents see her every other weekend and most holidays. He can't cut my mom some slack. To teach him a lesson. I told him I left the majority of the decision up to my mom. My mom is very good about staying out of this and being respectful. Since she is here and traveled 500+ miles don't you think she should be granted time? We planned this 3 months ahead of time. My ex was cool with everything now he still acting like a small child. Do you think my ex is being fair about this? Do you think from here on out I should have someone with me at all times during visitation? Does it sound like to you folks he might cross the line and do something to me some day physically? I'm afraid if he loses the house he just might. I can't get an order of protection the courts won't allow me to. He still drinks and the courts don't make him stop or grant him court supervision. I'm trying not to create a hostile enviroment or my daughter. Yet, its hard to swallow that his parents allow his brothers to smoke pot in there house (when my daughter is present). Yet, his father plays it off like it doesn't happen anymore. Do you think I should have anything to worry about? Any input would greatly be appreciated. He is hurting our precious little girl and messing her up and confusing her. My daughter comes home and says that she is going to live with him she is 5 now. SHe does it when she doesn't get her way or I have to punish her for doing something wrong. My way isn't by spanking. I see the pattern. My question to you gentleman is do you think I been unfair in any of this or does this sound like he will take it a step further and end up really hurting me than making my life a living hell?
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7/1/06
Name: matt
EMail: matt3192005@yahoo.com
Question: hi name is matt i have sole custody on my daughter and my x wife is taking me to court to get sole custody i havent done anything wrong i have given her visition and now she wants more what do i need to do ty matt
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6/29/06
Name: mut
EMail: hailfuknmut@yahoo.com
Question: I am 29 years old and now have a 3 month old son that is now not living with me. my questin is while going to family court is my criminal history going to make thing lean more towards the mother? Just to add, I have been out of prison for 6 years now and have been discharged sence July 23, 2003. The only time that i have been in jail sense has been do to my ex calling the police, hell I just got out 2 nights ago.I have other concerns also but this is the one that is sitting on the tonuge. Thank you before hand to those that give any advise. Mut
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6/28/06
Name: Sal
EMail: sal-logiudice@inbox.com
Question: My exwife has my children in NYS and promised that she would let me see them whenever I wanted to when I moved out of state and moved to Texas for work. Now she is refusing to let me even speak to them. Does anyone know what form I am suppose to use to get the courts of NYS and/or Texas help me see my children? Thanks Sal
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6/28/06
Name: eric
EMail: ebishop110573@hotmail.com
Question: My situation is a tough one. My ex and I separated in March of 05'. In June of 05' I started dating again and she found out. She then filed for divorce on the grounds of adultry, stating that I had been cheating on her since BEFORE the separation, which we both knew wasn't true. We had only been married 2 years and yet she filed for everything, (alamony, court costs, 50% of all my assets, ect.). Her NEVER having held a job in her life (she is now 30), I filed for full custody of our 2 children (4 & 8 yrs.) expecting to get at least joint physical custody as I felt she would not make enough to provide for them. After spending almost a year dragging my name through the mud in legal statements (to the point of making up lies that I was an alcoholic or abusive)and having held her new job for 2 weeks, she was awarded primary physical custody, while I got visitation every other weekend. (Had there been a psyciatric eval., or had the children been asked where they wanted to live, I would have custody.) She was also awarded 1/2 of the sale of the house (minus cash I had put down to purchase the house before we were married), and I was responsible for her court costs. My child support is $545 per month (based on my previous income) and I am now responsible for 50% of her daycare costs. I was told the monthly total cost would be $750 based on what she paid for their daycare. Now she has a friend babysitting them and wants $1,000 per month. She is also having her lawers send statements to my lawer "instructing me" to "pick up and drop off my children on time" (after 1 instance of keeping them for an extra hour at chuck-e-cheese before taking them home). I believe she's setting things up so that I will not have ANY visitation and will have to pay her more child support. (She, however won't even get my 8 year old daughter to brush her teeth to the point that they are ROTTING and I had to pay $300 for 3 fillings for cavities and 4 caps!) What do I do????? I'm a good father and both my children want to live with me!
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6/27/06
Name:
EMail: lljweltha@yahoo.com
Question: i am court ordered to have insurance on my child. my wife insurance is cheaper than mine can she just have the child put on hers or does it have to be in my name?
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6/26/06
Name: gus
EMail: gus@glosimar.com
Question: my sons mother has accused me of molesting my son. she then retrackted the accusation to child protective services. The allegation was then unfounded by CPS. i"m going to take her to court to try to receive either full or joint legal custody of my son. we were never married. what are my chances.
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6/22/06
Name: tony
EMail: www.mabel123@cox.net
Question: I am an unmarried father. I live in Nevada. My girlfriend keeps threatening to leave and take my baby. What rights do I have as far as custody.
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6/16/06
Name:
EMail: scoutout@sbcglobal.net
Question: Any advice on fighting for custody for my children in CA. I am a correctonal officer and my ex got the judge to reduce the time I spend w/ my kids since my schedule changes every quarter. I am waiting for the 180 grace period to expire after the final dissolution of marriage judgement was filed and signed by the judge. Any wisdom out there with similar situation? I would like to acquire 40% of custody. I am thinking of searching for a regular Monday to Friday job even if it pays lesser in order to see my kids more often.
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6/14/06
Name: anonymous
EMail: pirate_king13@hotmail.com
Question: I was just wondering if it is considered " weird" to teach your son how to masturbate? My son is 15 and we have always had a close relationship. He came to me and asked me rather sheepishly if I would teach him. I said I'd have to think about it, but that it was his descision in the end. What should i do? There is definitly nothing perverted or sexual about this . I just worry that he may always want to masturbate WITH me, rather than learn from me.
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6/14/06
Name: Mr & Mrs A
EMail: nodnoc2005@yahoo.com
Question: This is more of a comment and may be helpful to others who have custody issues. We have learned that our legal counsel recently quit in the middle of proceedings that now is holding us in limbo. We have been "battling" in court to gain the right to have uninterupted normal visits with a woman who throws all the stops out at us. If you feel that your attorney is not doing what you pay for, you have the right to ask for an Affidavit of Facts in the Instant Case. The attorney HAS to answer. If you still think after the answer that something is still wrong, you have to file for Grounds of Mistrial on evidence of ineffective counsel. Also look at the aspects of Illegal Judicial Process, Simulated Due Process, Operation of color at office under color of law under color of process. It can also be grounds for civil action as possible Title 42 lawsuit for misrepresentation of fact. Everyone has the right to expect legal representation that you pay for, to be in your best interests. If this isn't happening, it has been our experience that he needs to be fired, and to file a claim with your State Bar Association as we are currently doing. But you must have evidence to back up your allegations. We found this website that helped get us back on the right track. We also found out that if you inform the other parent with their psycotic intentions to destroy any and all means of visitation, that you can request from the courts, a guardian ad litem, who will represent the children. Here is a website that i found that gave us a great start with our current visitation problems--may vary indifferent states. Expert Law--Library of Free Legal Information. I hope this is of some help to others in limbo and waiting for the next shoe to drop. Stand your ground FIRMLY, and take the time to research everything. If we all start making statements, there will be no choice left but for lawmakers and judges to rethink the situations of child custody and visitations. Thank-you, Mr. and Mrs. A
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6/12/06
Name: tom harper
EMail: tkh1313@yahoo.com
Question: HELLO; I AM A GRAND FATHER, WE HAVE HAD OUR GRANDSON SINCE HE WAS 9-MOS. HIS MOTHER WAS ILL WHEN HE AND WAS PUT ON 9MOS BED REST, SHE LOST HER JOB AND PLACED TO LIVE, HER AND PHILP. BROKE US AND SHE WAS LEFT ALONG. WE ARE RETIRED MILTERY AND SINCE WE HAVE HIM WOULD LIKE TO PUT HIM ON OUR INS. AND GET HIM A ID CARD, HE WILL BE 8 AND WE CAN DO SO , BUT WE NEED TEMPORY CUSTDOY PAPERS TO PROVE THAT WE TAKE CARE OF HIM. EACH TIME WE TAKE HIM TO THE DR. WE ARE OUT ALMOST A 100.00 , HE HAS ASMA. HIS MOTHER HAS THREE GIRLS AND IS BY HER SELF, SHE ARE NOT TRYING TO TAKE HIM AND WANT HIM TO STAY WITH US, SHE WILL SIGN ANY PAPERS WE NEED, WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT THIS, WE WANT TO KEEP HIM AND TAKE CARE OF HIS HEALTH CARE BUT WE NEED TO HAVE INS. THANKS TH
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6/10/06
Name:
EMail: money1523@yahoo.com
Question: I did know i was on child surport and now i owe alot of money. How can i get it taken off??
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6/10/06
Name:
EMail: money1523@yahoo.com
Question: how do i get a court date? About my child surport?
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6/7/06
Name: Sally Hindley
EMail: saludevil@aol.com
Question: My grandchildren were stolen by children's services of Stark County nine years ago. He was exonerated of all charges but still doesn't have his son. He was manipulated by a foster parent into signing over custody with verbal lies of returning the children. This is a long story of anguish with trying to get his children back. Lawyers have been worthless. If anyone can help with any suggestions please email me. Thank you. Sally
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6/5/06
Name:
EMail: charlesrivas76@yahoo.com
Question: am i wrong for thinking that the reason my sons mother dont want me to file for peranty is so i dont have a say in the way he is rasied
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6/4/06
Name: Charles Rivas
EMail: charlesrivas76@yahoo.com
Question: am i wrong to push the paternity test issue
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5/30/06
Name: Phil D.
EMail: frickindizzle@yahoo.com
Question: I live in Idaho. My son is 20 months old. The mother of my son and I were never married, but lived together until our son was 13 months old. While living together Health & Welfare/ Child Support Services of Idaho decalared her the custodial parent and made our finacial responsibility 37%mine & 63% hers. Child support was automatically set by the state, neither of us made a request for it. We have never filled a custody agreement with any state. Over memorial day weekend she moved, with our son, to Virginia without my knowledge. My questions are... As the custodial parent does she have the right to move out of state without filling any kind of custody agreement? What kind of rights as a father do I have?
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5/29/06
Name:
EMail: jhmj2006@aol.com
Question: I am a concerned black single father rearing a 16 year old black son. he just disrepected me when i confronted him about his bad grades. should i continue to give him time out(s), give him an option of one out of two punishments or take him back to the "old school" like my father would have did me--which is go outside, break a switch off the tree, come back in explaining to him what is going to take place and comence to give a a whipping that will make him know who's the father and who's the son!!! what do you think?
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5/29/06
Name: Nico
EMail: cstevenson@concor.co.za
Question: At what age can a child decide with which parent he wants to live under South African law?
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5/29/06
Name: joe
EMail: jzadrazil@yahoo.com
Question: I lived with my daughter and her mom Janis for 7yrs.I paid rent and slept in a separate room after the first year. During this entire time there was no affection between Janis an I. After 7 yrs of a bad situation I finally decided to move out after meeting the woman of my dreams.I informed Janis of my decision and told her i was going to move out.I went to the Lucas Co court house to get paternity tested and Janis told my that wasn't necessary. I told her that I wanted to start paying child support and continue to be a major part of my daughters life. She told me that I didn't have to make it legal but i should continue giving her support money. I chose the Legal route.once paternity was established I pressed for visitation rights because her mom dictated weather or not i could bring her into my new home. her parents got to see my daughter more than I did at this time. I'm a produtive person i society. Mind you , I don't Drink, smoke , use drugs,gamble or have any major hang ups.I like to hunt, fish and spend time with my family. My daughter is now 9yrs old and we still haven't set a reasonable visitation schedule. I have been paying child support this entire time. 600.00 a month. the court schedule states that I should have had my daughter for the second half of christmas break but that didn't happen.It also stated that I should have had her this spring break. that didn't happen either.We recently spent 3 hours in a meating with both of our lawers to specfically put down on paper the summer vacation schedule. The agreement after this meeting was that we would alternate weeks during the summer when our daughter is out of school. A week after the meeting i recieved a letter from my lawer stating that Janis had fired her lawer because she felt she wasn't properly representing her. Also I brought up the possibility of taking my 9yr old daughter who is in third grade out of school for 10 days to go on a family vacation with my wife ,myself and my other daughter and I to Florida to visit some relatives.I will not get a summer vacation because I work for a nursing agency and will be working every weekend for the rest of the summer. I conveyed this to Janis and my lawer, and to the school that my daughter attends. The school administrator reinforced the school policy about taking kids out of school durring the school year, but stated a lot of families take vacations during the year and that my daughter would be responsible for making up the missed work upon return to school. Non of the school work could be given to her in advance. I ended up taking the vacation without her in the end. But I asked her mother to tell her it was her desicion not to let her go. I told my daughter that i feel school is very important and i Highly value her education but felt that she was a very good student and missing a few days at this point in life to spend time with family is very important. Since Janis fired her lawer and continues to play games to keep me from my daughter I feel that the only thing left to due in act leagally and take the court agreement word for word. Today I asked Janis to drop my daughter off at 7pm ,the court appointed time before the holiday in the care of my wife. I work nights so I wouldn't be there when she arrived. Janis was very angry that i wouldn't be there and said she was going to call her lawer. She did end up stopping by the house but my wife was running late after a dinner with her parents and my wife had to pick my daughter up at her moms house because she couldn't wait a few minutes at our house. How can I handle this control problem that janis has. I also feel that my time with my daughter is also my families time . am I right?
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5/29/06
Name:
EMail: jhmj2006@aol.com
Question: The is in addition to the prior question. I just got a call from one of my partners stating that he saw my boy hanging with some wanna-be "thugs" in the neighborhood. even though i was raised in the "hood"--i have gave him everything he needed as well as wanted. as far as i know, i have been a great father to him and will continue to do so. i really don't want to whip him but if it will slow him down and make him a better man, when that stage is reached, then i see no problem in keeping a "switch" handy--if not to scare him a bit when out of line. my father whipped me until i was a grown man and i have "never" been in trouble with anything or anyone. now--i'm not singling out all other races but i would like my black brothas--who are fathers--to come together on this situation with some advice as to what i should do with my 16 year old boy before he ends up really "lost"(jail, prison, etc.)?
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5/26/06
Name: Mr. & Mrs A
EMail: nodnoc2005@yahoo.com
Question: I just found this site tonite while looking for what I have paid in child support. This is a really complicated ordeal that my husband and I are going through. So please bear with me. My husband was divorced and then remarried and the divorced again from the same woman. For the last 3.5 years, we have paid our lawyer in excess of $10,000. For legal representation,and we have been unsuccessful at getting continual visitation with his 5 children. 3 are bio and 2 he adopted. He pays $1300.00 a month in child support and also pays for medical, dental, and life ins. He's been at his job for 19 years and has always provided for his children. He also works a 2nd job to help us make ends meet, plus the job I work. Our major problem is his ex-wife has stopped visitation over the course of the last 5 years, due to her not wanting my husband to have any relationship with his children. She has the 2 oldest brainwashed, (they're adopted by him) and the other 3 (bio) are conflicted with what is going on. They are still old enough to know that "mom" is mentally messing with them. We have been to court several times and she continually has lied and decieved the courts. Even when we have proved shes lying. Her and her new husband have a business together and they refuse to let us see thier income, but we have had to show ours. They bought property and use the child support to pay for the home and they also get government assistance with food and heating. Her husband is on probation for drugs. All of this is being done under false pretenses and the courts won't even bat an eye when told about it. Our finances are now shot and the lawyer has us by the b---s, and now wants more money before he will proceed. We have instructed him to file contempt on several occasions, and he tells us that it won't do any good. How can my husband and I take any legal recourse to the mental, financial, and emotional stress and despair we have had to endure for the last 5 years? Also, what does anyone suggest to do to beat her at this game that she keeps playing with us? It isn't healthy for the children, god only knows how they will turn out after all of this. We are receptive to any suggestions at this point and all will be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening, and hope all is well with everyone fighting similar battles. M&M A
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5/25/06
Name:
EMail: jordanpandrews@hptmail.com
Question: if i sign over all rights what am i required to do with all rights sign over the baby no longer becomes my reposiblity right?
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5/21/06
Name: chris
EMail: dusk0874@yahoo.com
Question: my wife and i are looking at possiably getting divorsed. one of the biggest things that keep going through my is if we do get divorsed, how do i deal with the fact that one day she will find another man that is going to have a hand in raising MY son. i don't know how to accept my so and another guy. how do you get past this feeling?
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5/14/06
Name: MICHAEL ROMROTH
EMail: astroromroth@AOL.COM
Question: hi everyone please help my exwife and i am from germany and we live for 4 years here in the us we have a son 9 years old we just got divorced and my exwife planes on going on hollyday to germany with my son i dont like that becouse we just sell the house and she has about60 grand and i think that she goes to germany with my son and never comes back please help what can i do
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5/13/06
Name:
EMail: headshane5@hotmail.com
Question: I am a non custodial father who pays child support and has visitation rights. The mother of my child doesnt keep in touch and doesnt notify me of address changes or phone number changes. Now its been over two months and I have no idea where my child is. What can I do?
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5/12/06
Name: MK SMITH
EMail: msmit3@peoplepc.com
Question: My daughter that I pay support for has moved out on her own at 17 and lives in with her boyfriends family. She can not get along with her mother but her mother still recives the support payments. Is there a way I can object to this and make sure payments are going toward my daughter's support. Where can I find any information reguarding this question.
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5/12/06
Name: Steven
EMail: arizona7219@hotmail.com
Question: I have been with the same lady now for 5 yrs we are not married but we do have 2 children together. I also have sole custody of my two sons from my first marrage a 19 year old son who lives with his real mom in IL. and now I got a phone call from a young lady in Montana saying that I,m her father from 15 years ago. In total thats 5 and now maybe 6 children and out of the bunch only 2 are fully realated same mom same dad, What does that make me? I feel horrable ashamed my Girlfreind is beside herself she is very angry with me and the situation and I honestly dont know what to say or what to do. I know I need a paternity test heck I' dont even know where to start with that one. When I spoke with this young lady she seamed very bright very intelligent and sincere in a need to meet her true father. I'm rather ashamed of myself and my behaviours from the past. What should I do and where do I do it my girlfreind has been for ever asking me about my past and I try so hard not to talk about it becouse its not good rather embarrasing at that and now she's fuming becouse I never brought this girl up to her before Ive had alot of girlfreinds and flings I honesly cant remember them all I thank god every day for my girlfreind she saved me got me off the druggs off the booze helped me start a semi succsefull flooring business and has backed me up in evry sing way possible. But now shes thinking of asking me to move out and If I lost my two children from her I would go insane I want nothing more than to be a good father a good provider and keep everyone happy my life has changed so much and every time I feel I'm getting back to my feet I get hit again by another tidal wave from my torrid past. What would you folks do how would you handle it please help
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5/10/06
Name: brandon
EMail: goestern@searsseating.com
Question: HELP PLEASE my girlfriend and I had a little boy. We live in the same community but a couple of years ago stopped seeing each other. I am paying child support which I have no problem with but my girlfriend has now decided I cant see him anymore. She has gone so far as to call the cops on me when I stop to say hi to him. How do I go about getting some regular custody without paying a lawyer which would cost more than I have? Please give me some advice. I live in maquoketa, iowa.
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5/9/06
Name:
EMail: bbingo1@yahoo.com
Question: My son will be 16 this July and desperately wants to live with me and my current wife and 2 stepdaughters. We live about 2 blocks away from his mother where he resides now. He wouldn't have to change schools or anything, but the mother is very controlling and won't allow it. Plus financially she and her current husband make about 3 times what we make and we don't have the money for an attorney to fight this. Is there an age where he can decide without any reprocutions from his mother??
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5/5/06
Name: wannabeagooddad
EMail: sboarderblitz@yahoo.com
Question: I currently pay all my child support for my 4 month old little girl. I also am partially disabled. I walk with a limp and use a cane. Her mother will not allow me to care for her in ANY WAY unless she is there to monitor me. She and I had a bad break up but i'm even changing shifts to accommodate her so I can see my daughter more. The question simply is can she limit my visitations if I pay my child support but use my DISABLITILY as a reason for only daylight visits?
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5/5/06
Name: tad
EMail: thadduesmartel@yahoo.com
Question: I need to know what I should be paying now in order to take care of my kid before we go to court I only make $12.50 an hour if anyone can help me determine if there is a minimum amount I shouold pay so that I dont get in trouble.Any help would be much appreciated.Tad
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4/17/06
Name: Chris
EMail: ck868@hotmail.com
Question: Im blown away. My daughter whom is 15years old calls me and tells me she wants to be adopted by her step father and take his last name. The very next day I receive documents from their attorneys asking me to release my rights ??? Is this correct? Has anyone have any feedback for me?? Thanks
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4/12/06
Name: Shirwin Schnell
EMail: starbucks@hei.net
Question: I was on here a few weeks ago when somehow as i was reading a response to a question i had asked i did not realize it was my x wife that was responding. It was a shocker as i thought this was a dad to dad sight. yes its true the sins of my past were. Now they have been forgiven only by the blood of Christ, not anything good that i have done for on my own power i am nothing. My question for today, .Is it possible for poeple just to be peacefull on this page? The last time i talked to my x wife was over the phone and everything was wonderfull between us. Another question is, cant her and i please not fight :( ? It hurts me
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4/10/06
Name: bill stoll
EMail: hasunny@sbcglobal.net
Question: is there any way to get your child back once he or she is in the system of dcfs it seems you jump thuogh hoops and go to court and they come up with a another excuess why you you cant have your child back. does it ever end?
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4/5/06
Name:
EMail: starbucks@hei.net
Question: I attend a large church and have many praying for my children, and for me to come up with a way to pay my child support as it is the christian thing to do. Will someone on here please do the same ??
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4/5/06
Name:
EMail: Starbucks@hei.net
Question: will someone pray for me?
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4/5/06
Name:
EMail: bsneed78@yahoo.com
Question: Iam divorced and remarried, and my ex has sole custody. I work out of town sometimes, and I wanted to know if it was all right for my wife to have the kids when I am not there?
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4/4/06
Name: A Dad that needs your help
EMail: 159357@verizon.net
Question: Does anyone know if there is a law against being charged almost $4,000 year for so called "work related" childcare when she (custodial parent)claims minimum wage or 10,720 year income? Also, does anyone know the age limit childcare or daycare expenses are allowed? I have two children and one is thirteen years old and the other is ten. Does anyone know what is really required from the mom (as far as proof of payment such as receipts or bank account payments for daycare) for a state to deduct childcare expenses on top of child support? I do know that she has another baby that is not mine and I think I am paying daycare for it. I would really appreciate any help anyone might offer, I need help dealing with a modification through the state to get this corrected. Does anyone know if her tax refund is considered before allowing such charges against the NCP?Thank you for your time
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4/4/06
Name: Shirwin Schnell
EMail: starbucks@hei.net
Question: Finally i have cleaned up my drinking act so that i can get on with my life. The drinking has caused the sinfull behaviors and actions that hurt my x wife and my children mostly. I have not quit drinking on my own however.I have been working onthe 12 steps and there biblical comparisons. the first one is, we admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable. Romans 7:18 I KNOW THAT NOTHING GOOD LIVES IN ME,THAT IS IN MY SINFULL NATURE. FOR I HAVE THE DESIRE TO DO WHAT IS GOOD, BUT I CANNOT CARRY IT OUT. I have completedsteps 1 thru 8 and accidently ran into step 9 Made direct amends to such people whenever possible,except when to do so would injure them or others. THEREFOR,IF YOU ARE OFFERING YOUR GIFT AT THE ALTER AND THERE REMEMBER THAT YOUR BROTHER HAS SOMETHING AGAINST YOU, LEAVE YOUR GIFT THERE IN FRONT OF THE ALTER. FIRST GO AND BE RECONCCILED TO YOUR BROTHER;THEN COME AND OFFER YOUR GIFT MATTHEW 5;23-24 I have no angry feelings toward my x wife. She is not to blame. I am thankfull to hear she is doing well :) thank you for whoever might be reading this, thank you for your time.the question is will you please pray for me to find a way to pay my child support as the job i,m on now is a temp. Salem oregon is no place to find work :( i need a miracle blessings to reader Shirwin
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4/4/06
Name: shirwin schnell
EMail: starbucks@hei.net
Question: now that i am a drug and alcohol couselor i,m afraid that my kids wont have nothing to do with me since one of them drinks and does not know wene to stop.It was drinking that ultimately led to my promiscuose behaviors and led to a divorce.As a counselor i to feel alone in this, what do i do?
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4/3/06
Name: Bill
EMail: kim-lee.lockner@harley-davidson.com
Question: I am trying to help my current husband out - we have custody of his 7 year old son court ordered. He has been fighting with his x saying that the little girl she had was his. It took three years to get ther to have a paternity test and it is his. She had her boyfriend on the birth certificate neamd as father. Well when he found out he left her and now she does not work and has no way to support this child, no way to feed, cloth or put a roof over their heads. Since there is nothing in the courts of PA saying that either her or my husband have custody, can we take this little girl from her even if she does not agree until she gets on her feet and make her file papers in the courts to fight us for custody? Both my husband and I work and can give this chid a more stable loving environment. She has been reported to childrens services several times when she had our boy over the wekend he came home one time with a bruised handprint on his face and they did nothing, he was 5! We have pictures and so does the doctor. There were other inceidnets as well. PLEASE HELP US
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4/2/06
Name: gus
EMail: guspoo@juno.com
Question: ASC has just got on the case of my childrens mother of child abuss, and i just put in for custody, can the children end up in another home until further notice?
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3/30/06
Name: Thad
EMail: thadius200@hotmail.com
Question: how can i obtain joint custody w/ standard visitations?? I have court ordered supervised visits, did not change when child turned 3. I have to bring x back to court, but really have not the money to do so... she lets me see the child, then comes up w/ excuses, etc... lets me have him when convenient for her!! need help!! what joint custody, so she can't tell me what to do. I have only been active for 2 yrs. child is 7, can i still obtain what I want??
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3/27/06
Name: Jeff
EMail: jefferydehate@sbcglobal.net
Question: My exwife's husband wants to adopt my children, if so what rights if any do I have?
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3/24/06
Name:
EMail: skyy_19854@yahoo.com
Question: I need to see my daughters it's been 3 years no child support paid due to partial disability.Ex hating and refuses visits.Unemployed due to Disability,What Now?
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3/22/06
Name: lisa
EMail: dustydanders@yahoo.com
Question: my ex and i have joint custody of our three son,s. he now has a girlfriend who has lost custody of her 4yr old son due to abuse and neglect. is there a way i can prevent my children from being left alone with her?
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3/22/06
Name: Shirwin Schnell
EMail: starbucks@hei.net
Question: I have not seen my kids for 7 years. should i have counceling prior to a visit? Should they do the same?
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3/21/06
Name:
EMail: pioneer@wcinet.com
Question: Here's the deal, I got laid off in Dec. and am now self-employeed as of Jan 1. How do I go about getting the support I pay ammended. I've tried looking on line for the forms for Administrative Review and could not find it. Any other ideas. Also, with being self employeed how do they calculate my gross income, beings I don't pay my self nor could I afford to. I do however take draws from the company when I need to for medical expenses, food and other bills when needed if the money is there...However I'm supposed to pay 480/mth and just simply don't have it. I need to assistance on getting this changed vs being a "deadbeat dad" going further into back support, I'm alread 2mths behind because of this and don't want this to continue at this rate. Any advise is appreciated.
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3/20/06
Name:
EMail: rawimpakt@rogers.com
Question: i have not seen my daughter since birth 7 years my name was not on the birth certificate. she refuses to let me see her and i dont pay any child support she wont talk to me what do i do? how much child support will i owe for 7 years? will i even get visitation rights? or can she just exclude me from her life she is now married and i wouldent doubt that the man has adopted her. her parents made us break up and wouldent let me be involved when i was younger now want to be a part of her life. but real concerned that all the fighting in court will get me nowhere. she will fight to not let me see her do i have any rights or because i havent been there for 7 years will i be screwed?
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3/18/06
Name: william
EMail: william_williamson1981@yahoo.com
Question: ok well about 6 months a go i stared going through a major custody battle wil my soon to be ex wife . but we have been seperated for a year now well one day my daughter said some bad stuff about there mom on a visit well i called the police of corse and i took the kids in and evrything was closed nothing happened so we when on in the court battle the same battle that caused my sons surgury to get cancelled for 6 months well we went to court and we now share joint custody week on week off and this was my first week letting them go but when it came time for them to come home she said the exact same bad things that the kids said befor but chaned a bit to siut her needs . now they say i cant see my kids till everythings complete what do i do i miss my kids and i have no idea what to do?
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3/15/06
Name: JOSEPH
EMail: lil_brickmason@yahoo.com
Question: I AM LOOKING FOR ANY FATHERS,THAT WAS LIE'D TO AND TOLD THAT A CHILD WAS THERES BUT WAS NOT.AFTER RAISING HIM/HER FOR A FEW YEARS AND BEING APART OF THERE EVERY DAY LIFE,EVEN THOUGH HE/SHE HAS YOUR LAST NAME AND YOUR ON THE BIRTH CERTIFFICT THE COURT MAKES YOU TAKE A DNA TEST,THAT COMES BACK SAYING THAT YOUR NOT THE FATHER.AND THEN THE COURT SAYS THAT YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS OVER YOUR CHILD.SOME THING HAS GOT TO BE DONE TO STOP THESE WOMEN FROM DESTROYING OUR LIFE AND OUR KIDS LIFES.LETS PUT A STOP TO IT!!!IF THIS IS YOU.PLEASE LET ME KNOW.
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3/12/06
Name:
EMail: standstillping@hotmail.com
Question: I have a son with a woman that I did not marry and we both have custody, my question is can she take him and move out of state wihtout my permission and also I am not on the birth certificate and he does not have my last name what rights do I have as a father?
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3/11/06
Name: mike
EMail: farrahmarie143@yahoo.com
Question: I have two kids that I am paying child support to. The mother of one of the kids went to court and I didnt show up which I know didnt look right on my part. She had proof her child went to daycare, but I know the child has not been going for about a year and I'm paying half of that. what do I do about that? One more thing is that I have another child whom I am currently getting married with the mother. Doesnt the child support get lowered if I have another son that I am supporting? Who do I contact about that?
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3/11/06
Name: mike
EMail: farrahmarie143@yahoo.com
Question: I have two kids that I am paying child support to. The mother of one of the kids went to court and I didnt show up which I know didnt look right on my part. She had proof her child went to daycare, but I know the child has not been going for about a year and I'm paying half of that. what do I do about that? One more thing is that I have another child whom I am currently getting married with the mother. Doesnt the child support get lowered if I have another son that I am supporting? Who do I contact about that?
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3/11/06
Name: Charlene
EMail: charthestar492000@yahoo.com
Question: My step son and a girlfriend of his are going to have a baby, They don't want to live together because this was and accident and not a planned pregnacey. My step son wants to know what paternity rights he has and what can he do to claim his paternity rights before the baby is born. And are there legal forms that he can sign to claim his paternity in the State of PA. He wants to be involved with his childs life and this would be his first child. He wrote up an agreement letter between him and this women but is it legal to agree on visitation and support without going to court. Can he do this before the baby is born? Does he have to wait until the baby is born to claim paternity of this child.
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3/10/06
Name: john corcelle
EMail: eyecandy2005@aldelphia.com
Question: I have a custody order with my ex . I pay child support I just lost my job & got behind . I got a new job & will get back on track. But she won't let me see my litte girl for 4years now . No one will help me. She moved & din't tell me were. But she wants that money . She told my litte girl I was dead & thats how it stands.
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3/5/06
Name:
EMail: mgroner2505@yahoo
Question: I have a custody conference scheduled for this week .What am I in for?What do I need to watch for?
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3/5/06
Name: raymond
EMail: estevens33@hotmail.com
Question: can your exwife take the kids out of the country
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3/5/06
Name: tom
EMail: tmuller02@msn.com
Question: hello im currently married for7 years i have 3 children 2 are my blood children i pay support for both my kids and also live with my wife last friday she took my son out of state to pennsylvania and while she was up the decided to live i then contacted the sheriff department and he gave her till 1 oclock on thursday to bring him back because she said thats the quickest she can make it back then she goes behind the word she tells the sheriff and comes back to file a temperory restraing order on me with false allegations and no police records or hospital records to take the other 2 kids my one daughter didnt want to go with her so shes now with my mom and i have a hearing on march 7 she had also told the sheriff on monday she was only going for a couple of days and while she was up there decided to stay i havent seen my little boy in 10 days now and i did nothing to deserve this
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3/5/06
Name: raymond
EMail: estevens33@hotmail.com
Question: im getting a divore and my exwife to be is going to get married.i would like to know if she aloud to take the kids out of the country .U.S.A.,,,THANK YOU
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3/4/06
Name: Tom
EMail: norkasrealestateinvestment1@yahoo.com
Question: i owe back support not a dead beat dad i had to get visitation rights to see my child. i am trying to buy a home but cant because of administrative lien, tryed to settle the dept with her she keeps playing games. if a get a property i will be able to pay her back faster, then $30 a month towards the back pay over 60 years .with me buying a house i can refi in 6months and be done with the arrears
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3/3/06
Name: fran
EMail: franziska_reinhold@gmx.de
Question: hello, I need some advise for I study german law but have no idea about the US legal system and have to solve the following problem - in US law - who gets custody in the US (New Mexico) if the a married woman gives birth to a child out of an love-affair - in Germanny the mother would have custody with her husband. But in US I heard they have automatically shared custedy of mother an "lover" if he is on the birth certificate acknowlegded - is that true?
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3/2/06
Name: Dorothy
EMail: dcurrie36@hotmail.com
Question: Hi - i need advice...came across forum while searching for answers. Im a mom ... have daughter 15 yrs., always got along with my ex or tried to anyway. We have court order ref. custody and child support. He picked the amount, paid me cash, i gave income tax receipts...never a problem. I never pushed either to have amt. raised each year for the increase of living...even when he came into alot of money. So here is problem. my daughter went to live with him temporarily for a year as she wanted to try it out....i didnt pay him child support for that year because we had a verbal agreement that i keep the family allowance to continue to pay her $5,000 orthodontist bill and to send her spending money etc...which i did. She is back living with me now (N.S.) since Dec.05 and now all of a sudden because his relationship is very rocky with his daughter since she lived with him and the trouble they had together....he has said he will not pay c/s for a year because i didnt. I have sent him a letter telling him very unfair since i have been very understanding...there were many months he didnt have full amount and i said just forget it. He says he is broke but we have mutual friends and seems that is not true...3 vehicles, house, just bought a dog, went snowboarding etc...so i dont want to contact enforcement agency but it is now 3 months and nothing from him so........any advice out there from a Dad????????? Thanks
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2/28/06
Name: Charles
EMail: celliottii@comcast.net
Question: I currently live in Michigan. My former wife has FULL LEGAL custody and together we have JOINT PHYSICAL custody of our autistic son. Now, I know I cannot make decisions or changes that affect my son (his doctor's, school, therapist, etc.), but am I allowed to be informed and talk to his teachers, doctors, therapists, etc., to stay informed oh what's being done for my son and so that I can maintain the same processes in raising and teaching my son to help him overcome his challenges? Also, please cite the source of your answer. Thanks!
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2/27/06
Name: JAMIE
EMail: MINER.S@SBCGLOBAL.NET
Question: I AM IN THE MILITARY, AND SOME OF MY CO-WORKERS AND I EXCHANGE STORIES OF OUR SITUATIONS DEALING WITH OUR DIVORCE AND CUSTODY ISSUES. WE LIVE IN THE STATE OF OHIO, AND I SUPPOSE LIKE OTHER STATES THEY BASE THE CHILD SUPPORT AMOUNT OFF YOUR GROSS INCOME TO FIGURE OUT THEIR FORMULA. MY QUESTION IS, IF THERE IS ANY PRIOR/ PRESENT MILITARY WHO KNOWS, WE GET AN ALLOTMENT FOR BAS AND BAH FOR US TO LIVE ON. AND BEING THAT ISN'T TAXABLE ARE THEY, THE STATE ALLOWED TO USE THIS AS PART OF THEIR FORMULA? THAT IS MONEY FOR US TO PAY FOR OUR RENT AND FOOD.
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2/27/06
Name: jake
EMail: amandalindsay2002@yahoo.com
Question: I have a 5 yr old daughter, my x and I have joint custody. A couple of months ago my daughter was physically abused by her stepfather, i turned it in to dhs. Right after that happened my x's husband physically abused her and my daughter again. This time she got a restraining order against him, she went to court and got a permanate order. Her husband was charged with 7 counts of child abuse and 3 counts of domestic, this abuse has been going on for awhile.. the order was made last month. Well now she is back with her husband, he is living with my daughter and I am afraid for her safety... What can I do to keep her safe? I want sole custody since my ex is married to a child abuser, do I have any rights? Do I have a chance of getting custody?
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2/26/06
Name:
EMail: rhonda.weiss@sbcglobal.net
Question: Two years ago, I was in a real bad place and voluntaraly signed over my parental rights after paternity had been established by a court. My daughters mother and I are now back together and we are going to add my name to the birth certificate, will I be allowed by law to change my daughters name to my last name when her mother and marry in October
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2/25/06
Name:
EMail: demetre_r@yahoo.com
Question: My ex girlfriend and I have a child together. He will be 2 on 3 march 2006. I never livd with her and we were never married yet she is trying to get some type of maintanence money almost like allimony until my son is three. My ex is german and I am a soldier stationed in Germany. So my son is mixed. Can she get mother support money from me when I already pay child support???
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2/21/06
Name: Anthony Mason
EMail: amason223@yahoo.com
Question: Most of us can not meet our Financial obligation for arrears and current support. Nor can we work 3-4 jobs to keep our heads above water. Can we work together to create a secondary income to help each other meet these reqiurements?
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2/21/06
Name: Loving Father
EMail: dobowner2001@earthlink.net
Question: I have three children ages 12, 8, and 4. This past weekend visitation I found that my ex-wife's new husband had spanked my son leaving a whelted hand print on his leg to the point you could count all the fingers in the print when I found it three hours later. My 12 year old daughter never wants to return back to her mom's and cries when I have to take her back. Right now I am unemployed and soon to remarry. I want to get custody of my children for their own safe being because I don't hit my kids and I surely am not going to let another man. Plus my daughter strongly wants to live with me. We are in Ohio and I was just wondering where I start and if I HAVE TO have a Lawyer for getting custody or if my 12 yr. old can tell someone that she does want to live with me and not her mom. I am looking for any help. Money is tight and I already payed one lawyer to get her to meet us half way on visitation time and got no where. She lives four hours away and all she has to do is pick up the kids on the first Sunday of the month. The other weekend I am driving eight hours on Friday and then driving eight hours on Sunday. I payed $550 for this and now the lawyer wants $400 more when I did not even get anything and he told me it would only cost $550. Please ANY help would be greatly appreciated. I love my kids and want to help them and be there for them but she is making it impossible.
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2/19/06
Name: jake
EMail: babyc289@yahoo.com
Question: i want to move out of state and i have sole custody can the mother keep me here?
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2/16/06
Name: Bob
EMail: robert_e37@yahoo.com
Question: back when I divorced my children's mother I had no money for a lawyer and she came from a rich family who would get her the best lawyer so I let her muscle me into giving her full custody. now I dont like the example that she is setting for the kids by her lifestyle. is there any way of getting the custody reversed to joint custody?
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2/15/06
Name: richard wilbur
EMail: moonshinerunner_74@yahoo.com
Question: what should i do? my stepdaughter is 16 talks to her mom like shit and runs all hours of the night dresses like she's a hooker or something my wife says to go a head and spank her if i think she needs it
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2/14/06
Name: workingdad
EMail: thadius200@hotmail.com
Question: can the bm get anymore pyscho!! I need to modify my visitations to "standard" instead of "supervised", until then, I feel like I am at HER Mercy!! She decides, what day, what time, and even thinks she can tell me HOW to raise my son!! I am a good dad!! I don't need her babysitting me! I just wish I could terminate her rights based on her being a mental case and let my wife adopt. can I do that??
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2/13/06
Name:
EMail: slickk@charter.net
Question: Is it true that a father can't get half custady because the child is under three years of age
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2/11/06
Name: Daron
EMail: Alijarmon@msn.com
Question: Hi We as noncustodial parents are you willing to stage a protest in front of the white house protest the bias laws and the treatment of the non-custodial parent if you are willing to do so e-mail me or call me (513) 471-2240 for more details Alijarmon@msn.com
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2/8/06
Name: Daron Jarmon
EMail: Alijarmon@msn.com
Question: If you are willing to bbe apart of a class action law suit (Child support) to change the unfair laws e-mail-Alijarmon@msn.com I have a great lawyer whom is willing to take on the job at hand.
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2/8/06
Name: Yahoo! Dude
EMail: help@yahoodude.org
Question: If we want to be involved in a successful father relationship, we must first figure out exactly what we want from it, and the best way to do this is to ask ourselves some hard questions. We need take some time to identify what the most important relationship questions are to us, and then figure out what a father is?? ... So, what are the important father relationship questions that we should be asking here??.. buy viagra online buy viagra online order viagra order viagra cheap viagra cheap viagra buy viagra buy viagra cialis cialis
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2/8/06
Name:
EMail: armygreen73@yahoo.com
Question: My wife does not agree to let my wifepick up the kids, since my schedule at work has changed. I understand she won't be in contempt if we agree to let her pick them up. But now she is refusing to allow her to pick them up at all, my orders say Fridays @ 6pm, is she in contemptif not delivered in Oklahoma?
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2/7/06
Name: eric
EMail: ericfeely@yahoo.com
Question: I am going to graduate from anesthesia school and will be making an considerable amount more than I am currently making. How can i avoid from having my ex increase child support payments. or avoid them from increasing it a considerabale amount.
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2/5/06
Name: Mark Hoog
EMail: Mhoog@growingfield.com
Question: My name is Mark Hoog. I am the author of a six book children�s series entitled the Growing Field. It is a series designed as a tool for parents to begin a dialogue with their children (as early as age 5) on the ideas, concepts and behaviors associated with self-empowerment, personal growth, high self-esteem, leadership and strong character. I believe the mission statement of FathersOnline matches the message found in the Growing Field series. As such, I write today to see if you would like to be one of the web sites we link with to share this valuable message. (See Fathers.com/ what�s new) Book one from the Growing Field, Your Song, tells the story of a father helping his son learn to look inside himself for his unique gifts and talents. Books two and three (Dream Machine and Field of Dreams) are due for release in 2006 and introduce children to the value in dreaming big dreams for their life and growing their own seeds of success. Feel free to visit www.growingfield.com to get a feel for the series and to see the reviews offered by former Secretary of Education Richard Riley and top motivational speaker W. Mitchell. Also, please view the January blog that, through the story of flight 93 on September 11th, shares the power all fathers have in their children's lives. The series is available through all book sellers and carried nationally by Baker & Taylor and Ingram Distribution. I appreciate your time and look forward to the possibility of helping each other deliver this life changing message to moms, dads, children and families across our county. Thank you again. Best, Mark Hoog Author/ The Growing Field
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2/4/06
Name: Johnny
EMail: Dakineladat@hotmail.com
Question: I have a 4yr old daughter and my EX want's to move to oregon with her husband and their 7 month old daughter. What are my chances of my daughter staying here with me in HI? Most of my daughters family lives her both on my side and her mothers. Their just moving their because it's cheaper to live their? We are going through mediation and I know my EX wants to take her. what can i do to have her stay with me???
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2/4/06
Name: mike
EMail: ourhunterbug@aol.com
Question: do I have to pay support if my name is not on the birth certificate?
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2/3/06
Name: Fred
EMail: cg4b@yahoo.com
Question: I live in Alabama and I have a 6 year old child with a woman that lives in TN. At the time of his birth I requested paternity testing to determine that I was the father. She and the child moved to Alabama (a common law state)and we lived as a family with me supporting her and my son until June of last year (2005). She went back to TN and filed for child support and they are taking me back to the day the child was born in arrears. TN has taken my drivers license, as a result of that, I have lost the job that provided my sons health insurance and my ability to pay child support. I went to court in Alabama and they adjusted the arrears, but TN will not accept their decision and continue to keep the arrears calculated from the day of his birth. I have no job, so can not hire an attorney and now my arrears are increasing. I was paying every month until I lost my job. Any hope for this situation, or am I facing going to jail next?
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2/2/06
Name: eric
EMail: ericfeely@yahoo.com
Question: IF I move to new mexico from texas, will texas require me to return to court in texas if she requests an increase in child support or will she have to come to the new mexico court.
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2/1/06
Name: Dusty
EMail: dustydanders@yahoo.com
Question: Do I file contempt in County she lives in and how to I go about doing this? Will the courts inforce the custody order already set until I can get custody changed? Thank you!
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2/1/06
Name: dusty
EMail: dustydanders@yahoo.com
Question: I was married in the state of Arizona. My divorce and child custody was in the state of Arizons. I now live in Oklahoma and my ex-wife and son live in Texas and have for the last two Years. My ex did not notify that she was leaving the state of Arizona and I could not contact her for aprox. three months. My visitation was set for 3 days a week for two hours and to meet in a neutral spot. My ex now refuses to meet me saying she doesn't have to follow court order any more. Is this not considered contempt of court and if it is what should I do?
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1/31/06
Name: eric
EMail: ericfeely@yahoo.com
Question: If I move out of state will my child support be based on the new states guidelines or my current states guidelines. What if my salary increases and she wants an increase in child support???
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1/31/06
Name: BackSupport
EMail: cudacain@yahoo.com
Question: I have been divorced for 23 years, the state of Indiana says that I owe 3000.00 in back child support. I paid child support in another state for twenty years. The state I paid in says I have no arrearges. Indana is not trying to collect, but they show the 3000.00 as not collected every year on my Credit Report. Is there a Statute of Limitations on collecting back support. My children are 30 years old and 27 tears old now. How can I get this removed from my credit report? Can I pay a lessor amount or is it non-negotiable? Dont know what to due at this point.Please help.
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1/31/06
Name:
EMail: armygreen73@yahoo.com
Question: Hi, I need help. I need to know if my wife of 10 years can pick up my children at the regular visitation scheduled time. My work schedule has changed and I will not be able to pick them up, but my x-wife will not deliver them-just out of jealousness-yes still over 10 years. Can she do this or is she in contept of court if not delivered?
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1/31/06
Name: Don
EMail: schwiz4755@hotmail.com
Question: My son, will turn twelve in less than a year, He wants to come live with me in North Carolina. His mother has total custody, and lives in New York State. She is not going to let him go without a fight, or thats my thought from past experance. I don't have a clue how to start the process of getting him totally back into my life. A lengthly, and costly divorce, pluss the child support I pay, leaves littel or no money for legal fee's. What chance do I have of getting my son in my arms full time. How much weight will a "Affidavit of Preference" have. Please, someone out here help me, point me in the right direction. Don S.
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1/30/06
Name: KEVIN
EMail: KWYNN987@AOL.COM
Question: MY SON KEVIN JR HAS BEEN LIVING WITH ME NOW FOR 6 MONTHS. TO MAKE THE STORY SHORT THEY FOUND OUT THAT LIL KEVIN WAS LIVING WITH ME NOW AND THEY SPOT TAKING CHILD SUPPORT FROM MY CHEEK. AS SOON AS HIS MOTHER FOUND OUT SHE WANT TO COME BACK TO GET HIM TO START THE CHILD SUPPORT BACK. I WENT TO GET A LAWER BUT I JUST CAN'T AFFORD ONE THEY TOLD ME THAT I CAN GET THE PAPER WORK AND FILE IT MYSELF. WHAT I NEED TODAY IS SOMEONE THAT HAS THE PAPERWORK FOR I CAN FILL OUT FOR I CAN FILE THE PAPERWORK AT THE COURT HOUSE. I LOVE MY SON AND IF I CAN GET ANY HELP IT WILL BE WELL APPRECIATIVE THANKS A LOVING FATHER KEVIN SR
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1/30/06
Name: Don
EMail: donpsmith200@yahoo.com
Question: I going through the begining stages of a divorce. We are trying seperate assists. I'm trying to avoid the lawers as long as possible. We have agreed that I will have custody of the childern. With that being the case what will occur with the house? Will I be able to keep the house and not share the equity or will she get half the house even though I have the children?
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1/28/06
Name: motoman
EMail: sweetie_15_2@hotmail.com
Question: my exgirlfriend on i have 2 kids together and the state set my support at a amount i feel is to high. I make good money at work but we are laid off till the weather breaks, so i am on unemployment at this time. My problem is after i pay my support weekly i have 52 left out of my check, how am i supposed to pay my bills with $200 a month no one can live on that..
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1/27/06
Name: TAG
EMail: Pwp_prez@hotmail.com
Question: My wife and i keep fighting not physicaly but verbally and she told me last night that she is taking my son to another state and i could come if i want to and then this morning as i was leaving for work took my wedding ring and basiclly made it clear she didn't want me around. i don't want to move what can i do to stop her from taking my only child? please help me!!!!!!
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1/27/06
Name:
EMail: sarnesr@yahoo.com
Question: I am trying to find out how Iowa figures a parents income to use for support. I am retired and only receive mony from VA. This money is non-taxable. As far as I know I have, on paper, 0% income. How does this impact child support?
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1/27/06
Name: CHRIS
EMail: jacks357@yahoo.com
Question: i was ordered to pay child support because my ex girlfriend had gotten on welfare. right now my mother takes care of my daughter 705 OF THE TIME. SHE FEEDS,CLOTHES, HOUSES, AND SENDS MY DAUGHTER TO SCHOOL. THE OTHER 25% OF THE TIME I HAVE HER. I STILL BUY THINGS FOR HER, HELP WITH HOMEWORK, TRY TO TEACH GOOD VALUES, TALK TO HER ON THE PHONE EVERY NIGHT. THE MOM WHO GETS CHILD SUPPORT FROM ME RARELY SEES HER OR SPENDS TIME WITH HER. BUT I STILL HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT. WHAT ARE MY OPTIONS OF GETTING JUSTICE OR WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP THE CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS.
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1/23/06
Name:
EMail: tanner_chuck@hotmail.com
Question: I married a lady from another state with a intelligent 14 yr old dau. I have 3 kids 17,14 & 10. We have invited them into our home. Her dau is very dissrespectful to me at times and sometimes rude. Her dau wants to be the queen bee. Her mother doggedly defends her. my kids are becoming resentful. I love this woman very much and she and I get along great one on one. Her dau has never liked me from the start and probably feels that I took her mother away from her. The dau controls the mother at times. I feel hopeless. There is alot of tension between her dau and my kids and myself. I have tried to be nice to her but she takes jabs at me whenever she can. My kids hate the way she talks to me at times. I could deal with the dau if I had the mothers support. Help.
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1/21/06
Name: Mitchell R. McNiell
EMail: passionatecoaching@yahoo.com
Question: My daughter will be 2 years oldin June this year. Paterity testing was established with me the father the day she was born. How ever my daughter does not carry my name as I feel she should being I desire to be active in her life. What rights/laws are available to me to make this possible? I look forward to your replyand a warm hello. Thank you
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1/19/06
Name: w kirkwood
EMail: kirkie19712000@yahoo.co.uk
Question: I have recently had prodlems with the csa, I have a girl at 17 years old in full time employment. Im paying �300 a month to my ex partner through direct debit but the csa wants a payment of �80 per month for back dated. Is there any way to aviod paying the csa and still keep working. please help
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1/18/06
Name: Pedro Fabian
EMail: plosomc@yahoo.com
Question: I have been paying child support the past 10 yrs, 950$ a month for my children , the olderst is turning 18 soon, would my child support amount be reduced to half or would it be re-calculated with my new income.
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1/15/06
Name: jeff casper
EMail: jcasper05@aol.com
Question: at what age can a child decide what parent they want to live with in the state of Georgia?
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1/14/06
Name: Patty
EMail: pattym65@charter.net
Question: My first marriage ended 16 years ago when my oldest child was just turning 4. For the first 2 years I payed my ex child support, then due to the prodding of his second wife he quit letting me see my son. You guessed it, I quit paying child support. After one more year, and again at the prodding of his wife he went and filed for non-payment. Four more years went by with my paycheck being garnished. The ex then got divorced from the second wife and married for the 3rd time, this wife wanted nothing more than for him to get rid of my son so visitation started up again. December of 1999 I picked up my son and brought him to my house for the holidays. I should make mention of the fact that the ex lives in Alabama and I live in Michigan. While my son was "visiting" he decided that he wanted to stay with me instead of going back to his father's. Five years went by with not one penny from my ex, however he didn't ever go to get rid of the claim from Alabama so now they claim that I owe $80,000 for back child support and for the last year that I've been working they've been still taking money from me. recently I took a lower paying job making 1/2 the money I was making at the other one (for health reasons)and they are still taking the same amount out of my checks. To make a very long story short... How do I get in touch with the Friend of the Court in Alabama to get this reversed?
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1/10/06
Name: Mark Williford
EMail: aaguilar@fadv.com
Question: My daughter lives in a different state and I am trying to get sole custody. What state would this have to be done through? Would it be the state that my child lives in? Also which state would I need to set up my child support payments through?
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1/10/06
Name: paulo
EMail: god_bound@yahoo.com
Question: im going to have a son....my problem is im not married to my son mother..shes in the states right now and i dont know what is the family code in the california...i wanna ask if its legal that my son will bare my family name even though im not married to his mother...need answer
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1/6/06
Name: Frank Johnson
EMail: asv5712@isd-media.com
Question: Good Service
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1/6/06
Name:
EMail: trsurratt@bpa.gov
Question: My son has come to visit me from Georgia. I live in Oregon. Once he got here he informed me that he was going to stay. He is more than welcome he is 15. Can anyone give me an idea what I can be getting myself into.
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1/4/06
Name: Robert McChargue
EMail: insanity4u@juno.com
Question: WIFE COLLECTED AFDC WHILE WE WERE SEPERATED ( 1 YR ) AND SON IS NOW 15. PAYING AFDC CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENTS FOR 14 YRS. PROBABLY PAID 3X AMOUNT OWED DUE TO JOB LOSS AND ILLNESS. HOW TO STOP BALLOON INTEREST BUILD UP ?
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12/29/05
Name: Frank Johnson
EMail: aqh2329@isd-media.com
Question: Good service
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12/28/05
Name:
EMail: alijarmon@msn.com
Question: Why are men Allowing the child support courts to continue to violate our rights. What are we going to do about it? I want to start a petition to get these laws changed to be fair for both parents. If you ers interested e-mail me at Alijarmon@msn.com
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12/27/05
Name:
EMail: benz_black@yahoo.com
Question: I lived with my children since they were born. I have two girls. one is 19 and the other is 16. about a year ago I permanently separated myself from their mother. I do not want to get involved in that relationship anymore. However, my relationship with my daughters are excellent even though I was out of their live for a year. the mother do not allow me to see the 16 year old. I am currently paying child support and they say I owe 80,000 dollars. Yes $80,000. I live in MD, Please help me. the mother knows that if she takes my daughter away that it will depress me. I love my daughters.
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12/25/05
Name: Teroy
EMail: tantalizingteroy@yahoo.com
Question: What can i do to get help with my visitaion rights and i don't have money for a lawyer i miss my daughter very much.
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12/23/05
Name: taterbug
EMail: hawkoss@hotmail.com
Question: hi i live in st.louis mo im on dissabilty an my daughter is 13 years old an in fauster care an im tryin ta get her back i was wandering if any one knows of an orgonation that could help me get my own place an help get my daughter back her mom is goning to lose all her rights to her in feb 2006 an i dont know what to do can some one help me please?
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12/19/05
Name: Steve
EMail: srt5657@aol.com
Question: I have a daughter 14 years old. She lives with her mom and step dad Which are compulsive gamblers and I suspect the money I gave for child suport, gets to be spent in casinos. Is there any way I can get her to give me statement how the money gets spended? please replay. thanks
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12/19/05
Name: John
EMail: macjohnny@cox.net
Question: My soon to be ex wife is sleeping with her ex boyfriend before we married and my two year old daughter in the same bed is there anything I can do legaly, Please Help
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12/18/05
Name: angie
EMail: hotmama55@comcast.net
Question: my dad is pating suport for my sister which turned 18 on the 16 of dec.. she still live with my mom and he still pays his susport.. she has signed out of school and has a job and he want to drop his susport but dose no kno how to go about it and what needs to be... like if he candrop it cuz she is 18 and and working or if he still has to pay cuz she lives with mom??????? please awncere he really needs help
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12/18/05
Name:
EMail: JMTITTERMARY1@MSN.COM
Question: im trying to locate a ny or ca law about fathers name on birth certificates. NY and CA both have laws where the father must be presents so im told. Im trying to update PA laws with the same information. Appartly I can only do state updates. If anyone can email the law it would be really helpful to me. thanks
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12/17/05
Name: slyguy
EMail: puggies@sc.rr.com
Question: Pay child support, but x spends it on her & boyfriend. Yes my parents buy all her clothes and things she needs. X never has money. Went to court, judge says boyfriend living in house hold does not count and can not make x go to work, even though she is in better health than I. has any one got any suggestion that can help me. I was on disabilty, had to give it up to go back to work.
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12/15/05
Name:
EMail: ramrod972003@yahoo.com
Question: what can i do, i have an 8 year old daughter that i havent seen in over a year, because my ex moved and left no new address and changed the phone number, yet im still paying child support. her family also says that they dont know where she lives and the have no way to contact her either. so what can i do about this?
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12/15/05
Name:
EMail: charlotteespinoza82YAHOO.COM.
Question: I HAVE COURT AND IM BEING ACCUSED OF MOLESTING MY DAUGHTER, THE OTHER PARTY IS ALWAYS ACCUSING SO THAT I WILL NOT BE ABLE TO SPEND TIME WITH MY DAUGHTER.
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12/14/05
Name:
EMail: sdoran@peck-shaffer.com
Question: I had my child when I was 15 and the Mother would not let me see her I am now involved in her life and want to get custody. Will I owe Back Child Support even though the Mother never filled and we were never married and my name is not on the Birth Certificate?
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12/14/05
Name: chris
EMail: chrise1234@msn.com
Question: my son is supposed to visit my ex wife for xmas...she told me she would be picking our son up from the airport but at the last minute she said he is going to fly alone...i don't have faith in the airlines today.. I am seriously concerned about his safety and dont know what to do
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12/12/05
Name: Brian Hopkins
EMail: Shopkins8045@tampabay.rr.com
Question: How can I get to see my son if I don't know where he is living or what school he goes to? I know he lives in Camden County but I can't locate his mother and her new (3rd) husband. Who can help me?
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12/12/05
Name:
EMail: ramona_brucetter@bellsouth.net
Question: I have daughter that is 12 yrs. old and wants to go back to live with her mother.Her mom remarried and her and the husband decided that Emily my daughter is going to live with her mom. She has lived with me and my wife for 4 yrs. My daughter was molested by her half brother I found out about that when she was 8 years old and now he is 18 suppose to be moving out but I dont believe any thing my ex says to me, her son never graduated for high school and let him smoke cig and let his girl friend sleep over at her house at age 17 let me know what I have to do right now I have see a family counslor and I going to see a attorney what should I do. Thank you Bruce
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12/12/05
Name:
EMail: lrober117@peoplepc.com
Question: My ex-girlfriend had a baby in March of this year. I signed the birth certificate (in state of Georgia, and know I don't believe the baby is mine, will I have to pay child support if she files.
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12/11/05
Name: Micheal Hunter
EMail: smithvillefaye@yahoo.com
Question: I DON,T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH BEING DISABLED,AND NOT BEING ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR MY FAMILY.
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12/9/05
Name: Frank Johnson
EMail: air5355@iffsu.com
Question: Good Service
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12/5/05
Name: karla
EMail: karlajdiaz@yahoo.com
Question: I'am from CA and I need to know what I need to do to sign off the father of my child. The father and I had a great talk and both agreed about this and the best reason it's for my child who wants it this way.
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12/4/05
Name: Steve
EMail: Bigdaddy@aol.com
Question: I'm a single dad my wife left me and my 13 year old daughter when she was one. When I punish her I have always put her over my knee bare bottomed and spanked her with a paddle or hairbrush. Is this appropriate now that she is older?
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12/4/05
Name: V
EMail: VSMITH677@HOTMAIL.COM
Question: I HAVE A CHILD SUPPORT ORDER ON ME. THIS WOMAN JUST TOLD THE CHILD SUPPORT PEOPLE I WAS THE FATHER, WITHOUT A DNA TEST BAM, ONE DAY IT WAS THERE (CSO).THEY HAVE BEEN GARNISHING MY CHECKS. HOW CAN I STOP THIS UNTIL I GET A DNA TEST?
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12/3/05
Name: Steve
EMail: armyret@midlands.net
Question: What can I do with my ex that wants money I don't have. Child support was lowered becaused I was hurt on my job, they released me from employment over 2 years ago. I can't find a job because of a bad back. I owe back child support, they take my tax income each year. My only income is a Army retirement check that 1/2 goes to child support. I live 4 hours away from my kids. The ex is calling all the time, swearing at me to give up my rights to my 2 kids because I can't send money to pay for things. I can not talk to my kids with out she taking over the phone. Is there some help for me about the ex taking over the phone and swearing. I do not get to finnsh talking to my kids. She says by giving them up I would have any bills to pay for them, if so how can she pay bills without the support she gets now. This don't add up right. The only phone number I get from her is a cell phone number only. I will not give up my rights to my kids, even with her telling my kids want me to give them up. I feel she is turning them against me.
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12/3/05
Name: chris
EMail: cwll2@netzero.com
Question: How do I maintain custady of my newborn?I do everything I can for my wife and she still is not happy,I can except that but my son and I are a package deal now!
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12/2/05
Name:
EMail: thebondslady@yahoo.com
Question: mother said she would sign off child support for the last 5 years. (I raised our boys during that time and paid child support on them) Now that there raised she wants the money. they were not allow to live there, social service knew the kids were living with me and would not change the court order. abuse charges were filed is why they came to live with me. the judge said at that time that they should stay with me. Now I am $30,000.00 in, they take almost 600.00 per month from my checks and we don't have money for a lawyer. what do I do?
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12/2/05
Name: roger carr
EMail: rdcsrc
Question: what do you when ex is consistantly change visitation to benifet her, when it is not what is in the devorice.
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12/1/05
Name:
EMail: ladiebuglove04@msn.com
Question: DNA test proved that i am not the father of a child that i was accused of being the father of, how can i get my money back from paying child support?
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11/30/05
Name:
EMail: pingzing2@comcast.net
Question: I live in the Atlanta, GA area. I don't have family in town. My daughter is visiting me for Christmas. Does anyone have a suggestion for a fun thing to do on Christmas day....Special Restaurant and hotel events....Places to go and things to do.
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11/28/05
Name: Skud
EMail: skudbomb@yahoo.com
Question: i'm young. i got married at 19 now i'm 20 my wife is 19. she is due in may. she wants to divorce me because she says she doesn't love anymore. i flipped out once when she was hanging out with another guy. she would ditch me for him. i'm not sure if the baby is mine. i'm going to ask for a paternity test. i just don't understand why she would want to leave the father of her child. we talked about having a baby and she said all the right things to make me believe that she would always be with me. this is a terrible point in my life. i want to work our marriage out but she is unwilling. i told her i would love her forever and i ment it. any clues on things to do besides divorce?
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11/28/05
Name:
EMail: kevinbrittain@ntlworld.com
Question: i have been having my son on weekends friday till monday sometimes longer conveient to my ex wifes social life however every weekend she makes up something so i cant have him she done the same tonight and i feel it unfare to my son and to myself i have him at present and im considering not returning him and going to my soliciter in the morning will i get in trouble or is it my right
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11/27/05
Name: Dale
EMail: hoss932004@yahoo.com
Question: My fiance is having our baby boy in a month and she doesn't want to give him my last name. What rights do I have to him if any? Don't I have a say so in his last name?
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11/26/05
Name: mike
EMail: nolimit_81_mike@yahoo.com
Question: i want toget a paper saying i can get temp custady till court is set i want a police escort to house toget son we were never married she took son when i was gone at work !.WHAT DO i NEED TO DO.
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11/24/05
Name: DAve
EMail: shopppncrtking@aol.com
Question: long story short my exwife moved out of state without notifing me.found where she was, went through the court got custady on the 11/17/05 no0w the promblem is getting my child back i bought plane tickets i will be going next week. i called the police in where she is hiding from me and they said call my police in my town. no one wants to assit me in getting me my child the civil way. the police think a father has no rights even with custady. help me do whats right steps to recover my child thank you
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11/23/05
Name: matt
EMail: tb_mac@yahoo.com
Question: I have a 2and 1/2 year old son and we went to coart to set up child support and i havent heard anything back. my question is, is my ex girlfriend aloud to keep my son away from me and not let me have him on thanksgiving and on christmas like or papers state i am? please hhelp me and help me soon. also i need to know if she can keep him from me or if i have to see him if i dont want to and pay child support at the same time or if they well make me give up my parental rights? Thank you
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11/21/05
Name: LATTERRANCE
EMail: LATTERRANCE04@HOTMAIL.COM
Question: ME AND MY GIRL HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YRS .IN THAT TIME WE HAD A SON IVE BEEN HIS LIFE SINCE 09-03-04 HIS BIRTH. WE ALL STAYED IN THE SAME HOUSE.ME AND HER HAD PROBLEMS.SHE KICKED ME OUT.I MOVE TO SPARTANBURG. SHE WONT LET ME SEE HIM. I MIS HIM ALOT! WHAT CAN I DO?
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11/21/05
Name: aaron
EMail: bootlegerama@hotmail.com
Question: whenever my future x and i had a fight she would say she would kill herself can this help in cust case i have proof on one ocation
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11/20/05
Name:
EMail: bootlegerama@hotmail.com
Question: future x told 6yr old that they were moving away im temp cust should i bee concernd
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11/20/05
Name: jeff
EMail: jandd@mo-net.com
Question: I am the father of a 16 yr. old. He has lived with me since he was 3. Recently he ran away from my home in july to live with his mother, she refuses to work so she can draw welfare, now the state is trying to get child suport from me, even though he has been with us most of his life and not getting child suport from her or assitance from her or anyone. What can we do?
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11/20/05
Name:
EMail: kandr5@verizon.net
Question: Hello all please help me if you can. I am trying to get a decrease. I pay 600 a month for two children. My x has her own business and hasn't filed her income tax since 2001 so it is hard to figure out how much she makes. She had a house built this year on some land that is worth 41,000 and the houses alone in that area cost 250,000. She has remarried and her husband is in the military. The thing about it is she ses she has only made 26,000 as of November of this year. How do I find out how much she makes even if she is hiding it?
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11/19/05
Name:
EMail: DADDYOFJASE@YAHOO.COM
Question: IF I SGN OVER PARENTAL RIGHTS OF MY CHILD WHO LIVES IN ANOTHER STATE AM I STILL RESPONIBLE FOR CHILD SUPPORT. SIGNED: TRIED OF FIGHTING
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11/19/05
Name:
EMail: DADDYOFJASE@YAHOO.COM
Question: IF I SGN OVER PARENTAL RIGHTS OF MY CHILD WHO LIVES IN ANOTHER STATE AM I STILL RESPONIBLE FOR CHILD SUPPORT. SIGNED: TRIED OF FIGHTING
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11/18/05
Name: Brandon
EMail: just_harris@msn.com
Question: My name is Brandon, and I just found out that I am the father of a beautiful son named Devon, who is now five. I have to start this with a short story about the circumstances, in hopes you will see why I am so confused. Sarah (Devon's mother) had been a best friend of mine for about 13 years, we had been friends through thick and thin good and bad times. It wasn't until her current boyfriend Eric, had gone to jail for beating her up, that the most traumatic time in my life began. I had been supportive to her for so long, it was natural for me to be after this had happened. Well, she started to really hit on me one night after she had a few drinks. I was kind of uneasy about it, but she had me drink with her. (Big mistake I might add.) Well she was all over me and one thing lead to another, and we ended up together that night. Well, the following morning she had acted like nothing had happened, and we were like normal. As time went on a few months had passed, and Eric was out of jail. She found out she was pregnant, and she knew it wasn't Eric's child. Next thing I find out is she was with someone else during that time too, his name is Neal. Well, it was believed because she was with him for over a week, that the child was his. The assumption went on until the child turned 3 years old. She didn't want it to be Neal's kid or mine. She stated repeatedly that it was "HER" child. Until Devon was almost 4 years old, then she started DEMANDING that I see MY son, though it was believed he wasn't mine. For the first 4 years I saw him everyday to every other day, because in my heart i knew he was mine. I was known as Uncle Brandon, and I adored Devon and his siblings. (Which were Eric's kids.) Then her demands became horrible. Not only for the first almost 4 years of his life did he not know I was his father, but she told him it was someone else that was his father (Neal). Then all of a sudden, I had to become more than the relationship I already had, though Devon already believed I wasn't his father. Now her lie crumbled ad Devon and I had to try to find a way to catch up on what we both had missed out on, a father and son relationship. Then the attacks became more personal from her, demanding "back" child support, and demanding I spend huge amounts of money on the boy, as well as tainting his mind to where all he wanted from me was to spend money on him. He didn't want to see me because he thought it was "MY" fault that we didn't have the bond that most fathers and sons get to enjoy. So Devon had this greedy self centered attitude twards me. It really hurt, but I continued to see him every weekend, though i now lived a good 2 1/2 hr to 3 hr drive away. So not only was she demanding money, and for me to always buy Devon stuff, and wouldn't do any type of arrangements with me for a meeting place that would be convenient for us both. I have such a resentment for her, for the three years of lies, and unreasonable demands on me, in addition to the state wanting back child support, I don't know what to do. Please if someone can help me with some good advice, I can't help but really dispise her. Devon and I have missed out on so much, what can I do and what are my rights? If anyone can help, I would really appreciate it. thanks, brandon
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11/18/05
Name:
EMail: mterie@cox.net
Question: How old must kids be to choose what parent they would rather live with in case of a split
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11/16/05
Name: jc2hargis
EMail: jc2hargis@yahoo.com
Question: My 8 year old daughter lives in Texas, I live in Ohio. I have been paying for my flying my daughter up at Christmas and in the summer since she was 2. It is very expensive and I recently asked her mom to let her fly alone, straight flight, and she refuesed. She also refuses to pick up any of the cost. I have petitined an attorney in Texas to ask the court for her to let my daughter fly alone. Has anyone else been through this? And were you successful? I missed last Christmas becasue in ohio the snow was so bad, but her flight the next day was fine, but she would not let her fly alone and she was 7 then. She is a very hostile ex and does not inform me on her school work, school pictures, will not answer the phone when I call, it has been a very unpleasant 7 years.
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11/16/05
Name:
EMail: kj20052@verizon.net
Question: can my exgirlfriend move away with my chlidren ?
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11/15/05
Name:
EMail: ens_1030@yahoo.com
Question: I would like to know if anyone is aware of the leagle rights I have for my 2 year old son who is in the teporary custidy of a family member? My ex amdI were never married but lived with the child and cared for him for a year and 3 months together. I left one day because she mentaly ran me through mud....I had no selfasteam or much care or concern for anything but him...He and my soon to be wife are the only things I geet up for every morning. She is the most wonderful thing besides my son that has ever happend to me. The custedy holder of my son, I feel, has been treating me unfare. Because of the season I can only take off one weekend a month to see my son but now that is getting even harder for me. this last time I had him they told me the day I had him that my time would be cut 3 hours short because my ex wanted him the next day (her reason for wanting him was because she get paid 2 days earlyer). I have tired calling leagle aid and they wont help and I can't stend not being able to be with him as much as I can. this isn't the first timeI have been treated unfare without worning or prior concent. I love my son and I just want to know if I have any rights to haveing him more after the new year and if I have the right to know and have concent to time changes before I have him for the day. Please contact me if you can help me.
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11/14/05
Name:
EMail: hancockn@vmcmail.com
Question: My ex-wife and I have joint-custody of our three year old daughter. Sine January, she has moved at least six times and has had just as many jobs. I love my daughter very much and my new wife and I would like nothing more than to get her out of the environment of constant moving. Is there anyone that can help me?
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11/13/05
Name: RUBENMORENO
EMail: RUBENMORENO1@COMCAST.NET
Question: HOW DOES DAD DEALS WITH FEMALE DAUTHERS REGARDING CHANGING DIPERS IN PUBLIC
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11/10/05
Name: Michael
EMail: mfroggat@vansystems.com
Question: I am a divorced father of a nineteen year old son who hasn't talked or seen him in four months. Since July 2005, when we had an argument, we have not talked or seen each other. I have called him on his cell phone and left messages but he never calls me back. My son Mike lives with his mother, my x-wife who hasn't help the situation either. When I tried to see him by stopping at her house to talk to my son she tells me he's either taking a nap or is out. I think in some ways she's using this to get back at me for divorcing her. We've been divorced almost 8 years now. I stopped paying child support last year but I still buy things for my son like clothes and help him out with other things. I also pay for his cell every month and have for the last 4 years. After the divorce I spend time with my son almost every weekend. Since he turned 16 or 17 and met some friend it's been different. I know he's over eighteen and can basically do whatever he wants by not calling or seeing me. Yes, he has gotten into trouble with the authorities because of drug. He also dropped out of school when he was a junior. Hasn't worked at all either. I don't know what he does during the day because he mother doesn't communicate with me either. I'm frustrated and I'm thinking would I be better of just walking away from the whole situaction and not try to contact him. Everyone tells me when kids get older they'll talk to you or come back. Maybe that's true because I got closer to my father when I got out of the service. So, I'm seeking some advice from someone who may have had a problem like this. I'm a concern and loving father trying to help my son. But I can't help him if he doesn't want me in his life. Thanks!
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11/9/05
Name:
EMail: jennifera_frank@yahoo.com
Question: A friend is currently pursuing visitation rights for his child. There is no present court order set up for visitation or custody. Father always tried to work things out on his own with the mother. Both mother and daughter had moved away and now have moved back, and this will be the first time he has taken her to court to get visitation in writing. Paternity has already been established through the courts and he paying and is fully up to date with his child support. The mother has denied him seeing his daughter recently on several occasions after they had jointly agreed on visits. Is there any kind of temporary court order he can file to set up visitation until this is settled in court, which could take many months?
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11/8/05
Name: Gary
EMail: gc_rider1258@yahoo.com
Question: My Wife and I devorced 27 yrs. ago, we have 2 sons who are now 24 and 28, I had all reasonable rights to visitation when we divorced in Indiana, However shortly after, she moved out of State, not leaving an address, not even for the courts to send her child support, now, I am disabled,she never fussed about the monet before. But can she noe get into my Disability Pay after all these years?
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11/8/05
Name: gary
EMail: churchtop@verzion.net
Question: I have joint custody of my daughter. I get her every other thursday and every friday, saturday and sunday. I would like to know why I have to pay 700.00 a month. I have to provide my own clothing and food. I is there any way I can get my child surport payment lower.
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11/4/05
Name:
EMail: jenniferprice72@hotmail.com
Question: I live in the state of Flordia and currently seperated and getting ready to go thru a divorce. My husband keeps telling me I am not allowed to do what I want with my children nor leave the state...Constant threats that he will call the police. I would like to know if anyone knows the laws of child visitation during this time period.We have nothing in writing and we have joint custody of the children seeing that legally we are still married.I have physical custody of the children. I ask this cause he feels since he is the one that left and has the girlfriend he should do what he pleases. I need to know the dos and don'ts of Flordia when it comes to visitation.If you can please help me I would be appreciative.
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11/4/05
Name: Jim Garlets Jr
EMail: JimnBeckie@Comcast.net
Question: 1st Question~ Do I qualify for social security at age of 62? 2nd Question~ My youngest Daughter recives disabitly (mental retardation). And I Recive Fedreral Postal Disability. She is age 16. Will I still have to pay child susport,(knowing she gets money). Also Does Child susport go based on your income? I am getting 2 of my children taken off. I am paying $370.00 a month, Will that go down with my other 2 childern taken off Or will it stay the same?
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11/3/05
Name: vamp
EMail: vamperv@bellsouth.net
Question: I need partial costudy on my six year old girl and my three year old son, mom is strung out on drugs, what should i do?
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11/2/05
Name:
EMail: gbrob102285@hotmail.com
Question: How can i get custody of my child, i am 20 yrs of age and i have a child on the way but the child's mom lives in a smoking atmosphere and i want my child to be healthy and live with me, please send me a message thanks.
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10/31/05
Name: Tom
EMail: roudkill_cow@hotmail,com
Question: ok i wrote in a couple of days ago and my son keepd asking me to masturbate with him, i got a reply on my last post but it really want helpfull. so i need to know should i show my son to mastubate by him waching me or should i tell him about it cause he keeps asking me to show him. I told him how to do it but he wants me to show him. I'm very worried about him please help??
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10/31/05
Name: martins iriah
EMail: siblone@hotmail.com
Question: Hi, It's not often that I am surprised by something I see online. And it's even more rare that I stumble upon a book that causes me to literally stop what I am doing and write a letter to everyone I know. But I just discovered that Derek Gehl and his team -- probably the best-known and most well-respected experts on the subject of e-mail marketing -- have released all the details behind how they used e-mail marketing to make $213,705 and attract 41,409 new opt-in subscribers in the last 30 days alone! The truth is, I still can't figure out exactly WHY Derek has made this information available, since it gives everyone -- including his competitors -- the chance to steal the secrets he's spent the last 6 years perfecting! They show you everything from growing a super-responsive opt-in list as quickly as possible, to generating the highest possible revenue from every e-mail you send, to protecting your business from being wrongly accused of spamming and knowing how to effectively deal with it if you are... They also teach you when you should mail, how you should mail, what you should write, and when you should send it so that you are guaranteed the best possible results from each and every e-mail... Their years of testing are going to completely eliminate all of YOUR guesswork! The thing is, the e-mail marketing industry HAS changed dramatically over the past few years. And while company after company has gone out of business just trying to keep up with all these changes, Derek has continued to generate over $2.4 million every year with e-mail marketing. And this book shows you step-by-step what they did and how they did it so you can take his strategies and model them to create your own success. With over 430+ pages that include tons of great real-life examples, I was especially impressed by the way their book breaks down exactly HOW you can implement -- and test -- all the tips and techniques that he teaches into your own business. I still think that Derek's going to regret giving all this information away, so I would advise you to grab this book while you can! It really does tell you everything you need to do to grow your business successfully with e-mail marketing. Find out more at: http://www.marketingtips.com/emailsecrets/t.cgi/859991/ All the best... [name] fathers online members
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10/29/05
Name: Tom
EMail: roudkill_cow@hotmail.com
Question: Hi my son asked me to show him how to masturbate tht was 3 days ago. Now he keeps follwing me arond the house, in the bathroom and in my bed trying o get me to show him wht do i do???
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10/27/05
Name: ross
EMail: zebradesign@tampabay.rr.com
Question: I'm divorced with 2 kids and have always paid my child support. 3 years ago I took her to mediation for shared custody versus primary/secondary. Her child support was lowered. My income has not changed. However, I live with my girlfriend who has a higher income. Can my ex get modify our support agreement because of my girlfriend?
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10/27/05
Name:
EMail: toddmedina07@yahoo.com
Question: I'm not working. My child support arrearage continues to build. I'm out of state and cannot afford a lawyer to adjust my payment. Also, I have been held in contempt when i was not working before, so i could easily go to jail if I end up back in court. Looking for any advice. Thanks.
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10/22/05
Name:
EMail: RMSTEVENSON37@YAHOO.COM
Question: how to know if juvenile has a warrant for arrest?
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10/22/05
Name: Ed
EMail: uthinksohuh@hotmail.com
Question: I have a 4 y/o daughter who i get every other weekend, on week one i geter her tuesday night, and thursday till 8:00 p.m, then the opposite week 2. My ex originaly set up the child support when she had no job, then instantly took her old job back. Then she bought a NEW van, put my daughter on her insurance.... she has 2 other kids....so the review ment a DOUBLEING of my support payments. Now it is $441 a month. I am now un-employed, not by my choice, and am attending college for my AAS. My ONLY income is My G.I. bill, and no part time job is going to pay me the amount of money i am suppose to pay. I asked the Child Support Recovery Unit here, and they told me it takes 6 MONTHS to do an imediate review. SO now i lose my drivers license by march, because my back support will be about $2,800. I LOVE my daughter, i have never went more than 3 days in a row without seeing her since she was born. I have never been late with my support in 4 years. SO why am i getting screwed?
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10/19/05
Name:
EMail: robswinga365@hotmail.com
Question: October18,2005 11:25 a.m. I have an 10 month old son that I am being denied the right to see him. His mother and myself were once a couple but after my son was born, it just did not work. She was, in my opinion, not taking care of him correctly so I called child protective services for them to do an investigation, not to have him taken just to get on record that a report has been filled about how the child is being cared for. There investigation turned up nothing illegally going on, but morally she has not made a worthy effort to take care of him. The house is always dirty, it has an odor in it and his clothes smell mildewed and his bottles are never made properly. I want custody of my son. What all do I have to do. I really need to do this. I don't get to see him, and I know she does not do right by my son. HELP!
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10/19/05
Name: anthony
EMail: anthony.ocyc@sbcglobal.net
Question: My son 13 years old, whom i do not have custody of is in juvenile hall (jail). his mother is in jail for drug charges. They are chargeing me for my son being in custody am i liable for him being in jail? His mother and i have been seperated for the last 20 years. Stressed out!
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10/19/05
Name:
EMail: kparker@iaai.com
Question: where do i go file for child surport in philadelphia
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10/8/05
Name: guitarcondo
EMail: guitarcondo@rogers.com
Question: I have been separated from my children for 10 years. I would like to re-connect with my children. What steps should I take? I have a daughter (18), who is away ay university. My two sons (16 & 13) live with their mother.
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10/4/05
Name: Xpired
EMail: qugene@hotmail.com
Question: New Zealand Immigration wont let me into NZ because I broke terms and condidtions set out in there visa structure. My two children live there and I have not seen them in eight months , I came home for a holiday not realising a democratic country could or would deny children of their father and vice versa, I have been fighting them for six months but getting nowhere, I have tried lawyers etc but every avenue I tried comes to a dead end..Can a government of a country do this to us or and if so why? They are both boys aged 5 and 8 and my pride and joy. Any comments or suggestions very welcome..Thanks..
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10/3/05
Name:
EMail: jreamer@sbcglobal.net
Question: I recieved a phone call today that I have a 15 year old son. I have had no Idea that he existed. Well I know that I am not on the birth certificate. I want to get to know him if he is mine but what are my legal rights? What are his mothers rights as far as coming after me?
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10/2/05
Name:
EMail: koin032004@yahoo.com
Question: I had a girlfriend years ago who left me when I was sent to jail for 3 months. Before going into jail, she told me that she had been cheating on me and that she was going to be with him. I recently ran into her and she told me that she has a 5 year old daughter that is mine and insists that I pay child support. As far as I know the guy she cheated on me with 5 years ago signed the birth certificate. I told her to go through the courts because I want proof that the child is mine. If the child is mine, I wish to relinguish my rights and to move on with my family. Am I still responsible for the child if someone else signed the birth certificate?
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9/29/05
Name: MO
EMail: margal1900@yahoo.com
Question: What can I do if child won't visit and mom won't make him. Accused me of abuse.
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9/26/05
Name:
EMail: jwango@excite.com
Question: Sorry, I'll try this again. I didn't want to use my e-mail in case someone in the family might see it, but Oh well. Question: I had written in a while ago about my (MIL) being overbearing and taking charge of my son's care and got some sound advice, but now things seem to be worse. I am in a unique situation now. My MIL is now living with us. The reasons for that are very confusing to me, but, if I would have said "no", we all know how much of a "meanie" I would have been (to put it nicely). After all, it's not like she doesn't have a place to stay. She is paying a house payment, and all the bills while her sister and brother-in-law and 2 kids stay at her house rent free. Of course, any other person wouldn't move out of thier house and still pay the bills just so someone else could live there. But she doesn't mind because she gets to see grandchild 24-7. So in reality, it seems I'm the one being taken advantage of here becuase there seems to be no end in sight. My wife doesn't seem to mind because in her family, everone is in everyone else's buisiness (That's why some of them don't get along I guess). I'm trying to be "superdad" to take away the "help" excuse my wife keeps on using to justify the MIL presence. But it's not like the "superdad" thing is going to end after she leaves. If anyone has been in a similar situation before or can relate, please relay your opinions and/or advice. Thanks, Jay
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9/24/05
Name: BAGE
EMail: BREADTHUG02@HOTMAMIL.COM
Question: I LIVE IN FLORIDA. WHEN I FOUND THAT MY GIRLFRIEND WAS PREG. SHE STOP WORKIN AND I SUPPORTED HER. MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN PREMATURE AND THE MOTHER DID NOT WORK FOR A YEAR AFTERWARDS AND IN THAT YEAR I PAY ALL THE BILLS INCLUDING RENT AND TOOK CARE OF MY DAUGHTER SHE THEN PLACE ME ON CHILDSUPPORT AND WE LIVE IN THE SAME HOUSE. IT HAS BEEN 1 YEAR AND WE STILL LIVE TOGETHER. SHE HAS ANOTHER CHILDSUPPORT CHECK COMING AS WELL AND SHE IS ON FOODSTAMPS. SHE REFUSES TO TAKE ME OFF. I HAVE MY TRUCK PAYMENT I HAVE RENT TO PAY I MAKE 1400 BI WEEKLY AND I CANNOT GET A GOOD MEAL TO EAT I NEED HELD, HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
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9/21/05
Name: Andrew Bready
EMail: Princess2crime@yahoo.com
Question: I had fling With a girl about Two years ago, and a baby was born but the girl keeps changing names on who the father is? I don't want to get a attached but I don't want to lose seeing my child grow up eigher? what do I do?
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9/21/05
Name: Nick
EMail: phatty_pankakeman@yahoo.com
Question: I am a disabled father who is trying to get custody of my 4 year old daughter. Having hard time finding a lawyer. Have been in and out of court for two years. Does anyone have any information that can help me? I live in Grafton County in New Hampshire.
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9/21/05
Name: kennyandi2009
EMail: kennyandi2009@yahoo.com
Question: child surpport is taking 400 amonth for back child surpport that my wife never recieve any money or food stamps from the state of va my ex wife work of the irs she dint need my money please answer
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9/20/05
Name: john
EMail: sarahsunshine@alltel.net
Question: Can I file a petition for custody by myself.
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9/16/05
Name: michael
EMail: mmetcalf1@cox.net
Question: I am wanting to modify visitation rights and/or get custody. I live in oklahoma and my son lives in Washington, at least that's the last known place. Do i need to get a lawyer in washington or in oklahoma?
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9/15/05
Name: brian
EMail: bkboerst@sbcglobal.net
Question: my wife and i are just starting our divorce. i have a lawyer. whatthings should i have him do to let me keep as much of my income as possible. i have 2 sons and i don't mind paying for them. but i need to have money to live on
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9/12/05
Name: Jay
EMail: somone@somehwere.net
Question: I had written in a while ago about my (MIL) being overbearing and taking charge of my son's care. I am in a unique situation now, being as MIL problems are ususally with daughter in laws and the husbands mother. My MIL is now living with us. The reasons for that are very confusing to me, but, if I would have said "no", we all know how much of a meanie I would have been. After all, it's not like she doesn't have a place to stay. She is paying a house payment, and all the bills while her sister and brother-in-law and 2 kids stay at her house rent free. Of course, any other person wouldn't move out of thier house and still pay the bills just so someone else could live there. But she doesn't mind because she gets to see grandchild 24-7. So in reality, it seems I'm the one being taken advantage of here becuase there seems to be no end in sight. If anyone has been in a similar situation before or can relate, please relay your opinios and/or advice. Thanks, Jay
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9/8/05
Name: emma
EMail: emilyjames 30@hotmail.co.uk
Question: my daughter has been staying with her dad over the past year but now shes back with me permenantley he has been claiming child benefit and hav just discovered hes been claim ing child tax for the last 10 weeks with out me knowing th ething is i also claim income support for the child always hav done who is in the wrong? and also hes trying to get a full residency order for her but he has not got perental responsibility i hav what are his chances in getting the order we dont get on and think its best if my child dosnt see him as he always finds problem with me ie;gets violent an try to poision the childs mind? please help xx
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9/7/05
Name:
EMail: wshade1@woh.rr.com
Question: My ex-wife has full custody of my 14-year old son, we have been divorced for 12 years. I was granted standard visitation and everything has gone smooth until this year. This summer is the first time in all these years that he has not been with me and my family for the regular 5 weeks visitation in the summertime. His mother is no longer communicating with me via telephone and will only email me regarding my son. She routinely emails me on the day before my visitation to say that he will not be coming over that weekend or that I can pick him up, but he has to be home on Saturday instead of the standard Sunday. She is adamant that he is 14 and can make his own decision about whether or not he wants to come for visitation and she says he'll tell her when he wants to come over and she will contact me. Does my standard order of visitation still apply regardless of whether he is now 14 or not?
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9/7/05
Name: barnelius
EMail: barnelius@hotmail.com
Question: My ex is pregnant and the baby is mines. We don't get along and I'm moving out of state. She asked me to give up my parental rights of my child with the option of not paying child support. Should I give up my parental rights and just let her move on with her life or should I fight this to the end? (It can get ugly with her)
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9/7/05
Name:
EMail: khowell@cpsbla.us
Question: My fiance and I are getting married in Feb. We have a problem that we need to resolve first. His xgirlfriend told him that he was the father of her child. The child is going on 4 years old and has never had a dna test to prove it. My fiance has tried to even pay for the test himself and she refuses. About two months ago he tried again and she refused again. The thing is that two of his best friends came to him and said that they were with her before he was and that the child could be theirs as well (keep in mind the child looks exactely like one of the men). Also, my fiance and this girl started having a sexual relationship three weeks after they started dating He always wore protection and in the month to follow she found out that she was pregnant. i don't believe the baby could be his due to the timing of the pregnancy. PLEASE HELP we are desperate for answers.
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9/6/05
Name: bill
EMail: incas1000@sbcglobal.net
Question: i divorced my first wife after 20 yrs. and we have two wonderful kids. (a daughter 20 yrs. and a son 12 yrs.) i gave up everything for my kids comfort, only my ex. couldn't pay for it. both of us filed for bankruptcy. i am remarried and life has been rough. i pay 170.00 week child support. i have been disabled due to a injury 19 yrs ago when i was in the submarine force. due to this injury i have struggled with employment in my current marriage. i have had 2 surgeries in the last year and i am still suffering. my ex. doesn,t appreciate anything which is partly why i am not there. the courts in indiana do not care about fathers. and, my current wife is stressed to the max that she doesn't have to deal with it because it is not her children nor is it her problem. i love my wife and i love my kids. three doors shut. where does all this leave me? i am hated or attacked on all fronts. mind you my kids do love me and know i have been there for many years. there is no verbal or physical abuse here with either of my wives or kids. i am just a man who loves his wife and his children, but everyone else wants to be unreasonable and hold anger and grudges and blame me. excuse me, i love my wife and my children, what more can i do?
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9/2/05
Name: Dave
EMail: dcaz4moores@yahoo.ca
Question: Does anyone out there struggle with internet pornography and telphone chat etc. I hate that I struggle with this at times and very few if any people want to talk about it. I know that it is not healthy and I am looking for advice on tactics and behavioural changes that have been successful for others who have struggled and wanted to change. Thanks. dave.
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8/31/05
Name: Mark
EMail: MarkWII@aol.com
Question: My son is going to be 17 in november. I have been paying child support through a guardian ad lituem since he was 4.I got remarried when he was 5 and though late somtimes always paid my payments. I have my son every weekend and always have and thats a 80 mile round trip twice a weekend. He also spends his summer vacations with me along with his spring breaks. He has never missed a thanksgiving always woke up her on christmas and stayed through new years and never missed Easter Sunday with us He did however miss his first halowwen with us last year. But he was about to be 16 so ill give him that. Sounds good so far huh! Now the bad. In 96 we had are first daughter and the first daycare expense thats when my payments started getting late and i had to go to court a couple of times to explain and pay somthing. Then 01 came and we had are second daughter in july. Well in december of that year i got laid off. And was supposed to go back in February. Well guess they laid me off for a reason they went out of business.So I havent been able to pay anything since. I went to court one more time since then explained what happened (Just so happend it was summer and my son who i pay on was with me) This guy tells me he wants cash by the end of the afternoon or i will have a warrant. I said there is no way i can have any money by then and where are my kids supposed to go being this was a family thing and my son was living with me for the summer. Man says right to my sons face when they pick you up we will put them in child protective services. I said like hell you will, walked out and never looked back. Since then me and my wife had us a son he will be 1 on sept 3. I still stay home with the kids, taking my oldest daughter to and from school so i dont see her face on the fox news channel with amber alert under it.And i am a coach of a 9 year old girls softball team. The other day when I wasnt home a sherif came by i guess i missed a court date but didnt sign anything to where anyone would now i knew about it.It says i could get 6 months in jail and im down around 12,000. It adds up quick. I cant be in jail 6 months my wife would lose her job and have to move and she has had her job 15 years but makes enough for us to get by not enough to put 3 kids in a daycare and pay rent lights and all that. All job offers i have had would just be enough to cover daycare costs and maybe my gas but now with these prices not even that. Any sugestions on what i could do to get out of this without jailtime.
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8/31/05
Name: philip
EMail: yvette@cox.net
Question: i have a 6 year old son. just relocated from mass. what sports are avaliable to enroll in now?Icurrently live inchandler,az.
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8/31/05
Name: philip
EMail: yvette@cox.net
Question: i have a 6 year old son. just relocated from mass. what sports are avaliable to enroll in now?
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8/29/05
Name: James
EMail: jad0430@msn.com
Question: My ex-wife was ordered to pay me child support almost 10 years ago. She then within a couple of months moved from here on the east cost to the west cost. I have had an open case with my state's child support enforcent agency this whole time and all they seem to do is keep track of the amount of arrearages. Currently that amount exceeds $88K and I am just sick of the whole situation. I can't help but feel that if I had left town and left her w/o making support payments I'b be buried in legal trouble. What in the world is there for me to do?
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8/27/05
Name: neil
EMail: worethetshirt@aol.com
Question: after a series of verble abuise from ex in front of my son and the also nowing that she verblely abuises her new partner ive took apon myself to inform social services to report her why do i feel so bad and down
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8/26/05
Name: Kathy
EMail: penakathleen@yahoo.com
Question: My ex-husband and I have been divorced for years he abandoned both me and our daughter never paid a penny in child support which was court ordered when she was 2. She is now in financial need for school loans and most recently her car blew up she has been maintaining a relationship with him for about 3 years now and has asked him for some help at least with getting a car. He is supposded to be disabled and claims he can not work he is only 50. I feel that he only claims this because he owes approximatley 99,000 in back child support and has found that this is a way to escape the hounds he also has 2 other children that he never helped to support. He is now living with a 78 yr old woman for about 10 yrs everything he owns is in her name what I would like to know is would this be considered a common-law marrage in Va and allow my daughter or myself to pursue civil leagle actions against him and this woman my daughter and I are stuggleing which is really nothing new but he was going to at least help her get a car last year and then backed out when his girl friend objected she reminded him that maybe he might want a new truck which he now has "bum" or is it just alost cause not worth pursuing he claims they own 5 houses and quit a bit of property all in her name I would appreciate any help
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8/22/05
Name: Jeffry Melbert Kellerman
EMail: chesepeake12@yahoo.coml
Question: How can I help my daughter, Jennifer, with some coaping skills through the use of words while she is away livivg with her mom during the school year. Jennifer is visually impaired so my line of communication is the phone, although my wife used our parents little parent trainer-cheat book and wrote a cute hello, how ya doin. My daughters school is a very good school as far as I know; although they applied only six weeks of behavorial type training because of Jennifers difficulty with transition that she even had here in Alaska when we all lived here, because Jennifers being born here and mainstreamed her. I had professional wittnesses, both in the specialneeds childrens :child psychologist, and the head of the specialneeds entire department at an Oregon University. in our final cuatody battle. Now, they both described in detail what would happen to Jennifer psychologically and emotionally. which is almost exactly what has happened. We watched her suffer this summer with anxiety, and frustration with hating the way her life is down there. She has always wanted to live with me and our family because Denise's chilren were 5 months and 5 years, and Jennifer was only 3. It only getting worse, and I could go on and on but no. If someone can help , please.
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8/21/05
Name: daniel skelton
EMail: daniel_skelton2005@yahoo.com
Question: How does a guy get rights when they are not married?
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8/19/05
Name:
EMail: rodrigp@carney.navy.mil
Question: can the mother of my son take my son out of the state without my consent?
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8/16/05
Name: Les
EMail: lester@khan.net
Question: My ex-wife and kids live in New Brunswick, Canada which have a very low cost of living. I recently relocated because of work to an area with a very high cost of living and my Salary was adjusted to compensate. But the federal child support guidelines does not seem to take this situation into account. Now my child support payments gives my ex a very comfortable life where she lives while leaving me with insufficiant funds to live on myself. Does anyone have experience trying to get the canadian courts to reduce these payments in such a circumstance. I don't have the money for a lengthly court battle, and would hate to throw good money after bad if my chances aren't good. Thanks
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8/16/05
Name: adam
EMail: admii@hotmail.com
Question: i found out that my kids have seen more houses ,boyfriends and poeple to stay with than a traveling salesperson. Three schools five towns and i rearly get to see them. i still dont know were they are now. what are my chances of full custody. she just drops them off for a day or two and the party they stay with is left responsible for thier care and going to school.i also found out that they have missed alot of school.
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8/16/05
Name: bay shift
EMail: htt;//www.RoySoton
Question: Iam Trying to get my babyboy legitimate how do ido that
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8/16/05
Name: ryan c.
EMail: ryancurtis_@hotmail.com
Question: i live in redding, CA. the co-parent has attempted suicide. Now she is pregnant with another mans child. I allowed her to have joint custody for our childrens bene fit.Due to her current situation i dont want her to collect state comps. on my money. How do i protect myself?
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8/15/05
Name: P. C
EMail: slyfoxx03@yahoo.com
Question: Another state is trying to summons me for child support, but haven't gotten served. Want to know what to do.
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8/14/05
Name: christina
EMail: anozira632@hotmail.com
Question: my current boyfriend has a problem, he was sleeping with this girl at the beginning of the year b4 i started dating him...just like a booty call as its said...now she's pregnant and is almost due....he wants nothing to do with this girl or baby....she's calling about money already...we are just starting to look into the laws on signing off all rights...so i was just wondering if you can offer any advice to me...HOW DO WE HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS GIRL OR BABY..HOW DOSE HE SIGN AWAY ALL RIGHTS TO HER??? thank you christina, west chester,PA
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8/13/05
Name: kathy
EMail: ladyisabella@americonnect.net
Question: my cousinhas a 15 year old daughter who lives in kentuckyand he lives in illinois. the question is if she becomes pregnant does he have to continue to pay child support or is she considered an adult?
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8/13/05
Name: James
EMail: wbfirefighter15@mchsi.com
Question: My daughter has been living with for 3 years now and i'v been working with child support recovery to switch the paper work . They have sent the paper work to her mom several times and have tried to call her she will not return the paper work or there call to show they she has been living with me . Just today her mom tells me my daughter is moving back in with her , she is on medical leave from her work which is a low paying job and her lazy boyfriend does not have a job and is trying to get disablity but goes outside and does work . What can i due they can not afford to have her live there and her other daughter quit school and finally got her GED and did get a job and is most likly giving them money , is there anything i can due to keep her here me and my wife have great jobs with insurance her mom does not . Do i just keep work with child support recovery or get a lawer ?
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8/12/05
Name: ANTHONY
EMail: izzytierno@univision.com
Question: Educate yourself and protect by learning techniques to reduce child support grossly exagerated judgments.
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8/11/05
Name:
EMail: christina42783@aol.com
Question: Hi i asked a ? about dna testing and its posted on the wed, and i wanted to know if i could take that off the web or take me email off and levae the ? please help
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8/10/05
Name: Chris
EMail: vtroys@adelphia.net
Question: I agreed to 1/3 custody when ex filed for divorce since she was keeping marital home. Divorce finalized in 2001. Two sons born 1996 and 1998. Both of us have since remarried, and live in same town. Both stepparents have good relationships with sons. I have raised question of moving to a true 50/50 arrangement, but my ex has adamantly refused. She will not say why, but I suspect it has to do with money and control. I want to try mediation to see if I can persuade her that 50/50 is the fairest and best for our sons. Has anyone had any luck in this area?
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8/9/05
Name: Mike
EMail: mikey-c@excite.com
Question: Is it possible (or worthwhile) to bring a lawsuit against a state child support enforcement agency? I have faithfully paid my support for years, my daughter turned 18 and the order stopped. I was overpaid by a few thousand dollars, due to tax return siezures and delays in stopping ther ganishment. I was content to write that off, but now the agency in question is coming after me again, stating I still owe! I see from surfing around that several lawsuits have been brought against this agency before regarding unconstitutional practices, i.e. guilty until proven innocent practices when it comes to non-custodial parents. I am tired (and I thought DONE) with constantly defending and vindicating myself in these matters, which waste time, cause stress and are a continual annoyance. I want to set an example here and strike a note for the persecuted everywhere who are good NCP but still get the "deadbeat" treatment. I know I'm being idealistic and optimisitic here, but realism has been frustrating and aggravating. The system needs a shock to it, and I think they finally got me worked up enough. But, my question, is it possible to make a difference and win a suit?
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8/8/05
Name: bill
EMail: billhas4girls@aol.com
Question: i just moved from ma. to nh. should i go to a nh. court about my chid surport she lives in nh. too i pay her ever week but she keeps asking for more i pay her 250.00 a week and i just do not have any more i have to pay for my house and food and clothes for my other girls she does not work she does not want to please help and tell me something i can do thank you
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8/5/05
Name: jeff
EMail: scamper16j@aol.com
Question: supportcollectionmakeslifeunberable.lostemployment,gotreduction from98dollarsto60aweek.judge had order tohave thiscountyforjuristiction.now paying 158 weekly.they donot want to give me any back money i have paid.i cant pay biilsand donot feel that i even want to live anymore.are allthese fatwouman that work at suppot&collectin manhaighters.
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8/5/05
Name: jeff
EMail: scamper16j@aol.com
Question: supportcollectionmakeslifeunberable.lostemployment,gotreduction from98dollarsto60aweek.judge had order tohave thiscountyforjuristiction.now paying 158 weekly.they donot want to give me any back money i have paid.i cant pay biilsand donot feel that i even want to live anymore.are allthese fatwouman that work at suppot&collectin manhaighters.
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8/2/05
Name:
EMail: tiaunia_a@yahoo.com
Question: I know a single father whose resources are very limited as to locate several assistance programs within Dallas, Texas. He has been residing in Dallas for only a short time and has been faced with singled parenting abruptly in a flash. Whatever advice or mentoring you can provide would be most helpful. Thanks in advance! A concerned neighbor
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8/2/05
Name: sean hobbs
EMail: donnabyrne184@hotmail.com
Question: I am an unwed father who at the moment is going through hard times with my ex girlfriend who is the mother of my daughter. I need advice badly because she keeps saying she will not let me see the child anymore and demands most of the money i have every week, this is not much at all as i am currently out of work. Please someone help me as soon as you can.
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8/2/05
Name: Mike
EMail: grantorinosport73@msn.com
Question: My son is living with me on a court order for temp custody. What is the age a child in California can decide who he/she wants to live with?
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8/2/05
Name: Aaron
EMail: Christina42783@aol.com
Question: I have been paying child support on two children one 6 and one 7, i recently found out that both mothers cheated on me while the time they got pregant, the mothers said that the kids were mine. so i didnt take a DNA test and just signed the birth certificate. and now that i know this i ask if i can get a DNA and i cant unless the mothers say it ok, everytime i take them to court they say no that i cant get a DNA test done. Its not even so much about the money its knowing the truth. And its really hurting the love of my life. Does anyone have any ideas or answers for me? I live in Massachusetts
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8/1/05
Name: GARY
EMail: hongri@aol.com
Question: I am having a problem with the ex wife and non compliance to court ordered visitation. She is also collecting back child support for a child who never lived with her. Any one with any suggestions?
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7/30/05
Name:
EMail: pammsteel@hotmail.com
Question: will i ever see any child support for my 13 year old son? I have given info. to child support recov. for the past 10 years that i have had custody. nothing ever
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7/27/05
Name: a friend speaking for Don
EMail: kathy_ohara_1@hotmail.com
Question: They have not gone to court, as yet. The mother has the daughter and is not keeping in touch with father, he misses his daughter very much. The mother is in an abusive relationship with an ex-boyfriend. What would happen if the father took the daughter out of the home of this relationship? He is really worried about his daughter. If there is anything that you can tell me to help, PLEASE!!!!
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7/27/05
Name: DADDY4
EMail: TriciaT553@netscape.net
Question: my ex-girlfriend has my to daughters and is telling me she is going to take me to court and that she is going to get me for back child support but i never went to court with her so i didnt have to pay anything but i have been giving her money for the past two years and she also tells me that her laywer said that he will get 300$ a month out of me and i dont see how?
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7/27/05
Name: joe kappel
EMail: jkappel1007@yahoo.com
Question: i have 2 kids with a x glfrd we split i had a court order in place she couldn't go more then 45 miles from me and she crys out to a womens grp and says i threated her now shes 260 miles away..i haven't seen my kids in weeks..
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7/25/05
Name: Rich
EMail: rjhunnie@hotmail.com
Question: my 13 year old daughter would like to live with my but her mother will not let her. What should i do ???
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7/25/05
Name: Jonathan La Rue
EMail: larue_lge@yahoo.com
Question: PLEASE!! SOMEONE HELP!! I am currently a 21 year old trying to get custody of my 19 month old son. I dont have a lot of money but my lawyer is letting me make payments to him so I wont be even more stressed out but here's my situation. My wife of only 9 1/2 months left our home due to lack of communication between us and possibly, "another man"! Either way, we were only going to seperate for a month or so to think about our lives. We still hung out and talked alot, kinda like we were staring over. During the first month that her and my son was gone, we made a verbal agreement that she would have him for 1 week and then I would have him for 1 week and so on so forth. And we did that unitl the middle of June. Then I found out she had another boyfriend and of course I got mad because we were just letting each other have some time off from each other. Never was we supposed to date "OTHER PEOPLE". Well, needless to say, after I found out she had a boyfriend, she didnt want me to see Lance<~(thats my son), because she would be with her new boyfriend and she didnt want me to "damage" him. So, after numerous attempts to get my Lance, I decided that since she didnt want anything to do with me and there was no hope for us getting back together, I went and filed for divorce. Then she put a restraing order on me so that I would never be able to communicate or express our verbal agreement of letting me see my son. She claimed I tried to run her and my son off the road. We had to go to court about 3 weeks ago and I had to get a lawyer. I new that I didnt try to run them off the road but I had to prove to the judge that I didnt because it was her word against mine. But the judge asked her to describe the entire incident to her and so my wife told her every thing. Including what time it occured. Well, I knew that question might pop up so I got a Notorized copy of my time card through my HR dept. at work and presented that on my behalf. It stated that I got off of work at 5:42 pm and the incident occured at 6:00 pm "ON THE DOT". And after the judge examined the document and thought it over, she knew that there was no possibe way for me to go more than 30 miles from my work and on Friday rushour traffic and road construction in that area within 15 minutes. So the judge dropped that charge but kept the restraing order on me and then placed one on her I guess for the HELL of it. The judge granted me weekend visitation rights for the first and third Fridays of every month and during the summer months I woulkd get him for two week. Well, since our court date, my wife has not let me see my child nor talk to him. She said, "that I was not going to get him and she didnt care what the judge said." I want to do everything that I can that is legal and by the law. I understand that she is in Contempt of Court by not allowing me to see Lance during our court appointed visitations times. But during every visitation that I am supposed to recieve and she denies me, I get a county cop to make a case/report on my behalf stating that I did try to pick up my son and have failed to do so and then when I go to Divorce Court, I will have all my ducks in a row showing that I am trying to obey the law do whats right and just trying to see my child. On another note, we have seperate bank accounts but my wife stole my check book and wrote over $800.00 worth of checks and forged my signature to them. I really wasnt going to do anything about it but after she denied me the oppertunity,"THE RIGHT", to see my child, I turned it over to our County District Attorney's Office. My account has already been reimbursed for the deliquent checks. Does anyone have and idea what the chances of me getting custody or at least 50/50 joint custody of Lance is? My prayers are with all the good fathers in this world wanting whats best for their children. !!PLEASE RESPOND SOON!! Jonathan La Rue
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7/24/05
Name: Doug
EMail: doogi48@yahoo.com
Question: I have to write an affidavit about my self for seperation and i don't know what they are looking for can you help.
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7/22/05
Name: Howard
EMail: sosoeez@aol.com
Question: I owe my wife whom i'm still married arrears of over $20,000.Do i owe her the money or Public Aid? Because she agreed to go to court with me to get it rescinded?
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7/20/05
Name: Kenny
EMail: tmikelorri@sstelco.com
Question: I'm 16 yrs old and my girlfriend is trying to get child surpport from me and I dont have a job yet. I told her I wanted her to get a DNA test done to make sure the baby is mine and she said she doesnt have to. My name is one the birth cert. and she said thats all she needs, but they mis spelled my name and dont even have the right place where I was born. Does that matter and what should I do about her trying to get surpport from me?
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7/15/05
Name: So Lost
EMail: k_estepp@earthlink.net
Question: I have a 6 year old step-daughter who I am having a hard time understanding and maintaining even a decent relationship. This creates HUGE rifts between her mother and I and I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions as to resources for me? I didn't have a father growing up and I feel so lost as where to begin